I was depressed and panicked, and I was hurt by not being rewarded for my efforts

Can you be humble, your family's wealth is also your parents', and the down payment for buying a house is a piece of the second elder's heart, and the two of you should be grateful together, don't always think that this is what you pay and your husband takes advantage of it alone. A good wife should be wise, and if you want to live a prosperous life, you can not contribute to it, but you should come up with ideas. Don't think of yourself as a man's pet.

The sorrow of a woman! I am also a sad woman, but my troubles are different from yours, but they are also sorrowful.

My husband is also a bad family, we didn't buy a house when we got married, but my parents gave him 20,000 yuan to do business, at the beginning it was quite good, last year a single loss of more than 100,000 yuan, almost bankrupt, it stands to reason that I have been living very poor since last year, I am very aggrieved, but he often ignores my feelings, and says divorce at every turn, let me find a rich man and the like, in fact, our previous relationship was quite good, Otherwise, my parents would not have let their daughter marry him when he had nothing, but now our small family is getting worse, he often finds a reason to ignore me or speak coldly, I am materially tortured by no money, and mentally tortured by him, sometimes I feel that men are really incomprehensible, obviously women are hurt, but he is justified. Alas, it feels better to say it, you have to rely on yourself to really solve the problem, and I don't want my parents to worry about it, do my best to maintain the marriage, give men confidence, let them achieve something in their careers, maybe everything will be fine. A man is always afraid that his wife will look down on him, so sometimes there is a lot of pressure, and a lot of contradictions arise, I think your situation is the same as mine, let's work hard together to make my husband's life easier, don't make him feel inferior, I believe the true love of the past will come back!

Since you have already paid, don't be psychologically unbalanced.

Who doesn't want to be rewarded for themselves? However, it backfires, giving does not equal return, so they are not proportional...

If you put it on a mathematical formula, it is absolutely proportional!

However, if it is a relationship, many people can't say anything about the relationship!

So why care how much you give? How much did he or she reciprocate?

If you really love him or her, what is it to pay for him!?

If he or she is happy, won't you be happy too!?

If what you pay is only what you want in return, then you still pay sincerely!

This is life, it is the process of growth.

When you face a lot of things like this, it's not strange because you've long been numb.

Some things don't just have to be paid, they also have to pay attention to a little way and method!

As long as you give sincerely, it will definitely be rewarded, maybe not tangible, but it is also a kind of wealth.

Life will make us less youthful and vigorous, it will make us more mature and stable.

That's life! Don't sigh, don't grieve.

I've been troubled with this question, and I'll give you my final answer! Tranquility of mind As long as you give in a calm face, there will be a corresponding reward, even if it is not reciprocal. Pay often, but the return is not often, do have a clear conscience, and care about what returns.

It's inevitable to be sad. Let's take a look at the other landscapes... The world is huge.

There is no return for only paying! That's love!

The crows in the world are not ordinary black, and I have the same situation as you, but everyone looks in a different direction. When the reality is far from our expectations, we will choose to work hard to recover, sometimes it backfires, we feel that it is not right, unfair, things should not be like this, but everything in front of us is a fact; In this case, most people will be quiet, irritable, and start complaining; At some point, if you get hurt, maybe you think, this is nothing, but after a long time, there are many times, and that's another matter; Sometimes I often think that I have worked very hard here, but in exchange for it, it is not the result of the previous negotiation, sometimes I have worked hard to do things, but in exchange for the dissatisfaction of the superiors, I am obviously not at fault, but in the end it is myself who is wrong; Most of the time I put up with it, I can't help it, I'll follow up and pick it out, and now I'm thinking about whether it's time to change jobs, after all, I've been working here for 3 years.

The black-hearted boss of the dog, Lao Tzu has also encountered it! Forget it, just leave! ~~

I don't have the same momentum as I used to think about changing jobs.

Everything is pretty much the same, so you might as well do it yourself.

You're going through exactly the same thing as mine, and I don't know what to do.

Do the people you give love you, where does the return come from if you don't love you, the more you give to the people who don't like you, the more it hurts you, give up, find the people who also give to you, don't let it go the same way as you.

Although no one pays much in love, as long as they love each other. But who can do it, the one who pays more is always the most injured. If true love doesn't care so much, you think it's worth it.

It's not that you're not good enough, maybe sometimes people have a mentality that what you can't get is the best, and you won't cherish what you've got.

It's not that you will be rewarded for paying, you have to pay conditionally, if you keep paying, the other party will be afraid of you, and the only thing he can do is to push you further, because he subconsciously doesn't want to owe too much to others.

If you really like someone, then you will not ask for a return for your silent efforts.

1It's all about yourself and others don't care. In fact, every time we love we can't be too blind, blindly paying, will not necessarily get the approval of others, because the other party has no feelings for you, don't like you, why should we deceive ourselves, it is better to let go, let go of others, and let ourselves be free. There are too many unfair things in the world, and in love, you can't count the gains and losses by giving in return.

When you really fall in love with someone, even if you give more, it is a kind of joy, because you feel that you can give for the other person, rather than having more than enough to do;And when you complain that you can't get someone else in return for your efforts, it's not pure love anymore. Now you need to stop and think carefully about what kind of love is the kind of love that really needs you to give, rather than cheap emotions that are easy to touch. Love is not a blind pursuit, because then we will only be tired in the end, love, is not an antidote to emptiness and loneliness, chicken ribs, indifferent love will also make us more and more lonely, and love is more and more contrary to love.

Friend, please stop and think about whether you need love or lonely companionship.

For man is not satisfied with the status quo ... Maybe you've made up your mind, but the other person isn't. Sometimes they just do it with the mentality of giving it a try, and it doesn't matter if they succeed or fail...

It is recommended that you must first recognize whether the other party is really suitable for you, and don't worry about what others think of you and what you say. Be sure to stay true to yourself, you don't need to change anything for anyone. If you change it it and it doesn't become you, especially in the early stages ...

You don't need to deliberately want to become the existence that the other person likes. People who like the real you will stay with you for a long time!! Maybe it's because you're deliberately changing yourself that it gives people an inappropriate, unnatural feeling.

I don't think many people will like that! Hope these words will be helpful to you. Because I am also like this, I pay but there is no return, which is the key to the problem summed up in my failures again and again!

Hope it helps!!

Love mainly depends on how you treat it, plain love is true, when you fall in love with someone, don't care about the romance of love and many ways of love, this everyone's way of loving is different, don't be dissatisfied, too greedy, will lose rare true love, some people say that love will not last long, I think it is wrong, love has a long time, because you do not protect true love, it will lead to love is short-lived, will think that it will not last long.

To love someone, you have to trust each other, and to love someone, you have to understand each other.

To love someone, you must be tolerant with more heart, love someone to be broad-minded, and to love someone, you must respect each other's thoughts and opinions.

A person should support him or her more behind his or her back, not hinder him/her.

When you love someone and you have to face that he (she) can't accompany you, don't complain, and say to him (her) with a smile that I'm very good and happy.

To love someone, you have to hide your inner fragility and grievances, and don't let him (her) know.

Love someone There is too much love, maybe some people can't do it.

The important point is that love should be selfless and unrepentant, love should be clean and pure, without a trace of impurities, willing to do anything for him (her), when you fall in love, let him (her) be happy, as long as he (she) is happy, is the most important.

Love is a kind of giving, which does not need to be reciprocated, and it is because you love him (her) that you have so much love to give and give. If you give and want to get something in return, then it's not love, it's called mutual dependence. If you are true love, then there is something wrong with your view of love, real love is giving, you may be willing to give, but you always can't get his (her) comfort, it may be that he (she) did not give you a love response.

In love, the response of love is the sustaining motivation to continue to love. It's also very important.

Love is just an emotion, because everyone is different, so the emotional acceptance of you is limited, only when you really meet the emotions that can accept you to the maximum extent that you call love, your return will meet your own wishes, and the reciprocity of love is not a common concept, you need to relax your mind, look at the return a little lighter, you will no longer have such a feeling.

If you regard sincere efforts as a belief in the outlook on life, you will feel that as long as you sincerely pay, you will be very happy, and you will not care about the results. If you meet someone who you really give, and at the same time, he will also pour out his heart and lungs for you, cherish it! Moreover, sometimes, the expression of giving must be appropriate and effective, otherwise it may even backfire!

True love is not about reciprocation. It's just about hurting each other. Love is meant to have wins and losses, laughter and tears, and sweet love does not exist from beginning to end.

If you choose, let go and love. He is not you, you are not him, you are you, so don't force him to understand you completely, because you can't understand him either, don't lose yourself while loving, don't forget your dreams, keep your own world, there will be no world to think nonsense.

Don't say that there is no return for giving, you have been rewarded, that is the experience of love, this experience will make you better understand what love is, isn't it? Don't be dissatisfied, you will be rewarded for your efforts, it's just that you don't value and recognize what you get.

One explanation is that your luck is so rare that you don't know how to cherish it. Of course, there is another explanation, which is that maybe it's your problem. It is easy to find out about other people's problems, but it is easy for us to ignore them.

If there is a problem or a situation, if it were me, I would think that the problem will never be one-sided, and the mistake is always caused by two people. "The above only represents a personal point of view, if you are offended, I hope you will forgive me".

It means that you are too stupid... I don't know how to summarize in love, some people you really give, the other party must be sincere to you, some people you hold the attitude of the game, she may be obedient to you...

It shows that the way you pay did not impress the other party, and did not pay to the other party's heart!

That's because you haven't met the right person yet, don't be sad, the beautiful scenery is still behind, and the right person will be waiting for you not far away.

Love is not the same as career, it is not that there is a return for paying, adjust your mentality, continue to work hard, no return means that you don't pay enough, if you can get a return for a little bit of pay, it will be too worthless.

That only shows that it is not true love. What is the definition of your true love? Is it that you love him very much, whether he loves you or not, is it true love?

I think true love is true love for each other, he is not your unilateral giving, and his continuation is not because of your unilateral giving, so you should be relieved. Believe that true love has not yet arrived, but sooner or later it will come.

Love is a thing that is simple and simple, complicated and complicated, some people who like you don't like you, and some people who like you but you don't like it. As the so-called people I love have a master, the people who love me are miserable, it's good to be calm, I have always believed that the person who really belongs to me is also waiting for me, come on, the person who really loves you will not make you sad, and the person who makes you sad will not be your beloved.