Urgency is my small mindedness, my discontentment, or is there really a problem between us

Well. It's clear that he's comparing you to the woman's work. When you have free time, you can plan a time for yourself, what you want to do at which point, and make things work regularly.

It's not a big problem that you're stingy When will it be her turn to take care That's right, I suggest you quit the woman and do something to make yourself comfortable instead of crying there.

You are not small-minded, and you are not too content.

Your mother-in-law buys and washes, most likely not for you, but for her grandson. In fact, the reasons you said about hating her are all superficial. You hate her with a gut feeling: she doesn't treat you as a member of her own family, but as a tool for having a child.

It's a thought in your subconscious.

You have to boldly tell her that you are the child's mother, the child's closest person in the world, and that the child is yours and yours. The child grows up to be his own.

Situation Analysis:

1. The contradiction between the landlord and the mother-in-law has no fundamental conflict, just a kind of loss in the heart, a feeling that the child is occupied. The landlord's desire for a kind of closeness to the child was "deprived".

2. The landlord's reason told himself that this kind of thought was shameful and needed to be suppressed. Therefore, the heart is very entangled, and the conflict between feelings and reason is the source of the landlord's troubles.

Suggestions: 1. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a common phenomenon, and most of them are conflicts in the way of thinking. The mother-in-law probably loves the child very much, so she has a very natural behavior of "dominating the child".

But at least, in terms of loving children, the starting point between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the same. If the landlord understands it from a Chinese perspective, he may be relieved a lot.

2. The mother-in-law is not the guardian of the landlord's child, and is not obliged to take the child, her behavior is a kind of goodwill and active "help", and the landlord is the child's supervisor and direct caretaker, and has obligations and responsibilities. For example, not allowing the landlord to hold the child is to reduce the landlord's hard work. The mother-in-law is not here to snatch the child.

If the landlord thinks from this point of view, he may be much less dissatisfied with his mother-in-law.

3. Create more opportunities for everyone to have parent-child time.

4. The mother-in-law is enthusiastic to help, and this kindness is worth cherishing. At the same time, the mother-in-law can also have the opportunity to communicate with her son (i.e. the landlord's husband). The landlord may wish to provide some convenience as well.

In short, the landlord's troubles come from the deviation of cognition, from the "heart".

You may be too idle, find something to do for yourself, find a way to keep yourself busy, leave the child to the mother-in-law, and properly guide the mother-in-law on how to educate the child in a modern way.

In another thought, maybe life would be better. I have observed that the more people my child has with the more people he has with him, the more extroverted he becomes.

Indeed, it is normal for mothers-in-law to love children.

Is it a pro-generation! You'll know when you're a grandmother in the future. It's good to think about it now.

I've written a lot, deleted over and over again, in short, old, lonely, and now the baby grandson is their biggest pistachio, can you understand what I mean?

Oh, yes. Since I think so, that's it.

Who doesn't have something to worry about, and when you have another job, you'll worry about something else, and I'm just small-minded and depressed all day long.

But I'm pretty much the same now, there's no Flaming Mountain that I can't get over.

Hey, be content, I don't even have to make steamed buns now. Slowly look for a job, feel better, and all the so-called problems you said will be gone.

Selfish, careful, these bad things are not decided by the girlfriend, but since the girlfriend says so about you, can we take a look in the mirror and find out the reason, if it is a personality reason and we don't get along, I think this kind of breakup is not a bad thing, we should find someone who is in tune with our personality, which will avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble, if your girlfriend is simply pulling your pigtails for some trivial things, then should the same mirror also look at her Who can say that they don't say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing when dealing with the daily little things in life, since everyone makes mistakes to a greater or lesser extent, why don't you be tolerant of each other, think from the perspective of others, life is not a dress rehearsal, if we can prepare, then many people will not cherish everything that happens in front of us, I think each of us treats others, no matter how bad the impression of others, do not use the word "disappointed", not to mention that in front of the lover, there is no possibility that the reason is not that we are disappointed in each other, but that we do not love each other, to be exact It's that we haven't found the real other half to spend a good life with.

You ask him if he can accept you as you are, if not, forget it, some things are different from person to person.

Nothing is impossible. It's up to you to put in the effort. Your girlfriend means this in two ways.

You can't just look at another meaning. There is another layer of meaning. She says this just to make you change yourself.

We can be better together in the future. Or maybe she's struggling with something.

It's not necessarily, believe in yourself.

If you change, maybe you might be able to reconcile.

Living in such a family environment is more or less depressing, even if it is your closest person, you still can't help but want to get angry and scold others. When your parents are divorced, remember to cherish your family and be harmonious and stable. You are stressed, and no one stops you, so losing your temper and getting angry is even more unrestrained.

The other is that you are under a lot of pressure at work, and you use your mother and wife as a punching bag. You yourself realize that this is not good, but you just can't control the emotional outburst. They are all people who love you, and the lack of a shoulder that can preside over the overall situation will greatly reduce the family atmosphere and family happiness, which will be better.

Home is always our harbor, and bad feelings at work will be brought to home. Families should enjoy family fun together, demanding.

There are only four people in your family. No one consults with you, and even if you lose your temper with them, they won't blame you, but they will be sad. It is recommended that you take your family to go out for a walk on the weekend, travel and other things to relax and mediate your emotions.

You can also do exercises to relieve your emotions, work hard, and your family will forgive you. Don't hold it in your heart when you're angry outside, talk to your family, there are three women, and there is only one man. Or when you want to lose your temper, you are silent for a minute and count a few before you speak, maybe it will help you control your temper a little, and it will also have a great impact on you, although you are a big man with a family and a wife, but after all, the divorce of your parents has also had a certain impact on you.

There is no father at home, exercise can play a good role in regulation, perhaps not because you are small-minded, but because you are a little uncomfortable or disgusted with this environment, or a little impatient in terms of personality.

This has to be changed slowly, because a person's concept and temperament are accumulated for a long time or born, and they must rely on the day after tomorrow to constantly change and update, men are careful for women, they will live very tired, and over time they feel that they do not have a little space for themselves, they will think of their own desires to be satisfied, or do something sorry for you, or abandon you, so please don't blindly "force her", it will be too late to regret it.

If you do this, it will make your wife disgusted with you, you should tolerate her more, a smart man wants to make his wife happy before he is willing to be good to his family, which is a blessing.

Hello, empathy. A man should be broad-minded, and when he is upset, he recites the Buddha's name. Say it a few more times and you'll be fine. When it doesn't go well or feel uncomfortable, chant more Buddha. Reciting Buddha when you are not doing anything is good for your body, mood, family, career, and loved ones.

There is no Amitabha Buddha in the south.

You'll be different from now on! Asking this question is a new starting point in your life and an improvement in your self-knowledge!

When people are growing, their temper is also growing, and when it is rare to be warm, they are more eager for warmth.

Happiness in the world is to live a leisurely and joyful life.

Life is blissful, contentment and happiness.

I wish you happiness.

When there is less security, people will be zealous, and the only way to improve the situation is to look for answers to that person or thing, or leave it to time.

Mindset issues, environmental impacts.

Be yourself, be confident and happy!

Song Title: Between Us.

Lyrics and singing: Zheng Zhihua.

You use your intuition.

So absolutely.

Love is constantly pulling.

Don't want to face it again.

Stand at the crossroads.

Gradual exhaustion.

Your word by word.

It breaks my heart.

We all know that.

Each other is too small.

The world is too cold.

Hug tightly.

We should laugh.

There should be no quarrels.

It's just that we're too ordinary.

It will never be possible.

Between us. Could it be a misunderstanding.

Too many tears have flowed.

Who's to blame.

I know who let go of their hands.

Whoever is doomed to regret it.

I don't want all the pain.

Let one person carry it.

Can we do it between us.

There was a settlement.

Too many roads have been traveled.

I'm too tired.

Maybe love is really too hard.

We'll never learn.

I don't have the courage to tear this up.

Incomplete perfection.

Between us. Well, between us.

Don't speak, don't cry, be safe and content.

I hear your breathing.

Feel a sense of happiness.

Don't win, don't lose, pray and bless.

I looked up and saw it again.

The sky was cloudy.

Because people think about their own interests.

Not necessarily, it depends on the person you're dating.

Then you should be generous. There has to be someone who will be generous.

Since you know that your husband is small-minded, then you should be more tolerant of whoever made you choose him in the first place.

My husband is convinced that he cares about you very much.

Will help you buy clothes, care about you on it!