It s hard to change yourself! I want to change myself!

Can I know how old you are this year? What about gender?

I was very similar to you before my freshman year, but in my sophomore year, I found that growing up under the care of my parents, my self-control, hands-on ability, judgment, courage, imagination, self-confidence, etc. were greatly constrained, and I was more unconfident and negative.

One winter vacation, when we were drinking with my father, we both drank a lot, and I told them all my thoughts with the strength of the drink, and I also gave them many examples of not adapting to school life. After my father and I had a big fight at the wine table, my father was a little remorseful and knew the consequences of doting. Since then, even though he still wants to use his mind to control me, I have politely refused.

Now, I have graduated, and he wants to arrange a job for me, but I officially refuse, because I am mature, I have my own thoughts, and I am an adult.

Find an appropriate time, talk to your father or mother (the family says the most), talk to them alone, talk to them about your thoughts and consequences and your current psychology (illness), parents love their children, after talking, they will give you autonomy appropriately, but they will not let go immediately, just appropriate.

Remember, when you communicate, you must talk to the most important person in the family, and don't talk to your parents when they are there, and you have to take the initiative to talk to them, and you can't wait for them to talk when you make mistakes and when they criticize you, because at that time they are very angry, very emotionally unstable, and can't listen to you. Don't forget!

Oh, a lot of articles like this, I'm talking about the same, that is, today's children just have a choice of the future and the future in the present, one has the right to choose, one doesn't, the current parents don't give their children the right to create the future, you can do what you like within your freedom, that's the only answer, and there is one, create your own future, but the family is supported by the ministry, so this road is difficult to walk, if it succeeds, it's easy to say, it doesn't work... Needless to say, I'm also choosing.

Relax, relax, untie the rope wrapped around yourself, and let your heart fly.

Learn the actions in "Who Calls the Shots in My Youth", but you may have to pay a heavier price than them.

Don't think about the long term, just study hard. By the way, change the password for your Q.

Don't change and play to your strengths.

People's personalities are really strange, my personality is similar to yours, very straight, people who like it dig out their hearts and lungs, and people who don't like it don't like to look at it. This kind of personality can only get along well with a small number of people, and many people will think that you are not easy to get along with. will stay away from you.

I don't know how old you are, but the younger you are, the better it is to recognize the weaknesses in your personality. After all, it's true that character determines fate.

I've changed a lot now, but it's really hard to change what is in my bones.

My method is:

1. Keep smiling and try to tell yourself that no matter who you meet, smile first and take the initiative to say hello, whether you like this person or not.

2. I don't know how you are, I react quickly, my mouth is fast, my words are straight, and I can easily hurt people, so I tell myself to think before I speak, and then talk about it.

3. Tell yourself that everyone has everyone's creation, thousands of people, whether it is scheming, whether it is braining, everyone's growth environment, education, work, etc. are different, so the way to think about problems is also different, mainly depends on the essence of a person, if you can't get along, you don't have to make deep friends, don't care too much, after all, it's good to know that life can be known. Remember, it is better to offend a gentleman than a villain.

4. Every night before going to bed, reflect on your performance that day, and keep encouraging yourself, which will definitely change after a long time.

Why are the stones in the water round? Washed by water, the stones have their edges and corners erased in order to survive in the water.

If we want to survive in this cruel society, we must change! Hope it helps you the same!

People's hearts are too complicated, no matter how much you love you, if you don't say it, who can know what you think in your heart. Not all efforts are rewarded, and the current society has replaced the equals sign with the greater than sign.

It's because you don't want to be held back by exams anymore and you want to be free!!

You feel like you're expected of everything, and the responsibility on your body makes you blame yourself!!

It's because you're too sensible, too valued by your family and your teachers, that you're so self-blaming!!

If you learn easily and no one forces you, maybe you will at least be happy to learn!

This is a normal psychological condition in adolescence, and it is necessary to know how to control yourself. Parents and teachers always want you to be the best, but no one is perfect. You have to learn to communicate with them.

It's not that you're ignorant, it's that there's too much pressure, and all the pressure makes you want to vent, but you can't find the right way to vent. Sometimes, don't keep your true thoughts in your heart, you might as well tell your parents and teachers, I am sure they will understand you, after all, they are also from this time. Don't resent them, and don't resent yourself.

Sometimes, emotions are uncontrollable, and often encourage yourself to believe that you will become as good as you were. Tell yourself: I can't be the best, but I can be the best version of myself.

It's time that changes you. People will grow up.

If you want to blame it on too many Chinese, the competitive pressure is too great, and you are deeply injured.

It's okay, you can come here and ask questions, it shows that you still have a positive mindset, that's a good sign, isn't it?

First of all, you have to be kind to the people around you who look for you, remember, compare your heart to your heart, how you treat others, others will do to you, there are very few people who will take revenge, first of all, smile at everyone.

Also, be diligent, don't be lazy, and do things diligently.

You can watch movies, TV series or something, see how they get along, you can learn a word, a positive attitude can make everything!

If there's anything you don't understand, feel free to ask!

Fundamentally, this is a matter of morality and values, and China has long had extremely correct views on this in ancient times, but it is a pity that the essence of tradition has not been well inherited in modern times. It is recommended to read the Tao Te Ching in detail.

Use a small notebook to write down what you think is lacking or what you don't think is good, and then ask yourself what you need to improve if you are doing well, and then change them one by one.

Don't aspire to change yourself, but change yourself for the better.

It's in a similar situation to me, but I've learned not to care about these things, and I'm still going to reach out to others......Don't care so much, you can be nice to whoever is good to you, don't be enthusiastic about anyone and don't be too indifferent......Just be yourself.

Be cheerful and take the initiative to step out, in fact, everyone is waiting for your return, not everyone is as you think about these things all day long, you will gradually find a happy life.

Why don't I be friends with you? Because you look down on me, you think that if you have money, you will have friends, I will disgust you, you don't even look for me, why should I please you? Besides, you are the same as worshipping money, do you want friends with wine and meat?

。。The above are my thoughts on you if you were my friend.

You can change your hairstyle and go on a trip, you can go to the grassland or go hiking.

In this world, the most difficult thing is not to change yourself, but to change others!

If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come, if you are wonderful, the sky will arrange it!

Instead of being melancholy in the anguish of changing others, it is better to change yourself first, change a mentality, change a way of thinking, and make yourself more self-disciplined and better, and your depression and melancholy will also be easily resolved.

Many times, we try to change others because we are not satisfied with ourselves, and then we always have the habit of blaming others for passing the blame, and all happiness should be won by ourselves, to work hard, to obtain.

Over the years, I have been dissatisfied with my life, including the state, and I am always obsessed, so that I often dream of endless exams and class questions, and I can't relax and let go in my dreams, and then my temper becomes more and more irritable, and then I always psychologically push the responsibility to Mr. Li, feeling that he is not working hard enough, or dragging me back, resulting in always quarrelling, in fact, I am not satisfied with myself, why blame others?

Organize your mood, plan your life, go out, see the vastness and grandeur of the world, meet new friends, open your own life state, open your heart, and believe that you will get better and better!

I can change the world and change myself!! Huai early I am changing myself, do you feel it around you, one day, you find that I have changed a lot, will you change because of this?

If you can't change others, change yourself! If you can't change things, change your attitude towards things! In this way, life will be much happier!

When we first got married, my husband and I often had some small frictions. Clothes are not hung up, slippers are not neatly arranged, and drinking cups are never covered with ......Such trivial things can always make us quarrel for three days and quarrel for two days. I often wonder why he can't change what he's reminded him of several times.

Is this little thing difficult? Are other people's husbands like this? ......Living in this "chicken feathers" every day, I feel that my happiness is almost gone, and I have slowly become a standard "little resentful woman", complaining and complaining with my girlfriends every day......I'm so afraid that the little happiness and romance I want will slowly wear away in this triviality!

Until one day, I habitually called my husband: Husband, help me clean up the garbage on my phone! My husband said:

Give me the phone! ”…It dawned on me that I also have many, many bad problems: I still can't remember how to clean up the garbage on my phone a hundred times?

How do you remind you when you drive? I can't always remember the QQ password......

My husband has no heart and lungs, and he won't be angry because of my stupidity, he always patiently teaches me over and over again, helps me reset my QQ password, and helps me clean up the garbage ...... my mobile phoneAnd I am unhappy and complain because I want too much, I want to try to change my husband, but I forget that our family background is different, and the environment in which we grew up is also different.

Yes, I don't have the right to change him, all I can do is to change myself, infect him through myself, and let him have the idea of taking the initiative to change himself. Now, the way we get along with each other has changed, I calmly accept some of his small flaws, and sometimes I will think about making fun of him: Your slippers stage "Feitian" at home every day, and I will call you "Feitian" brother in the future!

My husband replied to me: You can't tell the difference between left and right, so I'll call you "left and right sister" ......The days have become so much more interesting!

Don't complain! Don't complain! If you can't change others, change yourself! If you can't change things, change your attitude towards things! In this way, life will really be much happier!