New Year s Help!! Confusion among first year students on full time campuses about interpersonal and

Regarding the first point: human beings are very strange creatures, they are always unaware of their own shortcomings, they always do not see their own shortcomings when they see the same weaknesses as themselves, but instead laugh at others. You two haven't weighed each other, and do you know you're thinner than him?

Admit that you're a little fat, it'll be nice to do that. As for him, talk to him, but you're very introverted, it's unlikely, so accept yourself and put up with it.

Regarding the second point: success always belongs to people who work hard, are diligent, persistent, and have perseverance. It is important to recognize your strengths and weaknesses and learn from each other's strengths.

The current you are not as good as him, don't sleep in the past, otherwise, you will never be able to see your present self clearly, and you will always be immersed in glorious memories, so you will be stumped. You have to remember that you are not as good as your table mates right now, and you have to work hard.

Regarding the third point: friends are earned by themselves, but real friends do not have to fight. You don't care why he has so many friends, how many of these so-called friends will lend a helping hand when he is in adversity?

Having more fox friends and dog friends will make people degenerate. There will be people who will find your good in approaching you, and you don't have to worry. And about asking questions to teachers, I just don't like to ask questions and would rather rot in my stomach, just ask if I can.

If you really can't open your mouth, then you must always have your own way to solve the problem. Man is not omnipotent.

On the fourth point: Do you see yourself clearly? Are you improving or regressing, if you are improving, then congratulations on keeping it up, improving a little bit every day, and you will be the first in the third year of high school.

I firmly believe that not only the results, but also all aspects will be gained. Progress is not only in the grades, but also in the inside. When you are confused, ask yourself, is it good for me to do this, people always have to think about themselves, and they can't always look at others.

Regarding the fifth point: Hehe, I am a science graduate, but I know that my classmates pay attention to lectures in liberal arts, but they like to read books, all kinds of books, liberal arts, science, etc. Not only do you have to read books, but you also have to read more current affairs and news, and your grades will naturally be good.

Liberal arts grades mainly depend on whether your outlook on life is satisfactory and correct. It doesn't have to be a dead endorsement.

Finally, Happy New Year.

As a bystander, you have high expectations of yourself, and you also have requirements for others to do it at your own pace, and you don't care about other people, who learn well or badly has nothing to do with you.

By the way, one of my favorite sayings when I was studying science was, 'Soldiers will come to block the water, and the earth will be covered.'"

What I'm talking about doesn't solve in a nutshell is to relax your state of mind.

It's too long, I'll have time to look at it again, flash-

It only shows that you have a low EQ and a low IQ. He has a high EQ and a high IQ. He was greedy for fun before he took the high school entrance examination.

And you are the hardworking kind. You don't have to worry about it. Born.

And also. When it comes to high school, those so-called excellent students in junior high school are really called to see clearly. It's better to be really smart in high school.

It's not good to be stupid until high school. In junior high school, you can also get to the front with diligence. High school is all about IQ.

1Usually, we will first build a good relationship near our seats, and be more exclusive and friendly with a few people nearby (this is a natural thing, after changing seats, you can have a good relationship with another group of neighbors), and then, if everyone chats and discusses things in a group (referring to the chat of non-small circles), you can participate in it, this kind of chat can speak freely, very cohesive!! Then when people see you in the hallway, they think, "Ah, he's from our class, and we've been talking to each other!"

2 Actually, I think it's okay, if a person is confident enough, it is difficult for others to influence you, or others dare not come to you, so you have to cultivate your confidence, exercise more, you are a man, I heard my brother say that boys will be very friend when they play basketball together If you are a girl, you should talk to people more and talk about gossip, haha That's how I drop!!

ps, you have to play with more generous, cheerful and uncaring people, this kind of person will have a lot of people who are willing to make friends with him, and he can take you to open up a larger circle of friends...

1.Find a copy of a bosom friend

It's not difficult to say, but you have to see clearly before making friends, after all, there are a lot of hypocritical people, sometimes you can't trust others too much, you have to think about everything, save trouble from the mouth or something, and see if the other party shows the truth to yourself.

2.Have more confidence in yourself, don't care about the gossip of those people, I'm also a freshman in high school, and I've encountered a lot of this kind of thing, but I've still lived like this, it's not a big deal, like that kind of person to ignore it. If you ignore him for a long time, he won't bother you if he feels bored.

Personal views of personal experience only).

Look for people who are similar to yourself. Be more concerned about others when interacting with others. The best way to encounter such people is to simply ignore them.

Just tell him that if you don't want people to know, unless you don't do anything, you know what you have done, you don't want to say it, it is to reserve some space for your previous friendship.

4. Communication is important in sincerity, so that others can feel your warmth, and it is naturally good to receive a good response, if not, it is considered to recognize a person's attitude towards you, first of all, don't pay too much attention to society, we are still too young, learning is annoying, tired, it is necessary. In terms of interpersonal relationships, no matter what others do to you, you have to look at Yu Xinxia calmly

If you really don't want to reconcile, don't say anything about rejection, be an ordinary friend, don't pay too much attention to her, she naturally understands.

Friends, multiple friends, multiple ways out, which friends have no friction and misunderstanding between them! Cherish your friendship! It's a bit of wealth.

Multiple friends are better! As long as you don't think of her as your bosom friend, it's OK!

I suggest you check out Dale Carnegie's book, The Weakness of Human Nature

Your state is some of the problems of adolescence. Very common.

My personal advice though:

Take these problems to the university and then focus on them. It seems that you shouldn't spend too much time in this area during high school. Interpersonal communication is a problem that people need to overcome in their whole life, and everyone has it.

But it's a bit early for high school students to think about this.

Rest assured, college will change a lot of your personality. Because I matured through college housing.

There is also an introverted male classmate in our class, who usually doesn't speak, and then looks a little "vicious" because of his natural appearance.

Then the classmates said that he was at the same table with him and hadn't spoken in a year of high school.

At first, I thought he was a very introverted person, and I guess it wasn't easy to get along with.

Then one day when I came home, I met him on the road, I took the initiative to greet him with a smile, and the child smiled back. I fell for it in an instant.

Sorry for the irrelevance, but I think, first of all, you don't treat yourself as an outsider, and don't rush to ask yourself to integrate into a certain group in a short time. But be proactive!

A sense of humor can be cultivated, you can't speak with a lot of humor, you can also have fun with everyone, and some deliberate behaviors will make you exude an air of alienation.

Try to make a good friend or two and talk to them to help you every step of the way.

As for being late, have a good attitude and don't make too many mistakes, too many times of tardiness can indeed have a bad impact. You can start improving on this right now.

Don't think about anything, study hard, and when your academic performance is good, what you say is not a problem. Based on what you said, I can assert that your classmate is seriously lacking in self-confidence. So for a child like you, you are confident, and you are a student recruited by another county, if the grades are not good, it is very stressful for such a foreign student, do you say yes!

So don't think about anything now, just improve your academic performance first!

I also believe that when your academic performance is good, your problems will definitely be solved.

When your academic performance is good, your teachers and classmates will say: you are late to ensure enough sleep in order to study better, on the contrary, if your grades are not good, you send mistakes, the teacher will magnify your shortcomings to criticize you, you say that you are such a big child, often criticized, how can you have self-confidence!

So, if you want to be recognized, the best thing to do is to improve your grades!

Hope it helps you a little!

Happy to you!

Originally didn't want to answer your question, but we have striking similarities in terms of interpersonal interactions. I'm in college right now, I don't think you need to change anything, be true to yourself, you're really worse off than I am, but you're in high school right now and don't have a lot of time to make relationships. I was worse than you when I was in high school, but now I'm better.

I think you'll change when you get to college. Everything is practiced, you have to overcome these habits of your own, socialize with others more, you may be a little unaccustomed to it at the beginning, but you must persevere. My suggestion:

Socialize with other classmates, but never feel inferior, and never be arrogant or humble in your interactions; Be sincere with others, others will naturally change their opinion of you, and will think that your Muna is simple; Smile a lot; read some books on communication and the like; Participate in more activities to exercise yourself; Read more literature and other books to improve your self-cultivation.

1.Don't go to bed too late and try to maintain a good image.

2.What else can I do? Explain.

3.Tell yourself that impulsiveness is the devil. Turn a blind eye.

4.Follow the laughter.

5.Uh-uh. Let's see how it goes. Passing the ball must look at the person, and shooting must look at the ball.

6.Not everyone will. Take the initiative, it will work. But try to say, "Classmate, can you be a friend?" ”

7.Look for jokes online and share them with them.

8.I hide it by not knowing.

11.Then express it according to your own meaning. Nothing to be afraid of.

12.Then you will learn to take the initiative. Stupid. There are only transfer students in the school, and they all rely on initiative.

Relationships are not about how you deal with others...First of all, you have to deal with yourself, handle your relationship well, treat yourself well, how can a person who doesn't handle well with yourself have a way to deal with others!

。。。I'm passing through and you're having the same questions as I am ...

You should make more friends who love to talk, laugh and be lively.

Hello, let's sort out what you said first.

1. Your analysis of your junior high school days is basically correct.

Another reason is that you are all young and don't know how to intrigue.

2. When you get to high school, your grades are not good, and there will indeed be some people who will ignore you.

3. Don't think about yourself anymore and not being an elite, there is no market for the saying "think about the past", and people's actual changes and psychological changes are like clouds and moons in the sky, changing rapidly.

4. Is it so simple for your good man to understand that it is to help others do things?

In fact, it is an easy-going and kind-hearted person who does not want to offend people and lacks principles.

And that's not an advantage.

5. The bad habits you mentioned, except for obscenity, are all relative.

Who said that it must be bad? It's very talented, and others can't get it.

Being funny is not bad, it's the embodiment of an unruly spirit in the character.

It's not a bad habit to be high-profile, and you have to remember that it's okay to be high-profile, but you can't be arrogant.

6. They do treat you as a "post-it note", which is a manifestation of disrespect for you in their bones.

7. Don't use "wonderful" on yourself lightly, maybe you should put quotation marks.

8, the girl calls you that, don't mind, this is a very pure feeling.

As for talking about you behind your back, don't mind, because you do have a little.

9, as for the boy who thinks you are rustic, I think it's wrong, you have to think in your heart: It's not good to follow the trend.

I think you're weird, don't mind, it's not malicious, everyone is a student, and the expression comes from the chest, because you usually behave so weirdly.

10, such a contrast does make you a little unbearable when you are just in high school, because you haven't found a solution yet.

11. You want to have fun with them, and I understand that. You are lonely inside, and it is also due to the current circumstances.

12, no one understands your heart, how can it be, there must be.

If you want to find a like-minded person, it may be feasible in the short term, and the best outcome is that you want to integrate into the group.

Ah, let's talk about it so much first, I think it's not bad, so please ask.

Hello, I saw your two question additions, and your bounty value has also increased.

Your addition is only a continuation of the previous narrative, only a more confession of your heart.

You already have low self-esteem, and even if you have some advantages of your own, you think of them as disadvantages, and I can't say something innocuous to a person who is always resentful, please forgive me.

In fact, the first year of high school is like this, because when you come to a new environment, you will meet new people, you will have a period of self-protection psychology, which is very normal, it will be much better in the next semester, and there is basically no such situation in the second year of high school, as for your characteristics, I actually think it depends on the environment, don't be high-profile when you should be low-key (high-profile, low-key), don't be funny on very serious occasions, it's okay to pay attention to these two points, you will meet good friends, maybe it's just that the time has not come, As for learning, it must be grasped, you say that if the test results are not good, some people will be too lazy to pay attention to you, that is also individual, not all, you have to believe that there are still good people, boys are actually extroverted, as for your enthusiasm will be rewarded, maybe you haven't found it yet, many things need time to test, and boys sometimes need to be a little more mature, whether it is to do things or to be a person, after all, they are not young, and these are completed in continuous challenges, I'm sure you'll have a lot of good friends, and when I was in high school, you still had a lot of good friends (I was in college), and I'm sure you're no exception!!