Will anyone wish you were doing better than him?

Yes, I want people all over the world to be better off than I am. But the reality is that the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment.

If there are people in the world who wish they were doing better than them, they must be your parents.

There is a popular saying on the Internet: "Parents are here, and there is still a place to come in life; When parents go, there is only one way back in life". Yes, our parents are our most reliable emotional support, and they are the most comfortable existence in this world.

Parents are here, even if they are in their twilight years, they can still "be coquettish and cute" without feeling hypocritical at all; Parents go, even if they are still "hugging the quilt", they have to try to "treat tenaciously", because there is no help!

In this world, the only people who give everything for you wholeheartedly, but do not care about gains and losses, and wish you a good life are only our parents. Whether you are famous or lowly; Whether you have power or nothing, they always want to give the best of themselves to everyone. They are "happy with your happiness, happy with your happiness, sad with your sadness", and every feeling is as good as that.

Their love, like the flow of a river, is continuous; It is like a towering mountain, silent and silent; Whether you care or not, they've always been there. And when they are about to leave, you will realize that "the son wants to raise but does not wait" life will be bleak from now on!

Whether you are poor or poor, whether you are physically and mentally healthy or sick, I still love and respect you until I die and separates everyone. "Married life, so that two people who are in love have a new journey, no longer separated, and stay together together. Some people may say that nowadays, China's divorce rate is constantly **, and how to guarantee marriage is often a headache.

However, these people who truly love each other feel that their lives are too short to express that strong love.

Hand in hand to see the long stream of fine water, hand in hand to see the clouds rolling up and shu, ask you "porridge can be warm", give you "standing dusk", "for Yi to make people old, the clothes and belts are gradually widening and never regret it", this is the deep love of Chicheng, shuttling through time and space, the ups and downs are you, when the spring flowers bloom, you are in your youth, and you are full of gray hair! The days of each other have already "melted" the two into one person, "You are also happy, I am happy". That kind of love is probably the most beautiful face in the world!

Perhaps, in everyone's hearts, there is a special person, a person who has no fate. Once young and ignorant, I met love, but I didn't understand love, I felt that I would run for life, I felt that I was not qualified enough, I felt that it was still early, that's it, even if I had a deep love for a person, but I was like a "green plum fruit" from beginning to end, I never confessed, I never said a word, I carried it in my heart, and I silently obsessed with it for most of my life.

Or, until you finally figure out what kind of lover you want, you are no longer free. When you meet love, you don't dare to love, you can't forget, and you don't want to. But in the end, it is either to let the person who is located in reality, keep the life he already has, and stare at the other party obsessively, and become an unspeakable secret in his heart.

That kind of love, silent is better than sound; That kind of love is sour and sweet. "If you're well, it's a sunny day" has become the greatest wish between each other.

Your parents, your girlfriends, your siblings, and those who really want you to have a good life are often the only three types of people who care about you very much.

People who are close to you, who really think about you, who love us, who have nothing to do with us, these people will really want you to live well, and only if you live well, they will be happy and happy.

Because people have a comparison mentality, when they see that the people around them are better off than themselves, they will have a kind of hatred of the rich, and even poke each other's backbones in the back. When my husband and I first got married, our family was poor and had no savings. At that time, I quit my job to take care of the baby because I was pregnant, and my family life was very poor, and I was also looked down upon by relatives and friends around me.

Later, my husband and I relied on our own efforts to buy a car and a house in the city, thinking that the people around us would bless us, but we didn't expect them to become more indifferent and sneer at us all the time. Since then, I have understood that you can't care too much about other people's opinions, and no matter how well you are doing, there will always be people who gossip behind your back.

First, the people around you can't see your own good, which is a manifestation of selfishness. Some people who are cold by nature can't see people at all, and the people around them are better than themselves, and they will not be kind to others, and they always live in their own world. Once you find that your relatives and friends are better off than you, you will feel jealous and even slander each other's reputation behind your back, which is the sinister nature of human nature.

Second, human nature is so intricate, even if others don't want you to live well, you have to be self-reliant. We can't gag people, even if they don't want to be well, you have to learn to fight for it. Life is for yourself, you don't need to care about other people's opinions, as long as you keep making progress at all times, for the sake of dreams and having a better life, as for other people's opinions, you can completely ignore them.

Third, in the face of those who don't want you to have a good life, it's better to stay away as soon as possible. When we choose to make friends again, we should stay away from those who are jealous, because once you are better than the other person, they will slander them in every way. We should make some honest and selfless friends, when your life is getting better and better, they will bless you from the bottom of their hearts, and are eager to be your good friends for life, such people are worthy of your eternal cherishment.

2. Why does jealousy occur?

From an evolutionary psychology perspective, jealousy is an instinct. The main reasons can be divided into two points.

The first point is that the other person is similar to us and has a high degree of relevance. From a psychological point of view, individuals have a need for psychological balance. To put it simply, individuals under the same conditions should have the same level of achievement.

If not, it is easy to become jealous. Other people who are not very related to each other have little or no chance of being jealous.

To give a simple example, under the same conditions, one person is not admitted to university, and one person is admitted to university. Those who are not admitted to the university will be jealous of the university. And I will not be jealous of people who have good family conditions and will definitely be able to be admitted to university.

The second point is the individual's sense of unfairness. On the one hand, we tend to attribute the achievements of others to luck rather than hard work. On the other hand, it is to blame yourself for always encountering bad conditions to affect the results.

Eventually, jealousy arises due to dissatisfaction. Of course, these are the subjective judgments of the individual.

I hope you're doing well, but I don't want you to be better off than me."

That is to say, the individual's inability to face others calmly under certain conditions is due to regret efforts. Rather, they rely on their own subjective assumptions and think that they are lucky. From another point of view, it is also anxiety and fear of one's own environment.

In addition, psychological research has confirmed that the more we cannot prove that the other person's advantage is unfair, the stronger the sense of jealousy.

3. Jealousy is not only bad.

In the eyes of many people, jealousy is a pair of unbearable words that have a negative impact. But in fact, psychologists divide jealousy into "malicious jealousy" and "well-intentioned jealousy". That said, there is also a good side to jealousy.

The so-called "malicious jealousy" is to do some malicious and destructive harm to others. For example, hurting the envied person through rumors, slander, or malicious behavior. For example, some people deliberately speak ill of others behind their backs because of jealousy, and deliberately spread some insulting language.

Summary. Because no one will be jealous of unrelated people, nor will they compare themselves with people who have nothing to do with them, and jealousy will arise between people who are related and connected. The so-called classmates, fellow villagers, colleagues, girlfriends, and neighbors are most likely to be jealous, you will not be jealous of Ma Yun's wealth, nor will you be jealous of Dong Qing's talent and appearance, because they have nothing to do with you, so naturally they will not be jealous.

That's what human nature is. A person can allow irrelevant people to flourish, but can not tolerate the development of classmates, colleagues, girlfriends and other people around him, this jealousy is like a conditioned reflex, innate, but some people take it as a motivation, strive to surpass, and achieve themselves; And some people let jealousy ferment and become a catalyst for destroying their own feelings with others.

There may be people in this world who want you to do well,+ but most people don't want you to be better off than they are. How to get back +

Dear, you can reply like this. You said it very thoroughly, this is human nature. But the more this happens, the better we have to live<>

This sentence says that Huai is a kind of jealousy of people, to be precise, it should be: there are few people who have a relationship with you who have a lead and a good trembling comparability, and there are few people who really want you to live better than him.

Because no one will be jealous of unrelated people, nor will they be envious of people who have nothing to do with their brotherhood, but jealousy will arise between people who are related and connected. The so-called classmates, fellow villagers, colleagues, girlfriends, and neighbors are the most likely to be jealous, you will not be jealous of Ma Yun's wealth, nor will you be jealous of Dong Qing's talent and appearance, because they have nothing to do with you, so naturally they will not be jealous. That's what human nature is.

A person can allow irrelevant people to flourish, but can not tolerate the development of classmates, colleagues, girlfriends and other people around him, this jealousy is like a conditioned reflex, innate, but some people take it as a motivation, strive to surpass, and achieve themselves; And some people let jealousy ferment and become a catalyst for destroying their own feelings with others.