The bride price is 300,000 yuan, and I borrow 200,000 yuan to buy a car for my brother in law when I

I don't know why there is a saying that there is a bride price for marriage, how many families now, how many parents, because the son is married, after the bride price, the family owes a lot of debts at once, and the children should be happy to get married, but because of the bride price, the family is really happy, the family is sad, and how much, because of the bride price, the result is that the lover can not become a family in the end?

My girlfriend and I are in love freely, in fact, the conditions of my family are relatively good, although both of us are in the countryside, but because I have a father who has been in business since I was a child, and has been in business until now, so relatively speaking, the conditions of our family should be said to be very good. And the conditions of my girlfriend's family are worse, her parents are farmers, and they have always made a living from farming, and there are two sisters and brothers in her family, and I fell in love with her, and I didn't think about these family conditions.

But I have to say that love is a matter of two people, but marriage is different, marriage is completely a matter of two families, from the beginning of the discussion of marriage, it will involve the issue of bride price, although I am quite disgusted with the bride price, but others give bride price when they get married, I can't say no, and it may be that my mother-in-law knows that the conditions in our family are good, so she opened her mouth to ask for a bride price of 300,000 yuan, you know, most of our bride price is only 100,000 yuan.

My mother-in-law said this number, and there was no room for reciprocation, because of this incident, the two families also had a stalemate for a long time, but in the end our family compromised, in order to fulfill the happiness of me and my girlfriend, I thought that giving this money was enough to satisfy my mother-in-law, but what I didn't expect was that when we were about to get married, my mother-in-law found me again and wanted to borrow 200,000 yuan from me, saying that the 300,000 yuan bought a house for my brother-in-law, and now I want to borrow 200,000 yuan to buy him a car.

At that time, I didn't even think about it and refused, my parents raised me, and it was their responsibility to marry me a daughter-in-law, but they were not obliged to take care of my brother-in-law, right? Hearing my refusal, my mother-in-law directly denied me as a person, and even said that I had a problem with my character, and said that I should reconsider whether to marry my daughter to me, saying that I couldn't give her daughter happiness because I didn't treat them as a family at all.

After listening to my mother-in-law's words, I suddenly felt very funny, I love my girlfriend, which is undeniable, but love is not blindly compromise and forbearance, let alone giving without choice, so in the end I told my mother-in-law that I will not get married this time, and I will pay back 300,000 yuan.

I can't get married like this. Such a brother-in-law family uses their daughter and son-in-law as an ATM to buy a car for their brother-in-law, which is just beginning.

In fact, for this kind of thing, if you feel that the bride price is too much, you can go to discuss with the woman, after all, after the marriage, for the relationship between two people, it is more about learning to communicate, as long as you have a firm idea in your heart, this marriage can be completed.

The bride price of 300,000 yuan is not a lot in ordinary second- and third-tier cities, so this part should have been given to the woman's parents. But just lend the money to my brother-in-law to buy a car, make an IOU, and ask him to pay it back. If you can afford to borrow money and want to lend to someone, don't ask after the fact.

In fact, this marriage cannot be married, because such a woman is often very greedy and cannot give you happiness.

Summary. In China, buying a house has always been early. They just got married, and this house should be just needed, and it should be bought early.

It's more troublesome to have children go to school, so ask your son to tell her daughter-in-law about it. Unless her mother's family is in trouble, she will have to come back at least partially.

Before his son got married, he gave his daughter-in-law 300,000 yuan, and said that he would buy a house. Now the in-laws don't give it, saying that it is the bride price.

I'm [comparing hearts].

Hello, 300,000 yuan before marriage, said that it was good to buy a house. Now it is said to be bride price, which means that the seller wants to keep the money. If the in-laws are concerned about the bride price, then did the marriage give the bride price at that time?

Again, the socks are cautious and teasing, and the attitude of the daughter-in-law is very important. If it had been said at that time, the in-laws would have reversed their word like this, and the daughter-in-law, as the contact between the mother's family and the mother-in-law's family, would have come forward to persuade her.

Your daughter-in-law and son's attitude is that they want to come back, as a way to buy a house, or have enough funds, forget it.

The money is not enough, and the son wants to come back. The daughter-in-law did not express her position.

Uh-huh. It's best if you let your son communicate with his daughter-in-law first.

Because this involves the in-laws, it is not enough, the house cannot be bought, and for couples, buying a house is a big deal.

If the negotiation between them is not good, the house cannot be solved, and it will also affect the feelings of young people.

If the negotiation fails, is there any other way?

If the daughter-in-law doesn't agree, don't ask for this

We don't want to affect their feelings, so we can only go to other channels to raise money, or delay buying a house in advance.

Understood, thanks.

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In China, buying a house has always been early. They just got married, and this house should be sold and just needed, and it is even more important to buy it early. It's more troublesome to have children go to school, so ask your son to tell her daughter-in-law about it.

Unless her mother's family is in trouble, she will have to come back at least part of the rent.

Don't be too anxious and anxious.

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Of course it's unreasonable, this should be a typical "brother demon". It is reasonable to be reasonable, at most you have the responsibility and obligation to take care of your father-in-law and mother-in-law, and the brother-in-law is a bit excessive.

Irrationality. Because you are not obligated to pay this money, not even your wife.

Unreasonable, because you are not obligated to give this money to your brother-in-law, so don't give him money, don't make him feel that you should give him money.

Marriage is actually a man and a woman who go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a marriage certificate, that is, they are legal husband and wife. Then rely on the husband and wife to work together to run a house, buy a car, and have children. As for the division of labor between the husband and wife in work and housework, whether to have children, how many children to have, and whose surname the children are, it is all a matter for the husband and wife to discuss internally.

Since ancient times, marriages have been based on the right match. Door-to-door pairs include economic door-to-door pairs, intellectual door-to-door pairs, and ideological door-to-door matches.

Arguing about the bride price is essentially a manifestation of the wrong door.

The marriage should be a dowry of n yuan from the man's family and a dowry of n yuan from the woman's family, and the 2n yuan belongs to the newlyweds.

Spending 500,000 yuan but not getting married, this is a fraud, you should be held responsible, you must be responsible.

I think if you have the financial ability at home, then you can help, anyway, it's not that you don't pay it back, and you will be a family in the future, so you don't have to worry so much.

I don't think there's any need to get married, it's not a marriage anymore, it's completely selling a daughter.

If you and your girlfriend don't have any feelings at all, you can withdraw from the marriage, and if you have feelings, you shouldn't miss out on a good marriage for money.

I think this situation should be carefully considered, if you have feelings for your wife, I think this marriage should not be withdrawn, after all, the bride price is given to others, and it is his freedom to dispose of it.

I think you should get out of the marriage, such a family can't be a bowl of water, and it's equivalent to cheating on you, and you can't trust them in the future.

You shouldn't get out of the marriage. Your wife is very family-oriented and cares about her family. It shows that he is a very kind and family-oriented girl. You should be happy.

Yes, such a wife does not understand your difficulties, treats you as a money-making machine, and it is impossible to have a happy life.

I don't think you should pay this money, because the marriage of your brother-in-law is a matter for your wife's mother's family, and your wife has the obligation to be filial to her parents, but she has no obligation to support her brother-in-law.

My brother-in-law needs 300,000 yuan to get married, and my mother-in-law asks you to pay half of it, I don't think you should pay this money, but you can't refuse directly, you can let your wife communicate with your mother-in-law and do what you can according to your family situation.

My brother-in-law got married, I don't think you should pay this money, he got married by himself, why should you pay for it? I don't think you have the obligation, nor the responsibility, to pay this money, because even if you give this money, he will not necessarily be grateful to you in the future.

No, your brother-in-law is an adult, he should bear it himself, and you are not his parent, so you have no such obligation.

No, because the money should not be given to the son-in-law, who only has the obligation to take care of his mother-in-law, and has no obligation to take care of his brother-in-law.

It depends on the relationship between you and your brother-in-law, as well as your personal financial ability. If you have a very good relationship with your brother-in-law, and then you also have the financial ability, you can give this money to your brother-in-law. Then if your financial ability does not allow and the relationship with your brother-in-law is not very good, you will have less money.

Isn't that just right, I'm not happy to borrow it! 300,000 is not a small amount, who knows if it is a waste, and whether it can be returned.

I don't think you need to lend them money since your mother-in-law has already said such ugly things, because they won't accept your affection.

Since it's not rare, don't you just push the boat down the river and don't borrow it.

I shouldn't have borrowed it in the first place, so I just used my mother-in-law's words to cross the bridge.

Don't borrow a penny, don't borrow is an enemy, you borrow, or an enemy, the money is gone,

My wife and I are both from the countryside, although the family is not rich, but we have saved some money, the two of us have half a catty and eight taels of family conditions, but my wife also has a younger brother.

After we had been in love for about two or three years, my parents said, "We've been together for so long, and we've done everything we need to do."

Then, the parents of the two parties sat down to eat together, and when it was almost time to get married, my mother-in-law proposed a bride price of 200,000 yuan, and my parents were very surprised.

In fact, don't say that my parents were surprised, even I think it's incredible, it seems that my father-in-law and mother-in-law are very good, very kind, who knows that this heart is so black, how can rural people give so many bride prices when they get married?

My parents felt that 200,000 yuan was indeed a bit much, so they discussed with them and said: "Originally, I planned to get married and buy a house for the young couple in the city, but if the 200,000 yuan is taken out, it will be difficult to buy a house at that time." ”

Then my mother-in-law said: "Buying a house is your business, and paying the bride price is for you to marry my daughter, don't put it together and say, I raised my daughter so big, and I will hand it over to you in the future, and I will pass it on to you, and you are reluctant to pay this money." ”

Our family saw that her parents had no intention of giving in, so they simply agreed, in fact, I was afraid that my girlfriend would be caught in the middle and not be a good person.

After we went back, our family discussed: "She also has a younger brother in her family, and this money will definitely be gone if she takes it out, and if it is an only child, she will definitely return it to you." ”

Hey, I feel like things have come to this point, so I shouldn't worry about money.

Later, the date was also booked, and the wedding was held, and suddenly the old man said: "Let's go, take you two to see the car, my old man doesn't know how to buy a car, I don't know what car is good, you pick it." ”

After listening to my father-in-law's words, I was secretly happy for a long time, it turned out that the 200,000 yuan was not spent in vain, and this was going to take us to buy a car.

I resisted the excitement in my heart, and followed my husband to the 4S shop to see the car, and then the husband said: "Come on, come on, test drive it, if you can, I'll drive home, I won't drive." ”

As soon as I heard it, my father-in-law asked me to drive back? This is really for me, I calculated that all of them were more than 130,000, I gave 200,000 dowry, and my father-in-law bought me a car of 130,000 yuan in a blink of an eye, which is a lot.

When I just got out of the car and was about to go in, my father-in-law said to my wife: "Your brother said that he wanted to buy about 150,000 yuan, and this car is almost 130,000 yuan." ”

I felt a pain in my skull, was I being tricked? I thought that my father-in-law asked me to drive back one by one, and I drove my own home, but I realized that he couldn't drive himself, so I asked him to drive back.

I came up as soon as I got on fire, and I made it for a long time, and I was happy in vain. I was so angry that I kept kicking the tires of the car, and I really wanted to slap my old man.