What should I do if a 12 year old boy doesn t listen to his scolding and reasoning?

The Son does not teach, and the Father is guilty.

Therefore, it is best to manage it strictly, move it with emotion, and understand it with reason, so that it will get better.

The nature of children is not bad, but the fault is habitual.

The child is now 12 years old, and has begun puberty, and he will not listen to any more scolding and reasoning, and the child should be disciplined well before the age of seven or eight, but now it is a little too late. The critical period for optimal education has passed.

So now stop all scolding and reasoning, and follow him every day as long as he doesn't go too far. If you have to talk to him more good things, say what he likes to hear, and then slowly correct him, it will take at least a few years, and it may not be successful.

This problem should be looked at from two aspects, on the one hand, the children, and on the other hand, the parents.

First of all, parents should say whether parents can educate their children to be trustworthy, whether they are to the point, whether they are kind, whether they are reasonable, whether they have done all of the above, and whether they can be verbose. If it makes sense, if you say it fifty times, anyone will be annoyed. If parents want to convince their children, they must have the capital to convince their children, and erudite, rational and peaceful parents and children are preferred.

Whether the parents' ideas are consistent, if not, the child will give priority to choosing what is beneficial to him (not necessarily more reasonable), and then criticize what is not good for him, and the confrontation will also escalate because someone supports him. This is more common if you are being raised in the next generation.

From the child, what is the child's own personality, is it impatient or selfish? Casual or timid? Each personality must have its own causes, find the reasons and countermeasures, and the child will also change.

Think about what kind of friends your child likes to make, similar people are more likely to like it, and helping your child make good friends can also lead your child to develop in a good way.

What books children love to read, and what kind of books they read, will form a corresponding way of thinking. For example, the children who love to read Ma Xiaodian, and the children of Ayu Online especially love to contradict the teacher in class, showing that they are different. Children who have read more on the Internet especially hate the trivialities in reality and always want to climb to the sky in one step.

Reading more books that are "grateful, filial, empathetic, and reasonable" can also turn children's minds around. For 12-year-old children, I recommend watching "The Forest Secret Words of Kuling", "Rebecca of Sun Creek Farm", "Three Copper Plate Tofu", and "Footsteps with Weight", which can help children understand their parents' hardships and reduce their anger.

Children in this period are rebellious, maybe you should pay attention to your way. Don't blame your child when he talks back to you. Parents often criticize their children on occasions without telling the way, which hurts the child's self-esteem and provokes the child's rebellious psychology.

It is necessary to follow the good steps and let the children accept the teachings of their parents willingly. When parents want to talk back to you, don't easily blame your children, and don't put parents on your children. When the child is reasonable, he can plead, and democracy should be promoted in the family and the child should be encouraged to plead.

There must be a reason for your child to talk back, so don't be too afraid.

The 12-year-old boy didn't listen to the scolding and reasoning, so I thought it would be better to find him someone who could control him. For example, the child's father or teacher. There is always someone who makes him willing to be obedient.

I think we can give him a change of environment. For example, change your class. Or a different teacher. That should have an effect. Children do not listen to education, because on the one hand, it is because the education method is not appropriate. On the other hand, the environment has had a negative impact on him.

I have heard a story, that is, a smart mother to a child who does not like to study, a primary school child told his mother that I don't want to go to school, my mother said that it's okay not to go to school, then we go out today to earn money, my mother takes the child all the way to pick up the rags, and then sells the money to buy things, see if we can live? Buying a child through Jane Sell understands that it is not possible to have no money, and it is not possible to have no ability to make money, so the child has been educated and obediently goes back to school. What can he do without studying?

What do you get? (┯

Let him earn his own money to support himself, and tell him who will serve the bowl and who will be in charge.

That's still not hard enough, and there is no one who can suppress him