Why is it so hard to get married? What is difficult about marrying?

1. The cost of marriage is too high.

Now that I am married, the house and car are already standard. The first question when you go on a blind date is whether you have a room, not only the girl's request, but also the girl's parents, and of course, the matchmaker's request. The attitude of having a house and not having a house in the eyes of matchmakers is really completely different.

If you don't have a house, the matchmaker has always been me, and I don't have any good resources here, so I don't want to help you pay attention to it. When you have a room, the matchmaker immediately takes out a bunch of girl resources for you to choose, and if one doesn't work, arrange the next one.

But for young people, without the help of their families, there are a few people who can really afford to buy a house on their own. If you want to have a house and a car in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, you really can't work for a few years. In second-, third- and fourth-tier cities, it is also very difficult to buy a house or a car compared to the wages of young people.

In the face of the current high housing prices, I believe that many people, like me, have no hope of struggle, look at their balance and look at the ** of the house, and instantly feel the terrible gap between the rich and the poor. Of course, there are bride prices, wedding rings, banquets, etc., everything needs money, and in this era, no money is really suitable for anyone. The cost of getting married is too high.

2. There are too many requirements for marriage.

As I get older, I find it harder and harder to find a partner because of the more and more requirements I have. A series of requirements such as height, appearance, work, family situation, etc. It's basically impossible to really find satisfaction, and it's especially difficult to find someone who is about the same.

Marriage is different from love, in addition to your own requirements, there are also various requirements of your parents. If you want to get married, it becomes very realistic, not only considering whether you have a car and a house now, but also considering a series of issues such as supporting your family after marriage, providing for the elderly, raising children, and so on. Sometimes it's harder to get married if you think about it too much, it's better when you're young, it's good to fool a stupid person to get married, the older you get, the more you worry, and the harder it is to get off the single in the end.

3. It is difficult to find a marriage partner.

The older I get, the more difficult it is to find that most of the people I can know around me are married, and it becomes more and more difficult to find suitable and satisfactory people. I am usually busy with work and overtime, and my life trajectory is only one line between the company and my home. Basic blind date has become the only way to get rid of singles.

But every time a blind date is introduced, there are crooked melons and cracked dates, and many girls are ugly and have special requirements.

Basically, now on a blind date, as long as you are single, you will pull it out to meet, and cast a wide net looking forward to meeting a blind person who takes a fancy to me. But the cost of blind dates is also very high, eating and watching movies cost money, and many of them are not followed when they meet, and blind dates are also a lot of expenses for a year. I really feel that the older I get, it's too difficult to get off the list.

4. The impact of the general environment.

Today's society is too impetuous and realistic. There are more divorces than marriages. Now that there are more and more older men and women, many people feel that it is normal not to get married, and more and more people would rather choose to be single than find a partner to marry.

Most of the girls I've been on a blind date with are in their 30s and still feel that they are still young and have no desire to find a partner. It's true that the older the girl, the more problems there are.

Is it difficult to marry because of your own vision? But I'm not in favor of compromise. Why bother to grieve yourself?

Nowadays, many young people are under too much pressure to cope with on their own, so why bother to let people accompany them? Marriage is also fate. As long as you meet the right one, nothing can stop it!

It can't be said that marrying someone is a difficult thing, it can only be said that your requirements for the object are too high, so it feels difficult to marry.

Marrying a person who is not motivated, not active and has domestic violence is difficult to bend, because he will not work hard for your future life because of you, nor will he use you as a driving force to blind him, if you want a good life, you have to work hard with him, if he doesn't work hard, you will have a spear and a late empty shield, and then there will be domestic violence, which will lead to a bad atmosphere in your whole family, so alone, freedom is not good.

First of all, with the development of the times, the social status of women is getting higher and higher, and the educational qualifications of young women are also getting higher and higher. In the past, most of the girls worked as housewives, taking care of the children at home, and basically did not go to work. And now, women are on an equal footing with men on the social stage, and many girls from all walks of life have become industry leaders, and female men and strong women can also dominate the workplace.

Therefore, compared with before, modern women are more independent and free, have their own thoughts and jobs, and no longer need men to support them. Even, many girls earn more than the boys around them, since they can support themselves, why find a man to support themselves. Money is a man's guts and a woman's face.

The more beautiful and capable a woman is, the less she needs a man, and the higher the requirements for men, and there are very few high-quality men around, and there is no shortage of excellent men. So, this is also the reason why more women choose to be single.

Secondly, women with relatively average families and women with average abilities want to marry a man who is rich or capable. As the saying goes, men are afraid of getting into the wrong business, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. If you marry an excellent husband, you may be able to live well for the rest of your life.

Therefore, when these women are looking for a partner, they will also have high requirements for boys, whether it is from family or work. Now, many college graduates will be twenty-four or five years old after graduation, and it is difficult to meet the needs of this group of women in three or four years. There are also current housing prices, bride prices, etc., and boys don't dare to find a partner when they have no money.

So, this is also the reason why many girls are single.

It is normal for people who are older and have been single all the time, and may become more and more anxious due to their own pressure or family pressure.

First, if the reason for the anxiety is simply because of being old and single. You can consider going on a blind date. But you can't be blind. After all, if you get married, you always stay in your own circle, you may not have the opposite sex, and it is difficult to meet the right one.

Blind dates are not something to be seen. Through blind dates, you can get to know yourself by meeting different people of the opposite sex. You can also better understand what kind of person you are suitable for and what kind of person you like in getting along, instead of standing still and waiting.

Second, keep improving yourself. What you call travel sports, these are really sports that can expand your career and also maintain your physical and mental health.

In addition to these, you have to think about what you have hobbies, in addition to your daily work, you have to cultivate your own interests and hobbies, and have a thing you like to do. It is also possible to meet different people through this hobby. The most important thing is that when you get off work and you devote yourself to the things that are in your hobby, you can avoid anxiety, avoid loneliness, avoid that sense of emptiness.

When you have your own things to do. There is no time to think about so much anxiety and not anxiety, single and not single. Naturally, you've probably met the right person.

Thirdly, you mentioned that work is generally good if your job is just to make ends meet. There is not a lot of upside. You can improve your skills in the job and move on to a more challenging job later.

If you have a lot of time to spare, you can consider taking some teaching certificates or other certificates. The other is reading, when a person is immersed in reading, he is selfless, she has been immersed in books, swimming in the ocean of knowledge, forgetting the gossip of the outside world, and has not yet given birth to children. These things can be replaced by your own hobbies and reading.

If a single woman wants to solve her anxiety about marriage, she must make herself independent. Let yourself achieve financial freedom through hard work, and then achieve a correct understanding of marriage through psychological independence, and then the life of a single woman will definitely be extraordinarily confident and chic. When a woman has such a good attitude, then she will remain calm in her relationship with a single man, have the ability to find a good man, and no longer worry about marriage.

Only when a woman makes herself independent can she get rid of this shackle. Of course, it is also directly related to people's personalities, so I hope that I can work hard to get out of this state.

01 Do your best in case of trouble, try not to regret that people's lives are not long, and try to live as much as you like. People will experience a lot of things in their lives, brother pure plus a lot of things can't **, instead of guessing all day long, it is better to stride forward, live the present, cherish the present, and strive to move forward. You should strive to do your best, don't regret yourself on the road ahead, and always maintain a life state of not looking back, full of expectations, and fearless.

This is the attitude that a woman should have in life. Women should learn to cherish, cherish what they have, strive to do what they like, and do their best in everything. As long as you are worthy of your heart, you will be worthy of yourself and live up to your life.

02 Know how to maintain a good attitude to survive in this society, you will face a lot of trivial things, many things are not something we can control, the only thing we can do is to maintain a good attitude. Sometimes no matter how much you toss, you can't change one thing, so it's better to pack yourself up and keep a good state to face the future. A wise woman who never complains, but learns to make herself better.

In real life, we will often hear such voices, some women either complain that their husbands don't help anything in their lives, and their children are disobedient, or their work is not going well, to be honest, complaining can't solve anything, they can only fall into that kind of negative energy, so they can't extricate themselves, and there is no way to live a better life. Instead of complaining in life, it is really better to change yourself, so that life will have a new turn. Blindly dwelling in pain will only accelerate the consumption of your energy and life, and make yourself more unhappy.

Whether in marriage or in life, a wise woman will face all the problems in life and know what to do and what not to do.

As far as family background is concerned, the most difficult person to marry is neither the children of poor families, nor the rich people of the second generation of officials and the rich second generation. It is some girls from well-off families, because they have a car and a house at home, they don't have to worry about food and clothing, they have a worry-free life, there will be no big problems in life, and they don't lack anything.

In fact, appearance is not a very important factor. Which one is the hardest to marry? It's a person who doesn't have self-knowledge of what he looks like.

I once introduced a classmate to a partner, and I asked her if she had any requirements, and she said that she would just match me. As a result, she was not satisfied with both, and I asked her, why on earth are you not satisfied?

She said: "I am not satisfied with my looks". I asked her what you thought would make a good match for you.

She showed me Nicholas Tse's **··· I was speechless for a moment. Probably in such a girl, there is nothing wrong with being an appearance association, but it is difficult to find a man who looks like Pan An if she is not very good-looking.

Focused girls are hard to marry. Remove a series of reasons for appearance and personality. When you were a student, did you ever see a kind of girl who liked a boy for several years, from junior high school to high school and college?

I've always known that I have no hope.,But there are girls who haven't given up.。 They are kind, dedicated, serious, and considerate, and they are good girls in everyone's mouth.

But I don't know why, they don't talk about love a few times, and they finally let go of one person and like another person but are always rejected. Later, I thought, probably because I can't afford to let it go, I can't fall in love, and I don't want people to be burdened.

The kind of woman who is self-righteous but really has no ability at all, has a hypocritical personality and high vision, and has a particularly short temper.

I think it should always be self-righteous, always feel that I am superior, and it is difficult for such a woman to marry.

It's not good-looking, and the personality is not good, and it is difficult for a girl who doesn't know how to clean up the housework, and doesn't know how to clean up herself.

The most difficult woman to marry should be the kind of person who has bad conditions, but thinks very highly of herself and wants to find a person with good conditions.

I think it's not easy for people with a bad temper to get married, and there are girls who don't love cleanliness and don't have a gentle personality!