Why is the child so disobedient during the rebellious period Isn t the parent good enough to raise h

I have a lot of tired problems today, I am also a post-90s generation, this is my summary of what I have been working for a long time, you should take a look.

1.Because parents sometimes have to force themselves to do what they don't want to do, I said the reason why I don't want to do it, but the parents still have to do it, so at this time I was very angry, and at this time I talked to the parents a few words, but I was very helpless. That's when we're all going to say (why do you have to force me?).

2.There is no space of our own, for example, parents touch their children's pockets at every turn, and ask what is bulging inside, which gives us a feeling of no freedom, and our privacy has been violated, and at this time there will be a feeling of boredom in our hearts.

3.Parents are too chattering, for example, a sentence has been said several times, so parents should also have a certain degree of chatter.

4.I hate parents in front of me money, for example, you buy a lot of fruit, but the child is not interested, don't say to him, don't eat is it a waste, spent a lot of money to buy, at this time it is easiest to pay you back, I didn't let you buy, you have to buy, you know the money all day long. (Children also know that it is not easy for you to make money, but they are very disgusted with parents who withdraw money at every turn).

Be your child's friend, listen to his ideas calmly, and give him a little advice. This is the best way to deal with the child's rebellious period. The various manifestations of the child's rebellious period represent that he begins to grow up with independent consciousness and requirements, which is the only way for the child to mature.

Please review whether your so-called "obedience" includes "unconditional obedience" to your childThe requirements?

That's because children generally reach adolescence and are somewhat rebellious, and that's because there will be some changes in their minds. At this time, you should ask the child what he encountered at school, and now some students have begun to fall in love, you should ask the child if she is troubled by these unhealthy things, and properly enlighten her.

The rebellious period of children is a normal phenomenon, and it is not recommended to see a psychologist, which will make the child's rebellious heart heavier.

In psychology, children generally have two resistance periods, the first is around the age of 12, which is called the first resistance period, and the second is around the age of 12, that is, adolescence, which is called the second resistance period. This is an important period for children's self-consciousness awakening, but also a normal phenomenon in growth, rebellious psychology is a unique phenomenon in adolescence, generally unprincipled things follow him, principled things to adhere to, do not rush to deny rebellious behavior, understanding and tolerance is the most important, let him know the relevant knowledge and truth, and let his emotions be vented. Try to communicate and interact with your child as much as possible, find out your child's strengths and encourage them, so that your child is willing to talk to their parents sometimes.

Parents can get through this period smoothly if they are accepted, respectful and understanding.

A very important problem for children in the rebellious period is to communicate with their families and relatives, if the communication is not smooth, it will stimulate the child's rebellious psychology, and there will be a series of indifferent or soft and hard behaviors.

Adolescent children are prone to rebellion, because adolescent children, although their physique and sexual organs develop rapidly, their psychological tolerance has not yet reached full maturity, so they often feel depressed and are often surrounded by various psychological contradictions. Then due to the instability of sex hormones, thyroid hormones, growth hormones and various hormones secretion in the body, the nervous system and immune function will also be affected to a certain extent. It is recommended to communicate with the child frequently, do not blindly reprimand and punish the child, but also pay attention to the child's psychological needs, if there are obvious psychological symptoms, you can seek help from a psychologist.

Don't deal with your child head-on in this way, learn to empathize, communicate more with your child, know what your child wants, and try to smile and help your child realize his wishes.

The child in the rebellious period should follow him, reduce the nagging when the flat liquid is dismantled, as long as you usually pay more attention to his daily travel life, don't cause trouble, after all, it is difficult to communicate calmly during the rebellious period.

If the child does not listen to his parents when he reaches the rebellious period, as a parent, he can slowly communicate step by step from the aspects that the child is interested in.

At this time, you need to be serious, which is helpful to yourself, and seriousness can bring a good countereffect.

After the child enters the rebellious period, he often does not listen to his parents, at this time, the parents should not treat the child as a child, but should treat him as a friend, and then talk to him calmly.

A child enters a rebellious period, which is the inevitable result of growth, as a parent, you should learn to empathize with your child's situation and communicate with them well.

1. Communicate with the child in a timely manner, find out the reasons for disobedience, guide him correctly, and reason with him.

2. Don't be too tough in your attitude, your tone should be gentle, he will be tougher than you if you are tough. Find out his merits, good boys are boastful. The shortcomings should also be pointed out, and they should be tactfully stated, and don't just say that you are wrong. It can be said that it is another child, and he understands.

3. Communicate more with the teacher, ask how the children are at school, most children are disobedient at home and are very obedient at school, if they are disobedient at school, find out the reason, and solve it with the teacher.

4. Chat with the parents of the children to see how their children are and how to guide their children to learn to communicate.

5. Walk into the child's inner world, play with him, play together, become his friend, chat together, and the child will tell you everything. Guide the child correctly according to the situation.

6. Let the child do what he wants to do, don't always let him do anything if he doesn't grow up, you don't let him do anything, the child thinks that you don't trust him and do his own things.

Parents should learn to restrain their emotions. When they see that their child's behavior is not in line with their own thoughts, they either communicate with the child in a peaceful way or stay away from the child for a while. Wait until both sides have calmed down before dealing with current affairs.

After all, children are individuals. Although they are very dependent on their parents when they are growing up, sooner or later they will leave their parents' arms and face their lives independently.

Therefore, in due time, parents should learn to be respectful, even if their ideas are childish and ridiculous. As long as parents are in the right direction, there is no need to interfere too much. If the child has been insisting on one wrong thing, then we can use the way to divert his attention to find another thing that he usually enjoys, and not let him dwell on one thing.

Children at this age are more likely to be curious about other things, but don't be too tough, or it will backfire.

Every child goes through a rebellious period, and parents shouldn't be distressed. At this stage, the child's sense of self is gradually formed, and he has his own ideas in his heart. On some things, they have their own unique ideas, and they often follow their own ideas.

To raise sensible and obedient children, parents must first set an example for their children. Many parents can't control their emotions well when educating their children. Instead, it will create more negative emotions in the child's mind.

First of all, you must learn to control your emotions, adopt and lower your tone, let your child let go of the inner cordon, and avoid your child's rebellious behavior.

Faced with the fact that the child has rebelled, the first thing parents have to do is to accept it. Because this is already the case, if you don't accept it, you will only have conflicts with your children, and the relationship will only become more and more stiff. Choosing to accept a child will make the child feel that you understand him.

Of course, acceptance does not mean that you agree with your child's behavior. You should tell your child that you understand his approach, but that doesn't mean his approach is correct.

There is a problem with the way we traditional parents educate their children, if they all follow suit, the children will go astray, how to govern the children is also a headache for parents, I think we should not beat and scold the child, we should actively encourage the child, guide him, sometimes follow him, patiently reason with him.

First of all, we can have a communication with the child to understand the child's real thoughts, and then start from the child's thoughts to govern the child.

Chat with your child attentively, understand your child's psychological world from your heart, accompany your child more, observe your child more, and teach your child more.