Why do people who are older than me always feel uncomfortable when they have a treat? Please, thank

Updated on psychology 2024-06-04
34 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    There is an age gap between people, maybe it is the "generation gap", you are younger than them is the biggest advantage, you have to be confident, learn to interact with them. There's nothing uncomfortable, it's just how you feel. Because, when you work in a unit, you must learn to socialize with people, not only with your peers, but also with everyone in your unit.

    Only if you interact with them with a normal heart and an attitude of respecting each other, you don't have to be timid, they will love you and respect you. (I'm too delicate to treat young people like this at school) Besides, this is also a good opportunity to train yourself! Go hard, girl!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    In fact, all these discomforts are caused by your own nonsensical appearances. 1. Although the colleagues in the company are about the same age as your father, when you work with them in the same company, the relationship between you is only a colleague; Superior-subordinate relationship.

    You shouldn't mix work and life. Just because you realize that it is a colleague relationship, then you will mingle with them and try to make a good colleague relationship, so as not to affect the mutual cooperation and coordination of the work. In this way, it will help the work to be carried out in a good and orderly manner.

    If you have too many relationships in your life among your colleagues. It is bound to bring unnecessary trouble to the work and create estrangement between colleagues. The consequence of isolating yourself may end up being to find another job.

    Because you don't adapt to the environment, it's not that the environment doesn't adapt to you. 2: Colleagues can be called brothers and titles after work.

    Don't feel uncomfortable with your colleagues and your father because they are not too old. I don't think you can call a colleague uncle or aunt or anything like that, it will end up in your career. Others will think that you are pretending to be tender and ignorant of affairs.

    Manifestations of being too naïve and immature. Three: Get out of school and into the melting pot of society.

    We have to learn to fit in, to accept, to accept, and finally to adapt to him. Although you have too much confusion, this is life. If you're really struggling to cope, you might as well say it at dinner:

    All of you here are my teachers, and as a newcomer to my career, I hope you will take care of me in the future. Thank you! Then Quan Ke sat aside and ate by himself.

    People will understand you because you are new to the workplace. "Or that when my parents are older, they say that they have to go home for dinner, and they always cook early and wait for me to come home. The next time you want to have a treat, it's better to say it early.

    Sorry, let's meet again another day. Thank you! "That way you don't have to go to dinner against your will.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Why is it uncomfortable? Because the way we live and the way we think about things is very different from the way people of my generation think and think. People live, there are many things that we don't want to do, but we have to do, what you say to greet the elders or something, maybe in your eyes a greeting is nothing, but in their eyes it is very needed, they can get satisfaction from this greeting, the satisfaction of being respected.

    Life is full of uncertainties, no one knows what will happen in the next second, there are many people we don't want to befriend, but maybe at any time, we need their help. That's all I have to say. Oh.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Where do you see the convenience? You tell me? ......Are you free?

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It depends on who you invite, and the words you invite your leader must be implied You can choose the place and time by yourself and then add a sentence How do you think or I don't know if you have the time at that time Grasp it yourself and slowly learn some interpersonal communication or something.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Of course it will be uncomfortable, there will be a feeling of abandonment! Think about it, it's their own loss that they don't come, don't punish yourself for other people's mistakes!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    If you sincerely invite others, and if they don't come, it is disrespectful to you.

    Such guests are not worth making you uncomfortable. If he apologizes to you, then you don't need to feel bad.

    This is a matter of self-esteem and politeness.

    This is my opinion, I hope it helps you, thank you.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Let it go, but don't worry about it. Friends, human life is impermanent, real life is only a very limited part of the process of human life, so everything that people experience and have in real life, including all the content of wealth and symbolic wealth, as well as romance and grievances between people, are just a kind of chance encounter caused by fate and combination, and do not belong to the essence of human beings. It's just a fleeting moment, and it's not worth thinking about it, worrying about it.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    What kind of guest are you invited, you shouldn't go to other people's invitations, right? How embarrassing it is.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Maybe he had a more important appointment to go.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You have to be confident in yourself, what are you afraid of, as long as you have to eat, you are not a lot of people, you are a little afraid or upset, or embarrassed, feel who is staring at you, if you do something wrong or say something wrong, feel ashamed, afraid that others will laugh at you, if this is the case, you are a lack of self-confidence, to exercise yourself. Don't care about the ridicule of others.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    People only need to care about the eyes of two people:

    One is the one who loves you.

    One is for the person you love.

    The others rolled the calves.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    You feel like you don't exist, and you wonder if you've offended him, and then you're sad, you're lost, you're embarrassed, and you're in this situation.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I must feel uncomfortable and embarrassed, but I also wonder if he will forget me for a while, I will say dear, how did you forget me, I will be sad.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    It's going to be very frustrating and super uncomfortable.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    No one has a share, without you, it must be negligence, not intentionally, it's OK under the euphemistic prompt, relax your heart.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    1 All true friends are not like this, explain to them that you have no money, look at what they say, you will not be embarrassed after you are a friend, if you are not your friend, say goodbye, I come out to work and know a few things, they know that I don't make much money, so I rarely call them out to eat, they always take the money when they go out, and friends make friends who know it.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    When others keep asking you for a treat, it means that they just want to take advantage of you, not really make friends with you, and sincere friends will not deliberately embarrass you! Good fences make good neighbors!

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Tell them calmly: I don't have the financial conditions to allow it.

    People who are truly cultivated will not do this, and if they are not cultivated in the first place, it is not worth making friends at all.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Humorous and straightforward.

    There are many ways. Just get there.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Poor, no way, it's not easy to live alone with a family, let's wait until you have money.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Tomorrow, if you take the initiative to borrow 500 yuan from someone who often asks you to have a treat, if someone asks you if there is something wrong with you, and you say something, then others will keep asking you what you are borrowing money for.

    At the end, you tell him that you borrowed 500 yuan to treat you to dinner in the evening.

    If he really lends you 500 yuan, after you ask your friends out in the evening, tell your friends that I will pay back other people's money in the evening, and everyone will ask him to treat him.

    If he doesn't lend it to you, then he won't be embarrassed to ask you for a treat during this time.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    You show him your face, and you say your face is cleaner than your pocket.

    It should be that the pocket is cleaner than the face'''

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    You show him your face, and you say your face is cleaner than your pocket.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Friend, it's a matter of mentality, there's no money, there's no need for a treat, you can just make a joke, you can make a joke about someone else and get someone to have a treat.

    Don't take it to heart if you don't have money, study and work hard to make money.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Say politely: Okay, I'll treat you, you pay

    A little temper said: Please have more people dead in your family, get out.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    The easiest way to do this is to go out with them less.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    If you want to invite, you can ask, if you don't want to invite, you don't invite, how can they have the final say!

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    1. You should understand the thoughts of your father-in-law, after all, this is a literati style that has been handed down since ancient times. Classical** can often be seen as a wife, who uses her jewelry as a jewelry to go to her father-in-law's friends to drink and buy meat.

    2. You should discuss the pros and cons of this lifestyle with your husband. After all, for 365 days a year, those friends only stay with your husband for a full day, and the rest of the days are up to you. If your husband is a person who understands, I think he can understand and understand.

    This fading out of the social circle is generally done slowly, and you should give him time.

    3. Since your husband said the so-called contact and communication, you should let him understand the difference between a friend who drinks and meat and a real buddy.

    4. Money is a thing, life does not bring it to death, and it is not suitable to break off the relationship for many years due to temporary constraints, so you should also think about it for your husband and look at it from his standpoint. Husband and wife are invincible in the world.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Who's family is not bad at that 200·· People have invited you before. Just on your husband's birthday, this time you will return the favor... When you order, order the meat and vegetable combination of liquor, or you can bring your own... Don't worry about money, the house is bought, and I have a birthday once a year... A casual meal at our place costs hundreds, and you're already very cheap... Usually save yourself, don't be unparticular in front of outsiders...

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    This is the interpersonal relationship in China, please...

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Of course you have to please, as the so-called come out to mix, sooner or later you have to pay it back, and remember to eat it back in the future.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Borrow some from your parents. Wait for the salary to be paid.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    You can borrow some first, since the house has been bought, it's not bad for two hundred!

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