How to make yourself more stable and more purposeful?

Mature and steady is to do things decently, to deal with things very sensibly and wisely, to be stable is not frizzy, to do things are well thought out, the kind of man who considers things comprehensively, but also includes a temperament, the kind of majestic feeling that men deliberately have, the kind that can be relied on, most girls like this, except for a few people.

How to be mature and steady?

Face yourself properly.

Know that you are not mature enough, and admit that you are not mature enough. You must know yourself objectively and know what is bad and what is good in your temperament. To be able to see your own shortcomings is that you first have to see yourself clearly.

Increase experience, accumulate and summarize experience (important points).

It's a long-term project that can't be done overnight, and there's no one to help you. And that's basically what you have to go through, many, many things. Have more contact with more mature people, abandon children like a day to know that you know to play and know to look at women's friends as the side, deal with mature people more, talk to them more, socialize, do things, learn their style of doing things, and learn from each other's strengths.

At this time, you will find that you are not as good as them in terms of speech and behavior, and you just can't "hit the shot" to explain the problem and express your opinion. Here, you have to practice a lot, and now you can make mistakes, you can say and do more, and don't worry about making mistakes and don't say or do it, so you never know what's right. So when you say do more, and at the same time summarize yourself **insufficient,**no, summarize yourself...

That's the experience. This is the path to maturity ...

Calm down and think quickly.

Whatever happens, you need to be calm, thoughtful, and quick to envision multiple solutions and the consequences of their implementation. In case of trouble, women will only face the current problems, while we men must not only think about the present, but also think about the future. Think about what you think about and think about it thoroughly, but you can't think about it for too long...

It's very simple: calm your mind.

To change in many ways:

1. To learn from the adults around you, to see how they treat people, to give people a sense of stability, frizzy always give people the feeling of immaturity, children.

2. Control the speed of your speech. Say whatever you want, and you can't wait to say what you think, giving people the feeling of being naïve and immature, let the words stay on the tip of your tongue for a few seconds, and then say them, so that it is not easy to make mistakes, the speed of speech should be controlled, and you must use your brain more.

3. Change your walking posture. Children walk with bouncing or dancing hands, but have you seen a few mature and steady people who can walk with bright and empty hands, and even many postures with a performance nature?

4. Change your way of thinking, if you want to become mature, you must change your thinking form, you must think thoughtfully, don't just think about yourself, if you are always self-centered, it is obviously a child's style.

5 change their dressing habits, although the fashion is tender, at every turn to raise the tongue and speak angrily, but if you want to become mature and pure, you should start from changing the word feeling that you feel the habit of dressing, not necessarily have to be a suit and leather shoes, sit in a dangerous position, but at least not too naïve, beggars, crop tops and quietly burn will not give people a sense of maturity.

It's useless for you to pretend to be very stable, because people who know how to do it can actually see it at a glance, so I suggest that you just be true to yourself.

People who are naturally stable must exist, but in my opinion, most people do not have the term "natural stability", even if we look at some celebrities, when they are young, they also have various conditions that youth should have, but as the years go through and experience more and more things, people will become different.

Usually when you are young, you will have so many characteristics, you love to be showy, like to make a fuss, you are competitive, you are impulsive, you start to do it after listening to 1, and you completely ignore 234, and after doing it, you find that it is completely in two aspects, many people, with the growth of experience, and become precipitated, and the other part of the people, has been continuing the habits of youth, then the class of these two parts of the people, soon changed, part of the leadership position, part of the continued his income, So how do we make ourselves stable?

It's very simple, before doing things, think about 123 in your heart first, and then do it, sometimes it is not necessarily that you will reach the finish line early if you make a stupid mistake, plan first, and it is easier to win the race. In fact, many times, people who are not shocked on the surface are also stormy in their hearts, but after experiencing a lot of things, everyone learns to hide their emotions, no matter how big the matter, we always have to face it, why don't we face it in a better way? Therefore, if you calm down and be a stable person, you will have a better choice.

Make yourself more steady, talk less, work more, be happy and <>

When you do anything yourself, you should think about it first and do it in a down-to-earth manner.

People's experiences, exercises, frustrations, struggles, knowledge, materials, and interpersonal relationships will naturally mature when they accumulate to a certain extent, unless you mess around every day.

1.To read more, this is absolutely no problem, the more you read, the more you will find your own shortcomings, whether it is mathematical knowledge or famous literature, people who respect knowledge will not be too frivolous. But don't swallow dates at a glance and ten lines, so that no one will be arrogant like Fan Wei.

Fan Wei dropped out of high school as soon as he claimed to have read 10,000 books in three years, but he didn't know anything about it, but he was very arrogant.

2.Be humble, always admit your weaknesses and shortcomings, no matter what you are good at, there will still be people who are better than you, recognize this, and add a spirit of enterprising learning, you will be able to make great progress and become more stable. Fan Wei is 24 years old this year, he doesn't know what modesty is, he looks like he wants to live every day, and his thinking level is still at the junior high school level, which is pitiful.

Reading, Experience, Know, Act.

Answer, analyze from the description, before speaking or doing things, think about the result clearly, and then say or do again, and after slowly forming a habit, you will develop a steady and down-to-earth attitude.

Do you live a solid life? Have you ever wondered: how can you have it? Today, Mr. Wu will share 3 points with you, simple but not simple, click on it to take a look!

Good at observation, that is, observing words and feelings. To be good at listening is to be good at listening to a friend, "Listening is an art, and its first principle is to listen attentively to what the other person is saying. In fact, if you hear one and know ten, you must listen to it and examine it carefully.

In addition to the detailed review, there must be a reaction, not all of them use words, but also with the help of expressions, curiosity and surprise, which will make the other party talk a lot, so that the other party will have a good impression of you. "Be good at following the advice of others, and being good at following others will make the other person feel that you respect his opinion, and at the same time the other person will respect your advice. "Be kind to others, warm as a cloth."

We must not be happy with the sad and do not laugh at the crying. Don't be discreet with frustrated people. "Good praise, praise makes others happy and does not show traces.

Shanzan needs to do what he likes, poke your shield with your spear, and play a little humor in the witty rhetoric, pleasing others and pleasing himself. ”

In short, these are inseparable from a "wide".

There are a lot of them, all of which are my own experiences in dealing with the world, and I won't list them all because of time. Friends above these first regrets and failures slowly experienced. You will become mature in the future of your life!

First of all, you are not steady in doing things because you are not mature enough. When I first entered the society, I was also very unstable and couldn't hold my breath when doing things, but now that I have experienced more things, I have matured.

In fact, you are not stable now, mainly because you have just entered the society, you have not encountered too many complicated things, and you have few contact with things, and there are few opportunities to deal with problems independently, which leads to your instability.

So, you have to be mature. Only when you do more things, solve problems independently, summarize yourself more, and learn from wrong things, can you gradually become mature. People who have just entered the society have always been a stone with horns and horns, and as they have experienced more things, they have become more experienced and know how to deal with people; In addition, communicate with others, learn from the experience of others, and ask more seniors with more qualifications than their skills and abilities, and you will become stable, just like a stone that has been sharpened down (smooth).

It's a process that's slowly changing, but there are a few details that I must talk about from my own experience

Well, the first point is, quit your mantra of encountering big things, what should I do? It's so troublesome. Wait a minute.

The second point is to tell yourself that when you encounter anything, you have to tell yourself that a person lives one day at a time, not one thing to live for a few days.

The third point is that you can ask people when you encounter something, but speak slowly, thinking that those people can help you, and don't complain about those who can't help you.

Come little by little, people are growing slowly. Take on more responsibilities and experience more things.

Doing things = being people.

This is exercised and accumulated through experience.

It is advisable to read books on interpersonal communication to help you think about your own behavior and the behavior of others.

After experiencing some things, you will naturally be mature and stable, and how can you see a rainbow without experiencing the wind and clouds.