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Psychoanalysis: You hate who you are now, and you are 20 years old, and the events of the third grade of elementary school are still lingering in your mind, which has caused a change in your personality?

Those psychological shadows of the past are lingering?

Partner suddenly doesn't play with you and retorts to the boy.

The boy found almost the whole class of boys to beat you, and the people you were friends with were all watching.

Your sister didn't say anything, and your brother still used this matter to say that you deserved it.

After that, I don't like to laugh, and I don't talk without talking.

Just stay in a strange place with inexplicable fear.

Past betrayals and school violence have made you lose trust.

Quoting an encyclopedia entry to explain trust in detail: "Trust is the belief that the other person is honest, trustworthy, and upright." A stable belief that maintains the shared values and stability of society is the overall expectation of the individual to be trustworthy in the words of others, the promises and the statements.

You used to trust your classmates and friends and family, but you were disintegrated by violence and apathy. Mayer (1995) argues that "the three dimensions of competence, sincerity, and good deeds are the key dimensions of trust."

These studies are also partly a question of who people trust...

Get forward momentum when you get along with people.

Graceful interpersonal skills can give people new ways to express their real needs, to adapt themselves to most of the problems they encounter on a daily basis, to set principles to negotiate solutions to problems, provided that you maintain your social relationships and respect for all others around you, and effectively alleviate the real depression and irritability you feel.

The interpersonal and emotional cornerstones of our daily life:

Achieve your own goals and needs.

Maintain a relationship with each other.

Maintain inner self-esteem.

Promote a win-win situation for everyone.

Recommended books for use: Improve emotional intelligence and interpersonal relationships.

The Power of Conversation by Alan Garner.

Quoting from the encyclopedia entry: "Everyone has experienced the pain of losing a friend, the joy of victory, the exhaustion of solving difficult problems, the comfort of a warm summer day and the loss of being isolated in a crowd, everyone wants to find love, happiness and acceptance in life, and when you express this feeling to others, you want them to experience your feelings and also let you share their feelings." And with this kind of self-disclosure, you won't blindly expect that others care about your feelings, even if you've never told them about it.

Encouraging yourself to think creatively and think long term, to get out of your comfort zone and try something new, especially something you may never have planned, can help you cope with new situations more easily, it also helps to open your heart, in a fresh and quiet afternoon, it can help you come up with unusual new ideas and situations, and become more harmonious in your own life, when we are willing to face and accept the mistrust that exists in the relationship, maybe we can increase trust and get out of the past trauma, Embrace yourself that has not changed the number chain. zq

Psychoanalysis: You can deal with two things, one is the event itself, and the other is the emotions of the people you cared about.

Before you find a suitable consultant for you, you may wish to write these down, writing is a relatively safe practice, and the content and extent of writing can be controlled by yourself, so it is recommended to give it a try

You can try to allow yourself to recall the scene, although it is a painful process, but you can take your time and only recall it to a point where it is not very painful and bearable.

Gradually, allowing yourself to write down the details of the time, such as the expressions, movements, clothes, hairstyles, etc., of all the people you can remember, is the only way to reconcile. Need to face.

Try to write down your resentment against them and your grievances against yourself, and shout out loud if necessary, you can shout at a chair or a table in an environment that you think is safe, express your "hatred" for them over the years, and vent your crying to them.

For relatives and friends, hate is the only way to love, and it needs to be dealt with by Huihui.

The above two "simple" things are actually a very complex set of programs. Dealing with it on your own is only a temporary solution and will not completely solve the underlying problem. Therefore, it is more effective to complete it under the guidance of professionals.