I want to change myself and ask the experts for advice

How can there be an expert Your own path is destined How can other people's views on life suit you Do you think anyone in this world understands you You are asking here It's better to go home and talk to your parents They know you best They won't give you a detour You are in these few lines Everyone puts the great truth and philosophy of life on you What is the use of it It's like asking a doctor to prescribe medicine on the Internet I don't touch it I just talk about it Everyone is not familiar with you This kind of thing can't be said You don't just talk to a group of strangers and go through your life according to his words, you come to ask questions, you are idle, you really have nothing to do, you want to find something to do but don't know what to do.

Then you start with small things, start with what you can do, for example, now I don't have a job at home, I don't know what to do, it doesn't matter, but the main thing is to know what I shouldn't do, play games, and use time to do housework, don't say that you are a man, you can't do it, mop the floor, help your parents wash the dishes, the main thing is to cultivate this positive attitude towards life, so that you will love to find things to do day by day, for example, today I brush late, tomorrow I want to do the laundry, the day after tomorrow I want to go out for a run, and then these are all habits, don't have to think about it, and will naturally seek a job Don't always want to change your mind with your own actions, but when you don't know what to do, play games at home, play mobile phones, then you can only be the opposite of the above, is more and more negative, this is the habit, what you do today will determine whether the future will be good or bad, everything has to be little by little, just like making money, you can also make money from one cent to ten thousand, like a snowball, bigger and bigger, more and more clear about your goals, so why don't you think about what to do, just do what you want to do, the future will naturally be clear, although there are many things, but the reason is the same Do you give birth to all things Give a few examples, for example, those who practice martial arts are all Zama first There is no horse that is not stable and considers the moves and routines The ancients taught people to do good deeds and also said But do good deeds Don't ask about the future A little bit is good No one knows which way to go Maybe you will understand at the end There is a road that is different from everyone else that you are destined to take You can't change it You are crazy You are helpless You are confused It's all temporary When you calm down, you will understand How unnecessary there is to waste these 150 points Wakaka.

Get a job and get familiar with the society first, or spend a year learning a trade, so that you can gradually integrate into the society.

Many times, we are accustomed to complaining about others and hoping that others will change. In fact, if you want to change others, you must first change yourself.

Kai-Fu Lee said: Change what you have the ability to do, accept what you can't change, and have the ability to distinguish what can be changed and what can't be changed. Since you can't change others, you must change yourself first.

A lecturer is worrying about the draft of tomorrow's speech, while his youngest son is arguing. My father had no choice but to pick up an old magazine, tore a brightly colored illustration - a map of the world, into pieces, threw it on the ground, and said:"Son, if you can put this map together, I'll give you two coins.

The father thought that this would allow the child to spend the morning putting together illustrations, but after ten minutes, the son came to him again. The father couldn't believe his eyes, and was amazed to see his son put together a map of the world so quickly"Kid, how did you put together the map so quickly?

Ahh"The child said:"It's easy, there's a person's ** on the other side, and I'll put that person's ** together and turn it over. I think if this person is right, then the world is right. "

The father smiled and gave the child two coins. "You have prepared for me the title of tomorrow's talk: If a person is right, then his world will be right. "

It's hard to change the world, but it's easier to change yourself. In life, instead of changing others, it is better to change yourself first. When you change, the world in your eyes and the people around you will naturally change.

Life is your own, and every day and every bit of happiness you have to feel and capture by yourself. Changing oneself is twice the result with half the effort, and changing oneself is twice the result with half the effort. Believe in yourself, a better life starts from changing yourself!

Behind any attempt to change someone else must be because you don't believe in yourself, or you don't see what you're capable of.

Everyone who tries to change someone is trying to prove that someone else is wrong, that you are wrong, that I am right, that you have to listen to me. However, no one wants to admit that they are incompetent and failing, it is the instinctive will of life.

Since the purpose of changing others will be futile, can we change others? Yes, it is possible to change oneself to have a positive impact on others.

First, you have to let go of the judgment of right and wrong. Have you ever wondered why you're obsessed with proving that you're right and others are wrong? Because you don't accept others, you reject others, there are certain characteristics or practices in other people that make you feel uncomfortable, you feel that they shouldn't exist and that they must be eliminated.

When you no longer want to prove right or wrong, it means that you no longer reject others, there is no hostility, you are sincere. When you do this, the person will definitely feel respected, and this non-hostile request will make people relaxed, not make people more vigilant and defensive. And you, too, have taken a crucial step to change others.

Secondly, when you are really busy with the realization of your self-worth, you will naturally take the power back from others and focus it on yourself, and you will gain a true self, take responsibility for yourself, live for yourself, and the vitality of this activated life is itself full of influence, because it is thriving and vibrant. This means that you don't think it's so important whether someone else changes or not, it's better if he changes, and if he doesn't change, it won't affect you anything, because your focus is not on others, it's on yourself.

The amazing thing is that when you do this, others can also feel it, and then what you pass on to him is no longer the pressure to force change, but a kind of self-change motivation that is infected by your life force. Everyone wants to be better, and all life has the potential for upward pursuit and self-realization. Now that your feelings have successfully activated his potential, he will spontaneously act the I want to change behavior.

At any time, don't use your own shadow side to trigger the shadow side of the other person, but use your own beauty to stimulate the beauty of the other person. That's the real trick to changing people. It is not a kind of pressure, not who is right and who is wrong, but a win-win situation that moves forward together and cooperates with each other.

When you want your child to have any kind of character, show it yourself. Even if your child does not show the characteristics you want for the time being, do not rush to deny and change him, but accept his differences and stimulate the energy in his life, so that sooner or later he will develop in the direction you want.