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I think it's not difficult to understand people's feelings, but it's hard to control your emotions and dedication. In fact, when we first start to contact each other, we want to present the best to everyone. But the reason why they parted ways after a long time is because some people can't control their emotions, and they think that they have been hurt and treated unfairly in this relationship, so they quit.
Or maybe it's because his emotions have caused others to be hurt, and everyone has gradually distanced themselves from him. <>
Therefore, in order to make others like, we must control our emotions, and if we want to control our emotions, we can't lose our temper casually. Keep this in mind, and don't lose your temper under any circumstances, even if you get angry again, stay calm. This requires a very high level of cultivation to do this.
If you can't do it, you must cultivate your inner self-cultivation, let yourself not like the form, and not show your true face under any circumstances.
In addition to controlling your temper, you should also pay attention to communicating with others properly, and you must know how to ask for warmth, and the correct way to say it should be to know how to give back emotionally. When others care about you, you also have to give back to them, so that you can communicate and interact. For example, you can get together in private, go on a trip to have fun, and increase your feelings.
The third point is to know how to pay and be willing to give. Many people do a good job in the first two points, but hesitate when it comes to their own interests. In fact, the money you pay still has time, and it will be realized to you in other forms in the future.
The money in the world is not spent in vain, and we make friends and pay for our friends. Although I spent money but I earned a friend, the business was worth it. <>
When you are generous, others will think that you are sensible, charismatic, and influential, and they will naturally rally around you. The more friends you have, the more ways you have, and it's hard to get lucky or not.
So if you want to be lucky, you have to open yourself up and control your emotions.
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I think that it is not difficult to understand the human world, but the difficulty is to control your emotions and dedication, in fact, when we first connect with each other, we want to show the best to everyone, but after a long time, the reason for parting ways is because there are people who cannot control their emotions, he thinks that he has been hurt and treated unfairly in this relationship, so he resigns, or because his emotions hurt others, everyone gradually distances himself from him.
Therefore, in order for others to like it, we must control our emotions。If we want to control our emotions, we can't lose our temper casually, remember this, don't lose your temper under any circumstances, stay calm even when you're angry, this requires a high level of cultivation, if not, you must cultivate inner self-cultivation, make yourself unpopular on the outside, and don't expose your truest appearance under any circumstances.
In addition to controlling your temper, you should also pay attention to proper communication with peopleAnd you have to know how to be calm and warm, the correct statement should be to understand the emotional feedback, when other people care about you, you have to give back to them so that you can communicate and interact. For example, you can meet privately, travel and have fun, and increase the mood of happiness, and we must know how to give and be willing to give, many people do well in the first two points, but are hesitant about their own interests.
Actually, the money you spend still has time, it will be cashed out to you in other forms in the future, money in the world is not in vain, we make friends, although the money was spent, I made a friend, and the business was well worth it,When you are tolerant, others will perceive you as wise, attractive, and influential, and will naturally unite with you
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In fact, it is still necessary to understand the sophistication of human feelings, mainly because you have experienced more things, and you must have experienced the things you have experienced in life, so you have to deal with the sophistication of human feelings, which is more tactful.
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If you want to learn to be sophisticated, then you have to experience many things in life, so that you can slowly become mature and make your emotional intelligence higher.
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Read more books and programs about communication, enrich your own experience, interact with others more, and constantly summarize your shortcomings and correct them.
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Learn more theoretical knowledge, and then when you experience this kind of thing, the corresponding ideas will naturally come to mind, and the rest needs to be accumulated by experience.
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The first to do carrying. 1. Learn to appreciate and praise: I don't know how you define a stranger you meet for the first time, but I look at everyone who comes out of my world with the greatest and most beautiful enthusiasm, regardless of the appearance or dress, as long as he or she is friendly at the beginning, and has never been stingy to praise everyone who has a beautiful and pure heart.
However, in reality, not all people are as easy to get along with as we think, but if you want to let yourself know what "human feelings" are, learn to appreciate and praise this is the first step you have to do.
Clause. 2. Act cautiously and speak rationally: The most fearful thing about being a person is not not not ignorance, but the most fearful thing is that you are ignorant and will come when you open your mouth.
If you define a person, if you don't know a person well enough, please don't be in a hurry to judge a person, because it is likely that the disaster will come from the mouth; If someone asks you to give a suggestion about something and needs to express your opinion, please don't rush to put your truest thoughts in your heart, you have to figure out the reason and then judge, because some things have not yet surfaced, and what you say will seem very immature to others.
Clause. 3. Compare the heart with the heart, advance and retreat freely: understand the sophistication of human feelings, but also need to understand some psychology.
Many people have an inner desire to be recognized, and when you talk to others, we all need to have such a mentality: compare our hearts with our hearts, think from the perspective of others, and communicate with them.
Many smart people know how to be sophisticated, but they are also deliberate or subconscious.
Some people are forced to understand the world in order to achieve their own goals, show the best side in front of others, be the most intimate friends, but do things that go against their hearts, such people often hide their true thoughts and obtain the greatest benefits at the lowest cost. But because of this, such a person is also the most unpredictable, he may be lurking around you, making you feel that he is the closest person to you, and never letting you imitate the person you feel is causing you trouble.
Some people are as if they were born to know how to deal with the people and things around them, we always like such people in life are "good people", whether it is big things or small things in daily life, they can be just right, giving people a very natural, sleek and decent way to deal with things. In a dimension that you can't think about, he can perfectly deal with the problem; When you think that you can solve the problem from a different angle, you will feel that you can't do it, while others take it for granted, as if this is what normal people do, at this time, you often wonder if you lack some corresponding common sense, and give yourself a certain blow. But no, it's that you don't know enough about the world!
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How do you slowly learn to be sophisticated: go out bravely, don't stay at home, and don't stay in your comfort zone.
Stay, if you stay for a long time, it will be difficult for people to go out and the mask will not be removed if you wear it for a long time.
Be thick, say more, say wrong, be laughed at nothing, dare to express your thoughts, instead of twisting and pinching, it is better to say generously, I am not very good at dealing with interpersonal relationships.
Introverted, if there is anything you can't afford in the future, please bear with me. Thank you for your advice.
I'm going to do it when I'm done, if it's okay, please take that senior for a meal, buy something or something, and the relationship will not be so stiff. Chinese are conservative and subtle after all, if you say it generously, others will breathe a sigh of relief, will not deal with interpersonal relationships, have no money and have not seen the world. I don't know what it is, if you don't say these things, you will be uncomfortable, and others will be uncomfortable.
You are uncomfortable because of embarrassment, if you say it bluntly, you are comfortable, don't worry about people looking down on you or anything, if you don't say it, it will be despised, you can say that you are embarrassed but admire you very much.
**。Anyway, you don't have to worry about it. Also pretend to be very calm, others look uncomfortable, you are also uncomfortable, come and go, everyone will like your character with no burden, people are sophisticated, simple and simple, difficult to say, so you have to learn to be confused, this thing is not a problem, one is one, two is two, many things do not need to be delved into, and there is no need to find out.
Therefore, it is enough to deal with interpersonal relationships as long as you maintain a superficial level. Interpersonal troubles can be the same as inside, that is called confidant, but it is not available, most people are passable on the face, so you have to learn to play a round, such as quarreling with someone, stiff, at this time, you invite him to a meal, buy a cup of milk tea, she generally goes down the slope, as for the quarrel, who suffers and who takes the blame. Don't worry too much, it's useless to escape, the more you want to escape, the more you suffer, so you deal with it generously, once you are born and twice cooked, and if you have more times, you won't feel so troublesome, stay kind, open-minded and optimistic, and say more nice things.
Anyway, you are not ready to be a leader, command thousands of troops, and it is enough to be able to do these points.
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1. You must learn to pretend to be a grandson, and only by pretending to be a grandson can you get benefits, and only then will you have the opportunity to pretend to be an uncle.
2. The so-called sophistication of human feelings is to bring benefits to others, and then obtain benefits for yourself, which is the truth that if you want to take it, you must give it first.
3. Observe more about how the masters around you behave in the world, and you can also learn the essence.
4. Multiple enemies and multiple walls, multiple friends and multiple roads.
5. You can't say anything about it, and you can't even say hard things sometimes, so as to prevent people from holding grudges.
6. All the softness today is for the sake of being tough in the future, and all the softness today is for the sake of interests, yes, everything about human beings is for the sake of interests, and only by thinking about problems from the perspective of interests can we find the fundamental answer. There are no eternal friends, only eternal interests, the money in your hands will not betray you, this is the only thing you can believe in, even if you don't have friends, it doesn't matter, as long as you have money, everything is missing, so no matter how old you are, you must learn to make money, this is the foundation of your peace and justification.
7. Praise others often with words, so that fewer people will embarrass you, but at the same time, don't be confused by others.
8. Others confuse you in order to kill you or gain benefits from you.
10. Treat many things, just have a bottom in your heart, don't talk nonsense, especially the privacy of others, especially the privacy of your boss, and don't say a word.
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You have to learn to be humble, obviously you have done a good job, but to be humble, there are still shortcomings, please be tolerant and spur correction.
Things don't have to be done pretty, but the words have to be said pretty.
Be brave to go out, don't stay at home, you won't adapt to the environment at home, and you will be out of touch. If you say the wrong thing, don't make jokes about the potato people, remember the same mistake and don't make it again.
Because you heard and witnessed the rolling, you slowly groped out the doorway inside.
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It is simple to say that human feelings are simple, and it is difficult to say that it is difficult, so we must learn to be confused, human feelings are not arithmetic, one is one, two is two, many things do not need to be studied deeply, and there is no need to find out.
Therefore, it is enough to deal with interpersonal relationships as long as they maintain a superficial level, and those who can be consistent in interpersonal relationships are called confidants, but they are hard to find. Most people just go over the face, so learn to play round. For example, if you quarrel with someone and get stiff, at this time you invite him to a meal, buy a box of cigarettes or something, he will generally go down the slope, as for the quarrel, don't care about who suffers and who takes the blame.
The same is true between colleagues, many things are unclear, and when this kind of thing happens, you have to learn to play a round, and you can be kind and angry on your face. Why do leaders like and dilute mud so much? Because in addition to illegal crimes and principled issues, many things that are instructed to travel are really incomprehensible, and if one is one and two is two, in the end, both will lose.
Only fresh out of school, and idealists like to be fair and impartial imbalance on the sidebench mixed with any moisture. But if you do this, you can't bring the team, and you can't deal with people, and if you look at it, there will be no fugitives, and if the water is clear, there will be no fish. It is necessary to allow people to be a little dirty psychologically, and to be a little unsightly and careful.
It's okay to get by on face [summary].
How to learn from the world [Question].
It is simple to say that human feelings are simple, and it is difficult to say that it is difficult, so we must learn to be confused, human feelings are not arithmetic, one is one, two is two, many things do not need to be studied deeply, and there is no need to find out.
Therefore, it is enough to deal with interpersonal relationships as long as they maintain a superficial level, and those who can be consistent in interpersonal relationships are called confidants, but they are hard to find. Most people just go over the face, so learn to play round.
How to slowly learn the sophistication of human feelings: go out bravely, don't stay at home all the time, and don't stay hungry in your comfort zone, it will be difficult for people to go out after a long time and the mask can not be removed after wearing it for a long time, the face should be thick, to say more, to say wrong, there is nothing to be laughed at, dare to express their thoughts, instead of twisting and pinching, it is better to say generously, I am not very good at dealing with interpersonal relationships, introverted, what can not be done in the future, please bear with me.
The world is full of knowledge, and the practice of human feelings is the article. - Dream of Red Mansions