China s people are sophisticated, why do foreigners super collapse?

Because the style of Chinese people and foreigners are completely different, first of all, we Chinese do have too many routines, compared to foreigners less real and enthusiastic, foreigners' style of dealing with the world is indeed more refreshing than us Chinese, this is one reason.

The second reason is that foreigners and our Chinese think differently, our country still uses the traditional kind of family thinking, focusing on connections, focusing on relatives and friends, while foreigners are not like this, they pay attention to independence, and more importantly, a person in the process of interaction with each other fairness, justice, honesty and trustworthiness, different ideological concepts, Chinese people's feelings and sophistication.

It's also normal for foreigners to be super devastated.

For example, when relatives and friends go out to eat, foreigners generally choose the AA system, but what about Chinese? After eating, it's like going to war, and the money for a meal is endless, do you really want to pay for the other party? It's not like that, it's just a hypocritical pretense between each other, and this is a stark example.

Because foreigners consider the world relatively simple, their thoughts do not like to be too complicated, when dealing with things they don't like or look forward to, they will be very straightforward, and will look at people and things in a more open way, no matter how the other party will treat themselves, they themselves will not be full of complex ideas, that will only make foreigners feel particularly tired, and there are too many problems to consider, they feel that there are some things that they can't cope, which can also see the true temperament of foreigners.

For the human feelings shown by the Chinese, in fact, in the eyes of foreigners, there are some feelings of thinking too much and contrived, always using more complex ideas to make simple things cumbersome, even if one thing is done well, the final price to pay will be very large, and even feel some helpless problems, these will make them feel that they have something incomprehensible, and they can also seem to be a little insincere from the feeling of people, making them more disgusted.

First of all, cultural differences are the main reason. China is a big country with human feelings. The so-called "face" is an abbreviation of the Chinese's love for the world.

Let's take the most common concept of marriage and family. Chinese feel that marriage must buy a house to be sure, while foreigners feel that the house is secondary, and feelings are the most important; Children's education is also a controversial aspect. Foreigners think that children need to bring their own children, which can better cultivate children's independent character, while Chinese pay attention to parents helping to take care of children, which is simply unimaginable in the eyes of foreigners.

Secondly, the language barrier is also an important reason. Chinese culture is vast and profound, and the meaning of different words will vary greatly after changing a word. Foreigners don't understand Chinese culture, and they don't know much about Chinese idioms, Chinese characters, and local languages, so they must be confused when Chinese speak.

In addition, the Chinese speak in a relaxed manner. Different tones and expressions can express different meanings, and the other party needs to observe and figure out. Foreigner communication is generally "one is one, two is two", so in order for a foreigner to really understand what you mean, you have to tell him directly, otherwise it will be difficult to go down.

Influenced by traditional Chinese culture, most Chinese are more particular. In terms of human sophistication, he likes to express his emotions tactfully and implicitly, and there are many formalized things.

Foreigners have always been free and open, and they are more straightforward in their words and actions, so when facing some behaviors of Chinese, due to cultural differences, foreigners cannot understand. <>

Take, for example, the matter of receiving gifts. When Chinese visit relatives and friends, they will bring some gifts, but what we often see is that the host, after thanking them, puts away the guests' gifts and waits until the guests are gone.

In foreign countries, the host will directly open and look at the gift when he receives it, and even share the gift brought by the guest directly with the guest. Everyone was very happy, too.

But if it's a combination of Chinese guests and foreign hosts, or a combination of foreign guests and Chinese hosts, it will be very embarrassing.

If the foreign host opens the gift directly in front of the Chinese guest, the Chinese guest may feel that his gift is not respected. And when the Chinese host puts away the gifts of the foreign guests and does not open them, the foreign guests may think: Doesn't he like my gifts? Don't even dismantle it?

The more we understand the differences between Chinese and Western cultures, the less embarrassing we will be.

Because each country has different customs, each country's attitude towards customs must also be different.

Let's start with an example. Some countries use handshakes to show friendship with each other, while others show friendship with each other by not touching each other, and this opposite behavior also confirms the differences between customs. Look at the United States, where Americans emphasize the pursuit of freedom, equality.

They are an open and free country and do not like to be constrained.

Compared with our Chinese customs, many of them want us to be loyal and not cause trouble, which is very different from that of the United States. Secondly, because many of Americans' living habits are also very different when they first arrive in China, it is normal for them not to accept it for a while.

However, our attitude towards different cultures should be to seek common ground while reserving differences, to treat each different cultural difference with a tolerant attitude, and to respect local customs and habits. Because it may not be better to change the world than to change yourself. Americans should have a good experience of Chinese culture when they come to China, so that they can better integrate into China.