What should I pay attention to when meeting my father in law?

Updated on society 2024-05-24
16 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    It's not called a meeting, it's called a visit, a visit!! 1 Generous 2 Polite 3 Humble 4 Steady 5 Dress righteously, neatly, cleanly, and appropriately 6 Speak moderately, solemnly and evenly, methodically, insightfully, thoughtful Listen more and talk less The topic should be around him or their family Less about you personally Don't interrupt others Don't interrupt others to add a sentence or two at the right time Or sigh or praise Don't ask him questions about economics and management 7 Sit upright but not informal, always maintain a gentle smile and vigorous spirit, give people vigor and vitality, don't sit still, have eyesight, don't work hard, and are not lazy 8. When talking about your work, you should show your enthusiasm and enthusiasm for your work Tell him that it is okay to work, that the leader cares, that colleagues are united, and that you are still working hard 9. If you have a meal, do not smoke or drink alcohol Don't eat too fast or too slow Pay attention to take care of the elderly during the banquet, pour wine from others, and store water Say goodbye to the old man at the right time after the meal Say goodbye to the old man when you leave and say that you are young If there is something wrong with talking and doing things, please forgive the old man The next time I have the opportunity to visit them again The old man wants to send it Just say ask them to rest Please stay and so on If you behave like this It is estimated that you will talk about marriage It's going to be on the agenda sooner Good luck, I wish you success, I wish you happiness.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Whether a person can succeed or not requires many conditions, among which one's own conditions account for the majority, family conditions and external conditions account for a part, and luck accounts for a part. You can measure what you have and show him what you have.

    For him, success stories are very important, success is no big or small, as long as you have succeeded, he will consider it.

    Fully understanding yourself is the prerequisite for success, and it is very necessary for you to learn more social knowledge, management knowledge, and business knowledge. You can start with these places.

    Needless to say, respect for the elderly, you also know how to respect him. But one thing you forget is that the person this old man is most worried about and loves the most is your wife, and their main thing is not how polite you are to him, but whether you treat his daughter as he expects. He loved and cared for his daughter as much as he did.

    If so, then he will rest assured that he will marry his daughter to you, and seeing his daughter's happiness, his evaluation and treatment of you will naturally be different. Maintain a good mindset. Believe in yourself.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Needless to say, respect for the elderly, you also know how to respect them. But one thing you forget, these two old people, the person they are most worried about and love the most is your wife, and their main thing is not how polite you are to them, but whether you treat their daughter as they expect. Like them, they love their daughters.

    If so, then they will rest assured that they will marry their daughter to you, and seeing their daughter's happiness, their evaluation and treatment of you will naturally be different.

    Remember to help your mother-in-law do some housework at the right time, of course, she is not Hui let you do it, but you also have to behave diligently, speak is to remember to be gentle, if something happens, to treat it as your own family business, when you have to learn a certain degree of obedience, don't behave too manly, mother-in-law is very taboo such a man, father-in-law, you have to talk to him about work, and then talk about his career or something, so that he thinks you are very motivated, very ambitious, Of course, don't forget to talk about your achievements or potential in the industry, generally this must be said, pay attention to moderation, don't let the old man think that you are frivolous, stability is what you always have to show, and the rest is just do it yourself.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Naturally generous, you can do it yourself.

    Ask you what to say, don't talk if you don't ask, what should you do, if your father-in-law is difficult for you, hurry up and signal your girlfriend to help you out.

    Speak fluently, don't go to the scene to catch blind.

    Specifically, you can't smoke and you can't drink too much when drinking;

    You are not allowed to sit at the door, you have to stand, not to be an east-facing seat;

    Bring some gifts, come according to your preference, and bring some fruit in them.

    In fact, what should I do, no one can say well, no one knows what temper my father-in-law has, if you don't get oil and salt, just wait for the damage, the main thing is to discuss with your girlfriend, your girlfriend is determined to marry you, and your father-in-law can't help it. Be careful with your girlfriend lately.

    It's not a big deal, just go with a heart that will die.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Politeness is certain, but you can't let him too much, otherwise you will suffer in the future, and it may also depend on the person, so you'd better improvise.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    In short, don't contradict him, even if he is wrong, he should turn a deaf ear. As long as you are not misled.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    2 words natural 3 words ordinary heart.

    If you're too fake, the old man can see it at a glance, and I don't need to say the details, they're not children.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Sell more gifts and talk less personal experience.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Talk and behave steadily, talk less, work more, have a little eye color, don't sit in the house, see what work your mother-in-law has, even if it is peeling a green onion and patting a garlic, you have to be active When you eat, the old man doesn't talk about drinking, so don't mention this After pouring the wine, of course, you give the old man to the old man If he has to pour you wine, he will take the glass in both hands and take the wine respectfully, and then say something on the ground, don't say more, after drinking this cup, depending on the mood of the old man, he wants to drink slowly, you will slowly accompany him, he will drink fast, you will drink slowly, and persuade him to drink less Show that you don't drink well Remember, when you are not married or just married, you must be cautious, live with your tail between your legs, and when you have children, you can be a little arrogant, hehe.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Before meeting the parents, you should first touch their bottoms, ask your partner how her dad is character, how her mom is personality, etc., and know what they like, so that when you meet for the first time, you can prepare gifts and know how to chat.

    The first time you go to the other party's house to meet your parents, you must not go empty-handed, so what kind of gift to buy? I think it's just a matter of choosing what you like. First of all, if her dad likes chess, then you buy a good chess deck, and then buy some nutrition, fruits, milk, etc.

    In short, try to have about five things, so that you and your object are carried in each hand, and it looks like a lot.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Manly. No matter when and where, act spontaneously and calmly. The old man is not so scary, there is no need to be too subdued.

    Even if it's deliberately difficult, you have to be neither humble nor arrogant, talk eloquently, and still have to say the old man's words, or else, it feels a little bit of distance... However, if you really can't say it, you don't have to force it. Don't worry, no one wants to express their opinions about such a small matter and delay their daughter's love...

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    1. Time. It's better to go in the morning of the day, not in the evening, of course, it depends on the consciousness of your future parents-in-law, which is a general etiquette, to show respect, and to imply that you are a hardworking person, because my parents are from large families, especially this is said.

    2. Speak politely. When chatting with the woman's parents, be sure to smile more and be polite. If you have a different opinion from the woman's parents, don't rush to refute it first, otherwise you will think that you are not easy to get along with.

    3. Communicate more with your father-in-law. You can communicate more with the woman's father. The daughter is the mother's little padded jacket, generally the first time you meet, the girl will be with the mother, you have to learn to communicate more with the woman's father, give the other party a deeper understanding of you.

    4. Go to the appointment on time. When you are going to go to the woman's house, then you must arrive on the same day. If it is before noon, then you must go to the woman's house in the morning, and if you arrive in the afternoon, the woman will think that the boy is impolite and unpunctual.

    5. Prepare gifts. "Many people are not to blame", this is what our country has always paid more attention to. Moreover, the first time the man's parents go to the woman's house, some necessary etiquette should be done sufficiently, and bringing more gifts can show their attention and love for the woman, and the woman's parents will like it very much when they see it.

    Otherwise, it will leave a bad impression on the woman's parents of "picking the door".

    6. Pay attention to dressing up. The image should be good, although you don't need a suit and leather shoes, but at least you have to wear a human-like look, not too sloppy, and don't dress like a "flower girl", so the first feeling for people is that it is unreliable.

    7. Stabilize your emotions. Confident, sincere, generous, and definitely welcome; Hypocrisy, twisting and pinching, will inevitably be disliked. With self-confidence, tension will gradually calm down.

    8. Don't drink alcohol. Don't drink too much alcohol during meals. When eating at the other party's house, don't be lazy, take the initiative, you can go to the kitchen to serve food, and you can also help clean up the dishes and chopsticks, which will give you extra points.

    Also, remember not to drink too much, at most two to three glasses.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    In this era, when a man goes to his girlfriend's house for the first time, he will inevitably be a little nervous, afraid that the other party's parents will not like him, but this is also a normal thing, after all, seeing his parents is a checkpoint that everyone has to go through. 1. No matter how nervous you are at the dinner table, your father-in-law and mother-in-law will always ask you some questions, don't ask what to say because you are too nervous, you can go and talk about others, you can't look embarrassed after speaking, let alone bury your head in eating, as the saying goes, "food is not a word", our Chinese tradition is to talk and laugh when eating, so that it can also be well integrated, otherwise the atmosphere will be very embarrassing. It's like your father-in-law and mother-in-law usually ask you if the food is appetizing, at this time, you don't just say this:

    Delicious and appetizing! You still have to pay attention to certain skills when speaking! Maybe you haven't eaten much because you're nervous, but you also have to show that it's delicious, so to speak

    Auntie, your craftsmanship is really good, it is exactly the same as what Zhi Kaixiang and my family make, it is very delicious! It's very much to my liking, I really want to be able to eat it every day, etc., don't be blunt, this dish is salty, that soup is hot, which will leave a bad impression on my father-in-law and mother-in-law. There is always something to drink at the dinner table, and we, as young people and juniors, should also pay attention when toasting, even if we don't drink, even if we drink drinks, we must have basic etiquette, which may be very difficult, but this is a major event in your life, so the first glass of wine must be for you to toast them, don't wait for them to come to you so impolite, you must know how to respect.

    2. Don't be too idle The current post-marriage routine is, "the male protagonist is outside the female protagonist", that is, the man works hard outside and is responsible for supporting the family, and the woman tidies up her daily life at home, so the woman generally takes on most of the things at home, and the man can eat when he comes back from work, or lie directly on the sofa to rest, and is unwilling to deal with the family with the woman. But if the father-in-law and mother-in-law see that you are always sitting, then they may think that they are marrying their daughters after all, and they have not said it now, so how hard it will be for their "heart and liver baby" to marry in the past, and they will be very distressed, so the man must pay attention to this. As a man, be generous and take the initiative, for example, after eating, you can clean up the dishes and chopsticks next to you, although this is a small action, but it is of great significance, because it will give a good impression to the other party's parents, feel that you are a very sensible and polite child, and your daughter will be very relieved to marry in the past!

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Go, unless it is a considerable distance in the case of discretionary disposal.

    Chinese customs: Dragon Boat Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival son-in-law must go to the mother-in-law's house, but also bring gifts, as for the gift may be different before and after marriage, this is also a kind of life, but also a kind of family affection, of course it is worth doing.

    The Dragon Boat Festival, together with the Spring Festival, Qingming Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival, is known as the four traditional festivals of Chinese folk. The Dragon Boat Festival culture has a wide influence. In May 2006, it was included in the first batch of national intangible cultural heritage list; Since 2008, it has been listed as a national holiday.

    In September 2009, UNESCO officially approved its inclusion on the Representative List of the Intangible Cultural Heritage of Humanity, making the Dragon Boat Festival the first festival in China to be included in the World Intangible Cultural Heritage List.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Personally, I don't think people should give you a gift that is high or low on you. So don't worry too much about the weight of the gift, do what you can! It's good that the heart has arrived.

    is neither humble nor arrogant, just treat them as the elders of your own family in your heart, and it is not beautiful to do something deliberately! 2000 yuan is OK, buy some tea, a big gift box of wine, or something. Good luck.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It is necessary to please the mother-in-law, you can pass your mother-in-law's pass, there is no problem on your father-in-law's side, it is recommended to buy some health products, the mother-in-law will have to spend some thought, it is recommended to buy bricks or gold, of course, with sweet words, talk more, everyone loves to listen to good words, and women will never get tired of listening to praise, I hope it can help you!!

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