Is it easy to get something that you won t cherish?

Love takes a lifetime to comprehend! The one you love the most often doesn't choose you; What loves you the most is often not what you love the most; And the longest-lasting, but not the one you love the most nor the ...... that loves you the mostNo one deliberately wants to change her mind, she really loves you when she loves you, but she really doesn't love you when she doesn't love you, she can't pretend not to love you when she loves you, and in the same way, she can't pretend to love you when she doesn't love you. When a person leaves you because he doesn't love you, you have to ask yourself if you still love her, and if you don't love her anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem; If you still love her, you should want her to be happy, and you want her to be with your true love without any need to stop her. If you prevent her from being truly happy, it means that you no longer love her, and if you don't love her, what right do you have to accuse her of changing her mind?

Love is not possession! It's forgiving, you love the moon, you can't take it for granted, but the moon's rays can still shine into your heart. In other words, if you truly love someone, you can also have it in another way, so that the lover becomes an eternal memory in your life.

The ** whirlwind and reciprocation of light sorrow, and the euphemistic and sad words turn around and turn, prompting us to tears. Beauty always goes hand in hand with sentimentality. I only know that this is actually the common sense of life, and it is the true meaning that everyone understands when they are awake and can talk about it, but it takes a lifetime to understand and practice it.

I call it a tongue twister, and unlike other tongue twisters, love can't be bypassed, it lies at the intersection of everyone's life, and you will catch the youthful flying. Someone can be the one who slips through the net, no matter what position you face her. The real victor is not you, me, her, but time!

It is the culprit of love, it makes you crazy for love, and at the same time it destroys your love without a trace. It never changes its pace for your emotions, even if you plead with it, it refuses to stop for a moment, and you can't even see its face of ignoring everything, so the spring night is always short, but the pain is slow; However, parting is always fast, but waiting is long; However, love is fleeting, and life is bleak. We have no way to grasp the response of our love, we can only pass on the message of our love; We can't grasp it, we can only grasp our own efforts; We can't guarantee that it will last forever, we can only operate with our hearts.

However, if we can accumulate our limited time with all our hearts, with our true emotions, with affectionate thoughts, and with beautiful memories, then who can say that our lives are meaningless? If we've been obsessively engaged in the confusing game of love all our lives, who's to say we haven't really loved?

Of course, this is especially true in terms of feelings.

Not necessarily, it can only be said that there is a certain causal link between determining the relationship too quickly and dying too quickly, but it is not inevitable.

Why isn't it advisable for two people to settle a relationship too quickly?

1. If you don't know enough, you decide to warehousing.

To be precise, the ultimate determining factor in the speed of a relationship is not the determination of the time, but the degree of understanding of the person in front of you.

But often, the complication of determining the relationship too quickly is that you don't have enough time and experience to deeply understand the other person's life, and only after determining the relationship do you find out the true exposed nature of the other party, you suddenly feel disappointed, want to break up, and the relationship dies like this.

At the same time, the other party may also have the same limited understanding of you, and may be with you on the spur of the moment, or he may wait for him to come back to his senses only to find that you are not what he originally thought.

Therefore, the reason why we don't establish a relationship as soon as possible is not because the decision is too fast and the relationship is not smooth, but because we know each other too little and the relationship is not good.

2. It's easy to get, not enough to cherish.

Identifying relationships too quickly can easily lead to the problem of getting too easily.

First of all, it is too easy to obtain, which leads to the problem of feeling that it is not good enough, which is the nature of human beings;

The main thing that determines the length of your relationship is how well you know each other and how well you accept it.

On this basis, it is better to have a relationship that has been brewing for a while.

I didn't give much, I got it easily, and even if I lost it, I wouldn't feel sorry.

The cost is particularly high, and if you lose it, you will feel the pain in your flesh.

This is a human instinct to invest and return on the trade-off, invest little or little, but get a lot, of course, will not be particularly cherished.

Curiosity and possessiveness are common human traits. When these two points are combined, the situation you said arises.

Although people are afraid of failure, they like challenges, and if they are too easy to obtain, they will not be able to distinguish themselves from others, so they will lose their sense of achievement.

At the same time, what is too easy to get will make people mistakenly think that there is a choice, and of course he will satisfy his sense of conquest first.

So people don't value what is at their fingertips.

I think being too proactive will really be seen as cheap.

One: The person who takes the initiative does not really pay well on the knife edge that the other party needs. It's like a kind help, the other person you give may not want it, and it may not be needed.

Second: too active will make the other party feel that everything is too easy, we all know that the harder it is, the more precious it is, just like the rainbow that appears after experiencing the wind and rain will also make people feel better, of course, it is not excluded that the rainbow is colorful, I think it is more beautiful to have wind and rain. Anything that comes too easily will make people subconsciously bury the word "general".

People are especially precious for what they have worked so hard to earn. Third: Will there be that kind of (:

I know you're not going to go, so I can run amok? ）。In fact, some people don't really feel cheap, but the enjoyers know that this kind of initiative has a certain amount of insurance and will not disappear, so they are very casual and do not pay attention to it.

For example, family affection, we are always more polite and polite in front of strangers. It's easier to release all your emotions in front of your loved ones. In fact, I think I should be more restrained in front of my relatives, and I say that the love of parents is great and does not ask for anything in return, so is this kind of love cheap?

I don't think so, and I can't think parents should do that. Everyone has nothing to do, everyone must know how to be grateful, and no kind of giving can be said to be cheap. A man's pursuit of a woman is actually a hunting process, and the prey that is directly delivered to his mouth must not be cherished, because he does not enjoy the process of conquest, on the contrary, the prey he spends a lot of time and energy getting, he will be reluctant to eat, and the hard-won harvest.

Let him know how to cherish it better. A smart woman will not always be stupid and good to a man, because she knows that the other party will not cherish it, you only need to be good to him occasionally, such as commemorative days, it is best when he is most vulnerable and sick, you will never abandon him to take care of him, enough for him to remember you for a lifetime. In conclusion, I just want to say that any relationship should be based on "mutuality", "coming and going", and mutual understanding and understanding.

I don't take the initiative to get anyone's favor and I don't let anyone down for my help. Don't be a stupid child who can only give, and don't think of yourself as so kind and generous that you have wronged yourself.