How can I not let others affect my emotions?

Learn to face your true self.

Only if you know what kind of person you are, have an objective judgment of yourself, do not exaggerate your own advantages, and clearly know your shortcomings, and do not deny your own shortcomings, will you not be affected by external objects.

Develop the ability to gather information and sharp judgment.

Only when you have enough knowledge of things and collect enough information can you know the beginning and end of things and the reasons for them, and you will not blindly blame yourself, collect more information that you don't pay attention to in life, and understand the occupations and personalities of the people around you, so that you can judge the objective reasons for things through information.

Judgment is the ability to make decisions based on gathering enough information. Only when there is enough information will there be accurate judgment.

Keep a calm mind.

Only when you are calm in the face of things will you not be taken away. For example, when you meet a garbage man, you know that this is just a stranger's vent, and you don't need to take it to heart. When you encounter something angry, silently count to 10 in your heart before you speak, maybe in this short period of time, you have calmed down.

Be assertive and decisive to see who can move your emotions

It has its own principles, its own theorems.

What to do and what not to do. You have to have an objective understanding.

If you want to be able to prevent others from affecting your emotions, you must make yourself mature. And let yourself have a better ability to manage this emotion.

1.Usually we are able to let others affect our own emotions because of ourselves, and we regard some things in the outside world as particularly important. Even many unimportant things in the outside world, we take them too seriously and can't let them go.

So in the end, it must be us who are hurt. That's when we need to have our own sense of independence. When we have an independent consciousness, we can think more about our own state when we think about things.

It is not easy to be disturbed by the outside world, and it is not easy to be emotionally affected by others.

2.The second is actually to have a good emotional management ability. As a high-level animal, we have our own emotions and six desires, and things are not particularly simple.

Therefore, it is necessary to have your own emotional management. When we encounter criticism from our leaders in the workplace, we can pretend that we don't hear it. Usually when some people say bad things about us, we can ignore them.

In this way, we can make ourselves more stable and not let others pull us.

3.And the most important thing is to learn to transform your emotions. I have my own way, that is, when I encounter some unhappiness, I will hide in a place to listen to a song, or do something I like.

Or do it yourself. At this time, my own world is blank. There will be no interference from the outside world.

Therefore, it is impossible to be disturbed by other people's emotions, and you are the most perfect.

Take everything lightly

If you want not to let the emotions lead, you first have to learn to prosper, cold means that everything has to be seen to be more indifferent, you don't need to care about anything, you just need to care about yourself.

There is such a story, a man who is not accustomed to a wise man, always speaks ill of him in front of him or behind his back, slanders him, day after day, and one day, the wise man comes up to him and asks him, if you give someone a gift and others do not accept it, whose gift is it, he, of course it is mine, the wise man then asks, then if you insult others, and others do not accept it, whose insult is it...The man was speechless....

So how, exactly?

First of all, we need to have a proper understanding of emotions.

1.Performance Status:

Emotions are a state, not the problem itself. To solve the problem, not to eliminate the state, fever, to find out whether the body has inflammation, what is the problem, not just put an ice pack on the head.

2.Inner Feelings:

Inner feelings are what lead to emotional states, so what is it about Suiyan that causes different inner feelings?

Let's look at an example:

You're attending a training session right now, and you're listening very carefully, when suddenly the teacher rushes off the podium, snatches your phone, and yells at you, "How did your parents teach you when you were a child?!" Playing with mobile phones in class, do you know how to respect people! Are you sick? ”

Then in front of everyone, the more he scolded, the more fierce he became.

Excuse me, how do you feel right now?

It must be angry, will you stand up and go back immediately? Even clenched his fists, guessing that Yuanyin was ready to swing at any time?

But if you received a message like this before class:

The teacher I shared with you today is a little insane, and he forgot to take his medicine when he went out this morning, so you have to be careful.

At this time, the scene just happened again, how do you feel in your heart?

Maybe it's not anger but fear, it's not that I want to go back, but I want to hide away quickly.

Why do you show very different emotional reactions to the same scenes, the same people, and the same things?