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1. In the economy and living conditions of the elders, especially the parents, who have worked hard all their lives, come from difficult times, pull you all the way, and suffer too much, but they have no complaints. When you grow up, you should be grateful to your parents and use your own hands to let your parents enjoy the blessings of the next life.
2. In terms of living habits, you can take care of the impact on you, and if it has no impact or little impact, you can ignore it. When people get old, their habits are almost fixed, and it is very difficult to change them.
In short, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and what others say is right, but what you make is not necessarily right. As long as it is for the good of the elders, pay more attention to the methods and methods when doing it.
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Your elder's affairs should not be taken care of under normal circumstances, because after all, he thinks that you are too young to be qualified to take care of him. But if it's something that has a particularly bad impact, you can't say whether you should care about it or not, at most it's a kind reminder to him, if the elders violate ethics and morals, you have to take care of it, and if you break the law, you have to take care of it. As juniors, you can give your own suggestions to your elders as a reference, and you can also tell your elders some knowledge of the law, and you can tell your elders some basic common sense on the computer to expand their knowledge.
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An Li said that the younger should not care about the affairs of the elders, but if the elders do something wrong, and the younger ones see it, they should also take advice from the elders, and even be cautious, which is also a matter of course and a formal way.
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I'm going to go with a wave of heart.
I don't think it's okay, at least 90 percent of the things that shouldn't be managed. First of all, everyone has the limitations of understanding, the development of things is random, and the result is not absolute, so what do you think is the right solution to the problem is not necessarily objectively correct, even if it is objectively correct at the time, the development of the thing is uncontrollable, even if the final result goes according to your idea, if the person (that is, your elders) thinks that this is not the best result, what should you do? There is a question of regret.
The summary is that your idea is not necessarily right, (this kind of right, it is objectively right) even if it is right, things may not necessarily develop the same way you think, even if it is what you think, towards the end you think, but the elders subjectively feel that it is not right, what should you do? It's just regret.
The remaining ten percent of the intervention, I think, is that your thoughts can circumvent the parents' regrets later, and you forcibly intervene in order not to make them regret it. That's all it takes, right? Or is it objectively right?
Anyway, try not to interfere.
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As a junior, you should care about and respect your elders, but some things should not be managed by meddlers, and should be handled reasonably according to the actual situation of your family.
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Of course, if the elders are sick, of course the younger ones have to take care of the elderly.
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As a junior, you can participate in the affairs of the elders and give some advice, but don't interfere too much, just like the elders respect each other for us.
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It depends on the specific situation, if the elders violate ethics and morals, they must be punished, and if they violate the law, they must be punished.
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According to the traditional virtues of loyalty and filial piety in our country, we can participate in the affairs of the elders, and if it is really reasonable, we can explain it appropriately and patiently, but don't comment too much, let alone care
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The younger generation should take care of the affairs of the elderly, which is a responsibility and an obligation
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If a junior is asked to take care of themselves, they will feel that as an elder, they have no status in front of the juniors. I can't say for sure. The elders are old, and there are some things that we have to ask for help.
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In fact, there are not so many difficulties in this, as long as you let go and see clearly. When persuading, remember to talk about their life and health from the perspective of the family, but generally they will not listen to our advice, after all, we are all juniors, and what we say naturally has no weight!
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If you are an immediate family member, then you can give advice, but don't make a decision.
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Some people are together every day, but they can't always talk together, this is a huge generation gap, in addition to the discord of the three views there is another important reason, that is, age, age is the biggest obstacle to communication between two people, for people of different ages, the things they like are different, so there will be a lot of friction, even if it is their own parents, there will be some friction, not that parents or children do not love each other, but because of the huge age difference, the elders like to discipline the younger generation, Because as people who have come over, they always have some experience, but as juniors, should they take care of the affairs of their elders? Let's take a look! <>
1. What kind of person is an elder?
In fact, not everyone is worthy of being an elder, the real elder needs others to respect him, but there are many people who are getting older, but they are still a despicable villain with no bottom line, like this kind of elder will only cause a negative impact on people, if there are children in the family, it is easy to be affected by this elder, for example, the elder likes to drink or like to beat people violently, these behaviors are wrong, so the first thing to see is what kind of person the elder is, if the elder usually has no big problem, Then we have to respect his way of life, maybe he doesn't necessarily accept the way of life of young people, so it's good to respect each other. <>
Second, should I take care of the affairs of the elders?
If you always feel that a certain elder is a positive image in your mind, but he has done a lot of dirty things behind his back, hurting his family and children, like this situation must be managed, if some of the things he does are just trivial and petty, there is no need to interfere too much, after all, this is his own life, he has lived for so many years, so even if you open your mouth to care about him, it will not achieve the effect, but will cause the other party to be disgusted, do not deliberately care about the affairs of the elders, Everyone is an adult, you can hint to him, there is no need to say too much. <>
In short, no matter what kind of person the elder is or what he has done, if he doesn't hinder himself, he doesn't have to care, and if he has violated the interests of the whole family, then he has to remind the other party.
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No, because everyone has their own ideas and opinions, as juniors we can give some advice to our elders, but we can't control our elders.
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Summary. Kissing, although it is said to be an elder, has the authority of the elders, but there are still some things that cannot be done to the younger generations, such as: beating and scolding the children at will, interfering too much in the lives of the children, etc., if the elders do these things to the younger generations, not only let themselves and the lives of the younger generations be a mess, but even cause great pain to the lives of the younger generations.
What are the things that the elders can't do to the younger ones, and what are the reasons for this?
Kissing, although it is the elders, has the authority of the elders, but there are still some things that cannot be done to the younger generations, such as: beating and scolding the children at will, interfering with the children's lives excessively, etc., if the elders do these things to the younger generations, not only let themselves and the younger generations celebrate the life of chicken feathers, and even cause great pain to the lives of the younger generations.
There are also examples: the elders can't kneel to the younger generations, and the younger generations will lose their lives. The elders cannot give great gifts to the juniors, and the juniors may damage their virtues.
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As an adult, we should have our own judgment and the ability to think independently. But here are a few things we can do.
1. Carefully refer to the opinions of elders.
Therefore, I will not absolutely listen to the opinions of my elders. However, I will carefully refer to the opinions of my elders. Because elders have more life experiences and experiences than we do, their advice may be of great help to us.
2. Refer to the opinions of the elders and deal with the problem in combination with the actual situation.
When I am faced with a problem, I will actively seek the opinions of my elders based on the actual situation. In the process, I listen carefully to their suggestions, while also retaining my point of view, comparing the two and making a final decision. After all, everyone's situation is different, and the methods and experiences that apply to our elders may not be suitable for us.
We need to balance the experience of our elders with our own judgment.
3. Actively communicate with elders and strive to reach consensus.
In addition to carefully considering the opinions of my elders, I will also actively communicate with them and try to reach a consensus on the gaps. In the process of communication, I will also respect the opinions of my elders, properly handle different opinions, and build a relationship of mutual respect and trust. This will not only allow us to better benefit from the experience of our elders, but also allow our opinions and opinions to be taken into account.
In short, as juniors, we should take into account our own actual situation when dealing with problems, and carefully refer to the opinions of our elders, but we should not absolutely obey them. At the same time, it is also necessary to actively communicate with elders to find consensus. Of course, when the advice of our elders conflicts with our own, we should respect each other's ideas and make the most reasonable decision.
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1. First of all, older people sometimes impose unreasonable demands on juniors out of worry, they are worried that juniors will be influenced by the educational and social environment, and they are afraid that juniors will take the wrong path, so they will impose unreasonable demands on juniors.
2. Secondly, the older generation may also impose the requirement of no wheel hole return to the younger generation in daily life. They are accustomed to doing everything they do in their lives to be the best, so they expect the younger generation to be the most perfect, and they will demand the younger generation more strongly.
3. Finally, the inheritance of social concepts and history may also lead to unreasonable demands of the elders for the younger generations. Some elders are convinced that the early parents raised their children, and this style of education may not be suitable for the younger generations of today, but the elders will still impose unreasonable demands against reality.
In short, the elders will make unreasonable demands on the juniors, sometimes because they are worried about the future of the juniors, sometimes because they are used to everything they have done in their lives to be the best, and sometimes because of the inheritance of social history.
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1.Afraid that the child will take a detour.
Because the elders went through a lot of detours when they were young, they didn't want us to take the detours they took, so they wanted to tell us how to choose a shortcut with less tribulation. It's because they love us and that's why they tell us this.
2.Desire to control.
It is inevitable that some parents have some control over their children, hoping that their children can obey the arrangements of adults. But the child is an independent individual, he has his own thoughts, so the two are a more contradictory, parents think that through the way of preaching, they can always let the child listen to them.
The elderly generally love to preach, mainly because there are no boundaries and do not respect private space.
Because they grew up in such an environment, their parents are short, and now people are much busier, so how can they have time to preach, and it would be good to be busy themselves.
When you encounter this kind of person who is looking for you to talk to, just say thank you, and then pretend that something is going to go away.
Education likewise gives the older generation a possible sense of fulfillment. By educating the younger generation, the older generation gains a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment after the younger generation avoids suffering losses or achieves certain achievements again and again. The common phenomenon of child comparison is to some extent the embodiment of this psychology, in other words, it can also be called vanity.
For "don't listen to the old man, suffer in front of you" Xunhong, you still have to have a choice. Life is your own, whether it is good or bad, you are responsible for it. Therefore, it is wise to listen to what the "old man" says, not to be swayed, and to firmly hold the decision in your own hands.
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Generally speaking, the requirements of the elders for the younger generations are taken for granted, because the differences in social economy, the history of the times, and the level of education can cause a cognitive generation gap. People's three views will not only be influenced by society and school, family education will account for a large proportion, and the elders are influenced by their elders, shouting in their cognition filial piety will be more equal to obedience, such as "do not listen to the elderly, suffer in front of you." In the eyes of young people, some of the elders' requests are unreasonable and even unacceptable, while in the eyes of the elders of the elder stove, it is natural that the requests made by him are indifferent to the discussion, let alone negotiable.
It is this cognitive bias that makes this result possible.
In this case, it is not appropriate to have a fierce confrontational attitude, family affection and blood are difficult to give up, you can find another time to communicate with your elders, explain the attitude and the reason, if the communication is fruitless, then procrastination is also a way.
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Because they feel that they have experienced a lot, and they are afraid that you will take a detour or walk too much, which leads to the so-called great desire for control.
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Different views vary depending on the location.
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Every parent wants their children to continue to develop, succeed in their careers, and live happily. And children also need to be guided and educated by their elders in the process of growing up. ......However, in real life, children often do not listen to the opinions of their elders, which has a negative impact on their own development.
As a child, I am more than willing to listen to my elders. The reason why this is so is because the elders have rich experience and are worth learning, the elders see the problem more deeply, their opinions can give greater help to themselves and themselves, and the elders have rich experience and listen to their opinions to make themselves more effective with half the effort.
1. Elders have a wealth of experience, and their experience is worth learning from yourself.
Compared to children, elders have most of their life experiences, which gives them a wealth of experience that their children do not have. ......For children, the experience of their elders is worth learning, and listening to their opinions can help them gain guidance and help, which is more beneficial to their career development and well-being.
2. The elders see the problem more deeply, and their opinions can give them greater help.
In the course of one's experience, one has to face a variety of problems and difficulties, and one needs to take appropriate measures to deal with them. ......As elders, they see problems more deeply, and listening to their opinions can help them more. ......Therefore, it is natural for you to listen to the advice of your elders, so that you can not only solve the problems you face, but also learn from them.
3. The elders have rich experience, and listening to their opinions can achieve twice the result with half the effort.
For children, because they have less experience and less experience, they often fail to deal with problems when they are faced with them, so that the problems they face cannot be solved in a timely and proper manner. ......The elders have rich experience, and they have a stronger ability to deal with various problems in the town, so it will be more pertinent to give their children's opinions, and listening to their opinions can achieve twice the result with half the effort, which is more beneficial to the development of children. Therefore, children should listen to the advice of their elders, so that they can develop and progress more quickly, and pursue career success and happiness in life.
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