My boyfriend is not self motivated, he just wants to live happily and simply

In fact, it is very important to live a happy life, but everyone has different standards for this, the two of you have different values, and it is not a good thing to force him to do what he does not want to do (business), and the road to hard work is different, and it is not bad to be a high-paid white-collar worker. Not everyone is suitable for business, as long as he is self-motivated at work, not completely dependent on Lao Tzu to live idle, and more importantly, your feelings.

There is a saying, "do what you want", if you have your own ideals, you can let him be your backing and pursue your ideals. If you are a person who is willing to support your husband, then see if he will become your ideal husband.

His family's privileges make it normal for him to have such a mentality. There's nothing wrong with that, it's good to live a simple life. Have you watched "Snail House"? Haiping endured a lot of pain and pressure in order to gain a foothold in Shanghai.

In fact, I think as long as your boyfriend has a normal moral character and is good to you, with this mentality of preferring to be a chicken head rather than a phoenix tail, you can accept it, and it is okay to join hands with him.

But if you want to achieve the greatest value in your life, obviously this man is not for you. With that said, think for yourself!

He's not wrong with his idea, you don't want to change other people's principles with your own ideals, and it's painful to change principles.

The two of you slowly run in If he insists and doesn't want to change, then it's up to you to accept it Besides, what your boyfriend said doesn't make sense 1000+ will rise after This kind of income is already good Now the business is so difficult to do, if you lose money, it will only get more and more tired.

Talk to him.

If you don't do anything, it's impossible to think about him.

Eh, that's not bad, at least this kind of man is more stable and reliable. To be honest, if you have such a personality to do business, you may not be able to do well. Because doing business is a risky business, there is nothing wrong with a stable job, and if there is development, of course it is better.

Personality may not be so easy to change, just like the landlord's character that wants to work hard.

My girlfriend and I are in a similar situation, but she doesn't force me to work hard, she's a woman who wants to work on her own. I don't want her to be as peaceful as I am. Even if I think it's the dull life I want.

I just want toTake care of her She is tired and gives her a plain warmth of a hug. My family is not very rich, but I can afford to buy an RV.

I don't want to rely on my parents for everything, so I'm going to save on my own. It's good for college students who have just left school to have a job. Landlord.

The word "status quo" is satisfied. When I saw it, I felt like I was talking about me. But if she wants me to do business, I'll try it, because I have a more feminine personality.

Caring and focusing on love.

Personal opinion. Hope it helps the landlord.

To put it bluntly, you don't fit each other!

There are many types of men, and this type of man will also have corresponding women to like, but you are not the kind of person who likes stability. There is nothing strange about it.

What we are faced with is only choosing whether to change a boyfriend, instead of changing others, which not only ruins other people's ideal lives, but also makes ourselves very tired!

You have to tell him more about your future, and then set a goal, which you can convince him, as long as he listens to you, give him a little time, and give yourself a chance to train you.

As the saying goes, you can't be rich for three generations.

There is some truth to that.

I also think 24 is pretty early! But if you are not motivated, you have no dreams. It may not be possible to do great things in the future. You'd better persuade him to find something to do! Let's lay the foundation for the future!

I think 24 is still early, and the priority is to find a stable job.

Everyone's attitude towards life is different, in fact, men want to have a career, but you also know that business is not good now, it is forced by reality, not starting a business now does not mean that it will not be in the future, capital is young.

Kindness.. You have to think carefully ... Is such a boyfriend suitable for you? How many years of youth do people have to squander.

Look at your current attitude, if you really want to be together, educate him slowly, if you don't want to be together, break up. I have a classmate who just went through the same thing.

Isn't it okay to be good to you?

Self-motivated may not be good for you!

Give it up, it's not a potential stock. Unless you can change him.

I've also met such a guy, but in the end I broke up with him, to be honest, it's very sad, he is really good to me that I can't say it, but it's because he is too good to me and his childishness and he is not self-motivated, the contradiction between him is suffocating, I said I want my boyfriend to be better than me and stronger than me, so I can't be with him, now he seems to have changed a little but we have broken up and will not go back, so you have to be careful about your decision.

Love that can last for a long time is called love, and it doesn't matter if he is childish, as long as he treats love psychologically mature.

Did your boyfriend go out and work?

Hard-working workers will become mature.

Everyone needs some experience to help them grow, and people's personalities slowly change in the process of growth. His lack of motivation is due to the fact that there is too little responsibility on his shoulders, and when the responsibility comes, everyone is driven to be motivated. Love him and grow with him....

He is good to you, he has done a good job in this regard, but you have to think about it in the future, after all, you have to decide to be with him, you need a material foundation in the future, it is not good for you to solve it, it can be good for you a lot, maybe you just don't feel it, you think about it, you can't just look at the present, you have to look at the future, you have to look at the future...

It doesn't matter, boys of the same age are three years younger than girls of the same age. It's normal, it depends on your own mentality, what kind of feelings do you want to get?

The current modern society is too complicated.,It's important to find a boy who is willing to be good to you.,It's right to cherish it.,Childishness isn't necessarily a bad thing.,Sometimes it's cute.,My boyfriend is like that.,But it's still very mature when you're serious.。

To believe in the person you love, childishness is only temporary, will mature, after all, is it a boy, self-motivated slowly with the pressure of life and economic pressure, he will slowly understand, not urgent, if you really love you and cherish you, he will try to give you a good life, right, you believe him, you can see that you also love him, cherish each other, can meet is fate, cherish her good to you, treat your feelings well, slowly you will mature, you will be very happy in the future.

When faced with economic problems. He's going to mature.

In the face of money, feelings become worthless

You have to slowly enlighten him, let him see the success of others, even some examples of success with physical disabilities, and avoid sarcastic and mocking him, so that he can be self-motivated and ambitious. I opened the store, thank you.

Don't be like that, just live at ease, family harmony is better than anything else! Don't you see a lot of motivated people going to jail?

You can do it, who has a blessing, you can't force it.

Spur him to find some books by Ma Yun and Ma Huateng to show him.

If that's the case, then you have a good talk with him, think about whether you can be happy with him like this, if it's really like this all the time, then it's probably difficult!! Make a plan early, don't say anything emotional, say something ugly, "poor couples mourn", now you don't have children, when you really get married and have children, then you regret it, hehe, then it's really crying without tears! So, you have a good talk to him, think about it, sometimes you just need to think about a problem rationally!!

This society is like this, in a good relationship, no money, hehe, I can't eat enough, I can't live well, I talk about Mao feelings... What's more, men are not afraid of not having money, they are afraid of being incompetent and unmotivated!!

Motivated, he is not self-motivated, and it is not worth dating.

I advise you, but don't try to persuade him, although I know that my answer won't help you much. It can be seen that you are not a vain woman, and you just want to live a good life with him in the future. Since all you need is to live a good life, why do you have to be self-motivated or something?

The reason why I tell you not to persuade is because, after all, a person's character has long been determined, and the nature of the country is easy to change and difficult to change. Let's not talk about whether it can be changed, let's just say that it has been changed, and if he changes, his character will not be more "self-motivated" for no reason, there must be something else cultivated together, and those things are what you don't want to see.

Besides, I remember a magazine once said that. Women don't try to change men. The man has changed, and it is likely that he will not be the man you originally loved.

In the process of your change, your man will be very painful, you don't want him to suffer.

If after reading the above, you still decide to go and make him self-motivated, I can only be speechless. But I have a suggestion to take advantage of his love for you, and if he loves you enough, he might be a little more self-motivated.

However, isn't it good to be so ordinary? It is your husband who will accompany you for the rest of your life, not your parents.

Self-motivation is not something that can be said all at once, and it is greatly related to people's life background and cultural quality.

He is naturally content with the status quo, he feels that every day is almost okay, he meets you, your family conditions are good, of course he thinks that he can be good in the future, but he will not think about how to catch up with the gap. This is a gap in character, thought, worldview. It is advisable to think carefully about whether he is suitable for you.

Marriage is a lifelong thing, who doesn't want to find a self-motivated two people to work together to build a small family?

But your current situation is very difficult, unless you can work hard and let your parents talk to him.

If he goes shopping with you and he doesn't have the money to treat you to a big meal, he'll be ashamed. This is for you to let him know that you don't care if he has money or not, as long as he is self-motivated and willing to work hard for your future, even if he sleeps on the streets, you will be with her. He may be both touched and grateful to you, and these complex mental activities, as well as your unwavering love, may become his motivation for progress.

The road is your own, no one can replace him, in the future, he wants to be your husband, let him feel that he loves you, he must bring you a sense of security, work hard, have a sense of responsibility, and at the same time encourage him, tell him that in your heart, he is the most capable, you support him, believe that he has strength, for your happiness, you also have to work hard, nothing is impossible, come on.

If you are not afraid of poverty, you are afraid of being unmotivated. You don't belong to the same level, so cut it when you deserve it.

Say that if you don't get a good job, I'll share ...... with youSometimes the gap in education level is too big, and it will be very painful to wait for marriage, so it is better to find a family background that is similar.

Actually, I don't think there is any need for such a man to bother with it.

It's very similar to what happened to me before, which makes us women feel very insecure.

Leave him as soon as possible, persuade him, and he will not have ambition in the future...

Tell you men, just say ......Your family told you that they were afraid that you would suffer if you followed him in the future! If he doesn't care about ......You just let him eat soft rice with you......Or break up with him.

I wondered how the two of us met.

Use it with affection. If it doesn't work, divide it.

Divide it......So that you will not be happy in the future.

Maybe he's still not mature enough! I also have the same problem as you, but if you want a person to become mature, it takes a process, and it is not so easy to change, if I am you, you are not old, you can still be together, but you have to slowly change him in life, but at the same time you should also have your own life and future plans (this is the most important), if he has always been like this, then your life will naturally be unhappy in the future, not love can solve all problems, if you don't change it, divide it, At that time, you won't be so sad, after all, you have grown up, your mind is more mature, and you have planned your life in the first place, so your life will not be disrupted because of your breakup, isn't it great?

People who are not self-motivated cannot change, if you don't believe it, try again, love without a career is a castle in the air, it will not last long, and true love is a beautiful flower blooming on the evergreen tree of career.

As for what to do, you can see for yourself. You're a college student after all.

It's not a matter of self-motivation, it's related, it depends on whether he has a sense of responsibility, he is very confused if he has no goals, but what you do for him will definitely be completed, if this is the case, you can put a little pressure on him, don't be too big, such a person can't afford to be hurt, but the situation will only slowly improve; If you want to do it all at once, first of all, do you have confidence in yourself?! Then set a goal for him, at least within a year can afford to live in a house, can afford to buy milk powder, don't live with him, easy to have a sense of dependence, men only when they have been prodigal, only to understand how rare it is to have a home, of course, men are easy to change their minds, occasionally see the following is necessary, and his colleagues have a good relationship, under supervision, don't live together, men's sense of dependence is unacceptable.