Are Southerners all patriarchal? Why do some people prefer sons over daughters?

How could it be just the South!

Why does patriarchy occur? It depends on the level of productivity and the manner.

In the case of agriculture as the main means of livelihood, the ability of men to work far exceeds that of women; Second, women are traditionally married to their in-laws, and a family is expected to lose their labor. So, in an environment that relies on labor to make a living, as a parent, do you want to produce male or female offspring?

But with the improvement of productivity, the family begins to be rich, as parents and elders, do you want your offspring to go out one by one to work hard to make money, or do you want to have a caring little padded jacket to accompany you? Hehe, I'm afraid that the patriarchal state will change.

The mode of production also plays an important role. For example, factories were formed in the era of industrialization. Many jobs are not suitable for men.

For example, assembly line, textile industry, commerce, service industry, etc. As these units, it is actually a preference for women over men. And as a parent, when a daughter can also make money like a son, do you want to always have a bull and a donkey by your side or a good daughter?

Do you want to have a hand-off son who wants money and a house in the future, or... Unless you have to fight a lot, I'm afraid that the preference for sons will also change.

In fact, in economically developed areas, in addition to the influence of traditional concepts, the preference for choosing a daughter as the only child has quietly emerged.

Southern ultrasound is already a common thing, knowing that the baby girl is born and thrown away or directly beaten. Guangdong also eats babies born by Liu.

Almost, of course, it's all patriarchal.

There are about four types of preference for sons.

The first type: there are children and daughters, daughters have food and drink but no money, long-term investment is zero, anyway, sooner or later you have to get married, and the people who marry out spill the water, anyway, we don't want you to raise them. So my daughter is indifferent, doesn't care about her mother's family, shakes her head when she asks, I don't know, I don't have money, don't look for me.

Result: It's useless to have a daughter, it's better to have a son. This kind of daughter is called "white-eyed wolf".

The second type: having children and daughters, ignoring all kinds of exploitation and abuse of daughters, but hoping that daughters will return to the family, blindly instilling filial piety and the idea that women are inferior to men. So in order to prove that she is useful, the daughter desperately tries to be good to her parents, brother and brother.

Result: It really worked to have a daughter, and it was not in vain. This kind of daughter is called "Voldemort".

The third type: I have no children and daughters, and I have the mentality that there is no pressure to raise a daughter, anyway, there is no way to go in life, and I don't have to work hard. Therefore, her daughter Qiao Xiaohu lacks long-term planning, and her life is often ordinary.

Result: It's useless to have a daughter, it's better to have a son. This kind of daughter is known as "Liao Shengwu".

The fourth type: no children and daughters, with the mentality of raising a daughter according to a child, who said that women are not as good as men, sons can be daughters as well, and tomboys are also very good. So my daughter is shrewd and capable, but she doesn't look like a little padded jacket.

Result: It really worked to have a daughter, and it was not in vain. This kind of daughter is called a "military coat".

Summary: Most of them are either indifferent on the surface and pessimistic on the inside, or the surface and weak on the inside.

The patriarchal mentality in our country has been handed down since ancient times.

In fact, the main reason for the patriarchal ideology has a lot to do with society. In the past, this patriarchal thinking was more prominent, but now because with the gradual improvement of the level of economy and culture, many people have gradually opened up their minds and gradually lost this patriarchal thinking, but there will still be some people whose thinking is stagnant.

So what is the relationship between patriarchal ideology and society?

First, work. In fact, in many jobs, men have a greater advantage than women. For example, the computer industry, the catering industry, high-risk operations and many other hard-working industries, because for women, men are more able to endure hardships and have more physical strength, so Party A will generally be more willing to recruit male employees.

Secondly, women will have pregnancy leave, which is approved by the state, which is easy to delay the process of work, and women are more likely to be swayed by feelings and not decisive enough.

Second, the inheritance of feudal ideas. The feudal thinking of the ancients has such an ancient saying "the daughter who marries out, spills the water", that is to say, raising a daughter is to lose money, including hard work for more than 20 years, and finally after getting married, it will be someone else's family, if it is an adopted son, not only will not lose money, but will also include a new member. Therefore, for this kind of feudal thinking, it is to think that raising a daughter is to lose money and raising a son is to make money.

There is a saying in the ancients that "raising children to prevent old age" is actually derived from the feudal mentality, raising a daughter loses money, and raising a child makes money. In fact, in the final analysis, it is also because people in ancient times had a difficult life, so they had such ideas, and linked such ideas with society and life. But in fact, our society is much better now, and most people's thinking has changed, and there is no such thing as patriarchal thinking.

As for work, there are now many strong women who have broken this ambiguous view of women in terms of work.

As for the patriarchal thing, I have to say that my family still exists. This is very obvious, and it may have something to do with the family concept. I feel that in the whole big family, the uncles are more patriarchal.

In their ideology, they value boys very much and do not pay much attention to girls.

1.In the whole extended family, the preference for sons is quite obvious

Like my relatives, the family is still quite patriarchal. Let's take the matter of having a child as an example, the elders in the relatives family all want to have a boy, why? That's because they feel they prefer boys to girls.

When a relative's child gives birth to a boy, the relative is very happy, and when he meets people, he says, "A boy has been born; If you give birth to a girl, you will feel that your face is not shiny, and you don't want to mention it to others. Not to mention, this difference is really evident from birth.

2.Most of the elders tend to raise boys

Sometimes, parents who see a boy in their relatives will put more energy and money into educating their children. In their opinion, the boy is cultivated, and he can marry a daughter-in-law and children in the future, and pass on the lineage. As for girls, they don't pay much attention to it, thinking that no matter how well the girl is trained, she will marry someone else's family in the future, so she invests less.

Moreover, they are always very concerned about how the boys are developing, but they are not so concerned about how the girls are developing. This patriarchy is really obvious enough, especially when it comes to investment.

3.If a girl is excellent, she will be said to be excellent, what's the use?

I remember once, when I talked to the elders in the family, I said that the only daughter of the neighbor's family mixed very well, not only with high education and high income, but also made money to buy several houses. Hearing this, the elder in the family was very disdainful, saying that no matter how good he was, he was a girl, not a boy. I retorted:

It's true that she's a girl, but there's no denying that she's really good. At that time, when I heard what the elders said, it really made me angry, it was a boy, it was a girl, what was the difference, what age was it, or this old ideology. But then I thought about it, he said that, it was also sour, after all, his son was not half as good as his daughter, except for saying that he would talk about things, naturally there was nothing else to fight back.

Speaking of this patriarchy, I found that there is indeed one or two in the family, and it can be seen from the language and behavior of the elders. Then they value boys, don't they just favor boys? Whether it is parenting or education, boys will be given priority in all aspects, and girls will be so-so.

They believe that boys should be treated differently than girls.

Why patriarchy? No matter what country you go to, patriarchy is a phenomenon of preference, not to mention anything else, the status of women in the country is equal to that of women is higher, and the status of women in other countries is not as good. Which woman do you see who supports the family, puts the man at home, and goes out to earn money to support the family, saying that when she is older, she fights the world to protect the family and defend the country, or is the man who is the mainstay, so there are more people who prefer sons over daughters in general.

2. Economy. Human beings have evolved to develop a mindset that men have a natural advantage of being social.

Because men's physical strength is better than that of women, they can do better agricultural work, and in ancient times, they could get more returns for nurturing, and in the case of limited or even scarce resources, it also constituted the economic reason for the patriarchal mentality of parents.

The emphasis on patriarchy over women is a social concept of inequality between men and women, which values the rights and interests of men while characterizing women as subordinate to men and restricting their opportunities to develop their personal talents and personal freedom.

This concept is common in patriarchal societies and is often accompanied by the idea of the inferiority of men and the division of labor between women. The concept of preference for sons over daughters can also affect parents' willingness to have boys and girls, for example, in ancient Chinese divination, it was regarded as a blessing to have a boy and a girl to be unhappy.

Some languages also exhibit patriarchal thinking. For example, in Chinese, "women's opinion" refers to the pre-judgment of people who have no knowledge, and "women's benevolence" refers to benevolence regardless of the overall situation, which contains the meaning of despising women's intelligence.

Personally, I think that although equality between men and women has been advocated now, there are still many people who still prefer sons over women. It is mainly manifested in the following points:

First, he advertised that he treated his son equally, but he was deliberately biased towards his son in action.

Second, pamper the daughter and give the property to the son. On the surface, he regarded his daughter as the pearl of his palm, but in fact, he deprived his daughter of her inheritance rights, and even started the idea of her daughter's color code gift, and did not hesitate to sacrifice her daughter's happiness in order to get more money. Third, he accommodates his daughter in small things, and helps his son in big things.

Fourth, he asked his daughter to support his old age, but used the money given by his daughter to subsidize his son.

Summary: Although the idea of patriarchy is deeply rooted in China, it is the dregs of traditional culture after all, and I need to abandon it. Parents must constantly correct themselves in thinking and behavior, so that every child can grow up healthy and happy.

Each has its own ideas. Some people prefer daughters.

I think my son can support myself, but my daughter can't.

Deeply influenced by traditional thinking, I always think that boys can pass on the lineage, and girls are people from other people's families after all.

Don't ponder some unnutritious problems to confuse yourself and other people's affairs, don't worry about it, and don't try to change other people's minds.