How to solve the problem of encountering a second injury, unable to let go and unable to give up?

If we encounter secondary damage in our emotions, it is indeed easy to leave us with a psychological shadow. At this time, on the one hand, we will be difficult to let go of this emotion, and on the other hand, it may be difficult to let go of the person who has caused us harm. What should we do at this time?

We can't forgive the people who hurt us, but we are reluctant to leave each other, and in the end we don't know where to go. If it were you, how would you solve it? From the author's point of view, it can actually be operated like this:

1. Don't give the other person another chance to hurt yourself.

If this person has already hurt you once before, and after you forgive the other person, the other person continues to hurt you, then you should not continue to give the other person a chance. Because if you accommodate the other party without a bottom line, then the other party is likely to become more serious, and there may be a third, fourth, or even fifth time of damage. We don't need to make our lives so difficult, we should stay away from each other as soon as possible, and we don't have to have too much attachment to the past.

Because the other party is not worth so much from us.

2. Don't be reluctant to leave.

Since this person has brought us a second harm, even if you lived happily before, the damage has been substantially generated, bringing a great shadow to your soul. At this point, it is necessary for you to look back and see if it is still worth remembering. In the author's opinion, many times we are constantly interrupted, and in the end we are disrupted.

It's better to be rational at the beginning and treat this emotion calmly. Don't be rash or emotional, but learn to protect yourself in the process of falling in love. Love yourself first, and then others will respect us and love us.

3. Don't force yourself to be relieved.

If you can't let go of the hurt you've caused to others, there's no need to push yourself. In a short period of time, your psychological shadow area is quite large, and what we can do at this time is not to be involved with the other party, so that the other party will not affect our emotions. We'll be able to live quietly.

Living with someone who is always hurting us is not as happy as we expected. So don't be afraid that your life will be bad after leaving each other, you can also stand up strong and learn to take care of yourself.

You should make yourself decisive, and at the same time, you should let yourself build up faith, and you should know how to love yourself, and at the same time, you should pay attention to the solution.

I think you should try to change your mind, because only then can you live a better life without being hurt.

You should keep your head up, the earth will not stop turning because of this one thing, so your life will go on, and there will be wonderful things in the future.

In this case, you should still let yourself go on a trip or do some other things, so that your heart does not think too much about each other.

A wounded heart is hard to heal, like a broken mirror that can no longer be glued together. Some feelings are not suitable, even if they are unforgettable, they will not change the ending, and what was not suitable before will not be suitable in the future, this is fate. Some of the love is so deep that it is so unforgettable that after many years, although the wound has healed and is not painful, the scar is still shocking.

Without trust in a relationship, you can never go back to the way it used to be. Breaking up is actually a growing experience, and all lovers who can break up show that your fate is not his. But after a breakup, many people can't really let go, and their obsessions end up making them unhappy.

When it comes to the injury and can't let go, it means that you have paid a lot, and you have not reaped the results you want, but many times the effort is not rewarded and does not ask for returns.

Whether it is emotion or life, why should you be so troubled by the previous hurts, that is just a futile increase in troubles for yourself, why embarrass yourself so much? Life is still full of sunshine, and it is an incomparably beautiful thing for us to bask our mood in the sunshine. Single-minded, upright, and kind for the rest of your life.

Choosing to forgive will not save you, it will only make you more aggrieved. Because, this is a denial of what you have paid in the past, do you really want to? To be a man, you must love and hate clearly, love the person who should be loved, hate the person who should be hated, love and hate are all energy, and sooner or later it will affect people, that is, there is a reincarnation in heaven, and the sky forgives whom.

I used to think that I would shed a lot of tears when I was sad, but it turned out that when my heart died, there was not a single tear. There is no joy when you laugh, no tears when you cry, no comfort when you are sad, and no retention when you leave. Don't forgive the person who hurt you, because even if you really forgive the pain, you can't make up for it, and turning away may be the best way, some things are doomed from the beginning.

There is nothing to forgive and not forgive, and there is nothing that cannot be passed, it will slowly disappear, whether you love it or not, the other party knows better than anyone else.

When encountering such a situation, you still have to analyze your inner psychological and emotional situation clearly, so that you can find a way to make a singer and make a solution.

You should immediately look away from yourself or start a new relationship, so that you can forget the pain caused by this injury and you can divert your attention.

You have to be sensible, think carefully, don't be too emotional, and it's best to stay away from each other, so that you can protect yourself.

You should adjust your mentality, since you have been hurt, you should slowly learn to let go and let go, don't let yourself fall into negative emotions, and don't put too much pressure on yourself.

I have a deep understanding of this problem, and I will stupidly think about all kinds of "revenge"...Especially for the eight years of marriage, all the efforts seem to have touched him, and he has already embraced her in his arms in the past two years, ignoring my ...... existenceFor my mother-in-law's family, they even united to calculate me, wanting me to leave the house, the beauty of the past is just my own fantasy, and my daughter-in-law will always be an outsider's ......Now I sometimes can't cross this hurdle, although I know that this is a disguised torture ...... myselfI hope to learn to put it down early!

Relax, as you get older, you'll find that nothing is happening now. For example, if you send a message in your circle of friends, today's incident makes me very sad. But after three years, you will find that if you don't write about anything, you don't want to come to the day of what makes you very sad.

Some things work hard, and there may not be results, it's not your fault, and your efforts must be in vain. Maybe it's because we're not very good at building relationships with people like those at the same table, even if we've done everything we can.

Perhaps, it's not our fault, but he doesn't want to play with us, and as for whether this is the case, why it is so, this may need to be explored again, if you are interested in what he thinks.

In the long run, if it has a long-term bad impact on you, you need to tease and solve it, and you don't need to be polite. When you realize the long-term, you will understand how to make trade-offs, and what to do will naturally not need anyone to teach you. When you are entangled in the little abacus of the self, you are asking for trouble, and if you are not satisfied, you will do it until you establish a peaceful relationship between the two sides, and then you can stabilize for a while.

What I met is similar to you, and now I am slowly letting myself go, I can't help it, I can only blame myself for my bad luck, I don't know how to protect myself, and I have seen too little of the world. The fact is that this is already the case, you just need to find someone who can accept your past and is willing to be with you.

You should make a choice, give up the relationship, and then leave the city to start a new life, go out for a walk, and travel.

You should try to let go, because you have already suffered the second injury, so you should not allow yourself to continue to be hurt.

I'm deeply aware of it, because I'm going through it right now. I know it's hurt, but I just can't let it go. You must be envious and ruthlessly cut off the connection between you.

If he contacts you again, you must also block and cut off all contacts with him and answering people.

In such a situation, you should discuss the matter with your good friends and then make the right decision.

If we encounter a secondary injury emotionally, it is really easy to leave us with a psychological shadow. At this time, on the one hand, it may be difficult for us to let go of this feeling, and on the other hand, it may be difficult for us to let go of the person who has hurt us. What should we do at this time?

We can't forgive the person who hurt us, but we are reluctant to leave the other person, and in the end we don't know what to do.

If this person has hurt you once before, and after you forgive the other person, the other person continues to hurt you, then don't give the other person another chance. Because if you give in to the other person without any bottom line, the other person is likely to get worse and there may be a third, fourth, or even fifth injury. We don't have to make our lives so hard.

At this time, we should stay away from each other as soon as possible and not be too attached to the past. Because the other party is not worth so much.

Broken hearts are hard to heal, just like broken mirrors can't stick together. Some feelings are not suitable, even if the heart is broken and the liver and intestines are broken, it can't change the ending. What was not suitable before will not be suitable in the future.

That's fate. Some loves are deep and unforgettable. Although the wound has healed for many years, the scar is still shocking.

Without trust in a relationship, you can never go back in time. Breaking up is actually a growing experience. All lovers who can break up show that your fate is not his.

But after a breakup, many people can't really let go, and their obsessions end up making them unhappy. When it comes to injuries that you can't let go, it means that you put in a lot until you don't get the results you want, but many times, you don't ask for anything in return. Be sensible and think carefully, don't be too emotional, and stay away from each other, so that you can protect yourself.

You should adjust your mindset. Now that you have been injured, you must slowly learn to let go, don't let yourself fall into negative emotions, and don't put too much pressure on yourself. If you can't let go of the harm you've caused to others, there's no need to force yourself.

The area of your psychological shadow is quite large in a short period of time. What we can do at this time is to stop getting involved with the other person so that the other person does not affect our emotions. Then we can live in peace.

Living with someone who is always hurting us is not as happy as we think. So don't be afraid that your life will get worse after leaving each other. You can also stand up strong and learn to take care of yourself.

To adjust your mentality and strengthen your inner thoughts, you can go out shopping with your girlfriends, karaoke, so as to put yourself in a state of extreme relaxation, and then make corresponding decisions.

At this time, it is necessary to stop the loss in time, because the other party has caused you more than one harm, and it is possible that it will continue to hurt you later, so you must start a new life and contact new people.

Adjust your emotions, slowly learn to let go, growth is to learn to be lonely, make yourself better, outstanding, and find a better person.

Maybe many times after experiencing a lot of things, you will find that some injuries cannot be healed, because sometimes I think that many of us may know that many of us need to let go of many things, but a lot of injuries remain in our minds, and there is no way to make it disappear completely, because the injuries at that time are too serious, whether it is in childhood or when I grow up, I will encounter this kind of injury. I feel like what I encountered in junior high school was the most hurtful hurt I felt I could not let go of, and even now I can't forgive that person.

My family itself is very happy and harmonious, and there is nothing special about it. So I don't really have a lot of this kind of heart for my friends. Then when I was in junior high school, I met someone unladylike and met an indescribable classmate.

Now that I think about it, it's actually a kind of school violence, but it's cold violence, we just slowly became good friends, and then after becoming good friends, she really changed more and more to me.

Later, I experienced a lot of things, I fell into low self-esteem or fear for a period of time, I didn't dare to make any more friends, I felt very pitiful, that helplessness and disappointment were all brought to me by her, and she was really a smiling tiger, she was really a green tea. I still can't forgive him, and I think maybe I didn't break my face with him in the end, but I'll never forgive her in my lifeWhen I meet such a person, I should teach myself a lesson. Luckily, I haven't really met any bad friends since then, because after you have really experienced it, you will be more accurate in looking at people.

I think that many times some injuries are inadvertently given to myself, then at this time I may not choose to resist a lot, but for me now, if I am really hurt, I will definitely choose to resist, but for the previous hurt I will not let go, nor do I really forget, but I will not forgive, nor will it affect my life, just say that I can live a normal life without mentioning him.