Patriarchy has long been outdated, why do boys are raised by mothers in law?

With the progress of the times, parents are paying more and more attention to the status of girls in the family. Especially the fathers, many of them are daughter slaves, and they are very good for their daughters.

I watched a ** two days ago, and my mother gave birth to triplets, one of which is a daughter. Dad is a full daughter control, when the whole family goes out together, he only holds his daughter's hand, and the two sons follow behind. Mom smiled and said

It seems that a daughter was born, and two sons were giveaways. Although it is a joke, it also reflects that many people like girls now.

Why is this so? There are mainly these reasons:

First, the daughter is cute and caring.

Daughters often have a very cute image, especially when they are young, and the whole person is carved with jade bracelets, so that parents or other people look pleasing to the eye, and they especially like it.

And we all have the impression that girls are more precocious, often 1 or 2 years older than boys of the same age, so sensible early. While many boys are playing with mud and fighting, girls are already able to help with household chores and care for their parents, and there is a big difference between the two.

When the daughter grows up, she will become more and more considerate of her parents, for example, after college, the daughter will often help with housework when she comes home, while the son may lie on the sofa when he comes home, and he doesn't care about anything, the contrast is obvious.

Therefore, many parents say: I hope that there is a good girl who can serve by my side when she is old.

Second, there is an imbalance in the ratio of men and women.

For a long time, according to census data, boys traveled tens of millions more than girls each year, and this gap has gradually decreased in recent years, but boys are still born more than girls.

In the future, it will be more and more difficult for boys to marry wives and children, and the family will have to prepare certain material conditions, such as a bride price, a house and a car. In some rural areas, it is better to marry a son's daughter-in-law by hundreds of thousands or even millions, and it can be said that the economic pressure is very great.

Therefore, many people say: the daughter is China Merchants Bank, and the son is China Construction Bank. As competition becomes more fierce in the future, girls will become more popular, and boys will be under more pressure.

3. Education of girls.

According to our traditional thinking, it is believed that only boys can inherit the family name and inherit the family name, so the idea of preference for sons over daughters is more serious. In the past few decades of reform and opening up, everyone has gradually realized the problem of preference for sons, and parents have paid more and more attention to the education of their daughters, so the status of girls has also quietly changed.

In particular, there are many girls who are no less successful than boys in various fields, and even women do better than boys, so the perception of female image is gradually changing. Those who have daughters are often proud to be able to raise an excellent daughter.

At the end of the day, whether it's a boy or a girl, it's not up to parents to decide, but what we can decide is how to educate our children. If you educate well, whether it is a son or a daughter, you will be very productive.

This is prejudice, many parents think that the boy will please the mother-in-law in every possible way, even better than his own mother, this is the idea of the small people in the market, it is really the son-in-law who is particularly good to the mother-in-law, indicating that the education of parents is good.

Because some boys are typical of "having a daughter-in-law and forgetting their mother", after getting married, they only have their wives and her family in their eyes, and often take their wives and children back to their mother-in-law's house together.

Because now if a boy wants to marry a girl, he must first please his mother-in-law, so it is better to his mother-in-law than his mother-in-law.

This is because after a boy gets married, he will especially like to show himself in front of his mother-in-law, and his mother-in-law also likes to call boys.

Because in today's society, boys generally have to buy a house at the request of their mother-in-law if they want to marry a wife.

Times are changing, and many families have gotten rid of the idea of preference for sons, but there are still families who are still troubled by the idea of preference for sons. Although some women are very diligent and sensible since childhood, it is difficult to get the approval of their parents, and they may not be happy in their marriage after marriage, so they may deeply hate their parents' patriarchal thinking. If you are a daughter and your parents usually prefer sons over daughters, will you provide for them when they are old?

1. I won't provide for my parents, because I have never been treated.

In the eyes of some women, it is sad that they live in a patriarchal family, and their parents may not treat them well since they were young, and they are quite partial to their younger brothers, and if they do something wrong, they may reprimand or even scold them loudly. In the long run, there may be such an idea, since the parents are so unkind to themselves, then when the parents are old, they will let their younger brother provide for them, and they will not take care of it.

In the eyes of some women, because their parents' patriarchal thinking has had a great impact on their growth, and even left a shadow on themselves for a lifetime, they will not provide for their patriarchal parents in the future.

2. Will provide for his parents, just to repay the kindness of parenting, not because of filial piety.

In the eyes of some women, their parents have been patriarchal since childhood, so they have to experience all kinds of grievances when they are young, which leads to no deep feelings between them and their parents. But when the parents are old, they will provide for them, but not because of their filial piety, but just to repay their parents' nurturing kindness.

After all, his life is given by his parents, and it is not easy to raise himself, even if his parents are not good to him, but he will not abandon himself. Therefore, when the parents are old, they will provide for their old age, just as a reward for the kindness of nurturing, and filial piety will be forgotten, because after all, the parents did not give themselves a lot of love, and they just did this to make their hearts more comfortable in the future.