I m 33 years old now, and my mother kneels down and begs me to go on a blind date, what should I do?

Brother, listen to me

Every old man wants to hold his grandson, not to mention that you are still so old, you should have gotten married a long time ago Since you are willing to ask everyone to help you refer to this matter, it shows that you are very filial We can all come out

It's not easy for our parents to raise us so much, since your parents are like this, you can fulfill your parents' wishes, so what, isn't it, maybe you will also meet a girl you love very much

Maybe you're really together, and you're going to live happily together, and you're living a happy life, and you're going to have a grandchild for your mother, right, so you have to face life with a smile and be so pessimistic, and it's not like you're going to die, why are you so wronged, right?

I wish my brother always happy and free from worries

You can find a good female friend to help you act, first stabilize the old lady's heart If you are really willing to be single for a lifetime, you must be mentally prepared to act in front of your mother for the rest of your life Maybe you will fake the show and do it There is no absolute in everything I really don't understand Why do you like to be single When the two are together, they are actually very happy.

Come on, think about it for your mother, it's not easy for the elderly. There's nothing wrong with you being celibate, but it doesn't fit the main theme of society. The point is, have you ever wondered what you will do when you get old? Become a poor old man|Old lady?

Brother, how can you bear to let your mother kneel for you, be obedient, if you are an only child, get married, don't be too selfish, especially for your mother, I will kneel for you.

Resolutely celibate. Marriage is absolute hell.

Cope, don't make the old man sad.

Let you go on a blind date and not get married, just go.

You also kneel down for your mother, let's exchange limits for limits, this matter can only be understood by each other.

A blind date is a blind date, and there will be no missing piece of meat.

Mom is old, you can't be filial and sensible?

Continue to practice celibacy.

Then you just go and see, form, understand?

I'm not saying bad things.

People who have confidence in themselves will avoid the help of others, and it is not that you do not want to be in contact with the opposite sex.

There are a few reasons for this, and I will mention them.

The first is that you can already have someone you like, and if that's the reason, you should tell your relatives and friends more bluntly. However, I wonder if you have any hope of succeeding in getting your loved ones.

Second, you have other things to take care of, such as work and study, and if this is the case, I should advise you that there is no romance in the love of older youth, because you are no longer a child with nothing. So, I think there are still some benefits to early love.

The third Tongsheng, that is, you feel that you are in a stage where you are very dissatisfied, so to speak, you feel that your physical and psychological conditions are not very good, that is, you are afraid of failing on a blind date.

This is actually the most stupid reason, because the actual function of a blind date is to help you position yourself. It's good for your psyche.

Don't be too ambitious.

Don't set yourself too low either.

Celibacy is only temporary, and you won't spend your life alone, but if you want to spend it on your own, you have to think about whether you can tolerate this loneliness if your siblings are married and your parents are not by your side.

I don't have any questions about what I'm writing, but I'm telling the truth.

So be it, your life is up to you, but don't forget that there are some things you can't control, your opportunities are not under your control, you can only be prepared.

That's all.

Find a man to walk around every day.

Celibacy is certainly not recognized. If it doesn't look like offending or hurting the person who asked you to go on a blind date, you still go to a blind date, anyway, it's okay to have a meal, don't push it right away, just say that you can be in one place first, and then if you need to date or something in the future, tell the other party that you are busy with work. If he sues your parents that you ignore him, you say:

You don't like people who complain all day long, they are very immature, so you don't want to deal with them. But the best way is to get everyone to accept the fact that you don't want to get married, otherwise most of the way can only be delayed.

When you say this, it seems that you are not calm, and no matter how you say it, it is always wrong to scold people.

Actually, I also like to be single and free, but I mainly don't want to be responsible, first, I can't afford it, and second, I don't want to be responsible yet!

If you don't want to get married, then enjoy it alone!

I dreamed a few days ago that I almost visited someone, and when I thought of the long days after marriage, how to live with someone, I was so anxious that I almost cried.

It's just that your fate hasn't arrived.

Besides, as long as you are human, there will be good and bad.

It doesn't have to be a woman.

You're not a lady.

You're so nice.

Khan was once bitten by a snake and was afraid of the well rope for ten years? I don't want to say the big truth, in short, you have to re-establish the attitude of life, people are different, maybe you are not lucky.

That's because you don't have the vision to find some women who look like brutes.

Women are not brutes.

You don't know what love is.

First of all, I want to say that I don't have a girlfriend and I don't plan to look for one in the near future. Celibacy for me is a way to remain independent spiritually, psychologically, financially, and so on. I support celibacy for several reasons:

1.From an interpersonal point of view, once you have a girlfriend or boyfriend, you must accept the other person's circle of friends. However, even a lover may not be able to fully accept the strengths and weaknesses of the other person, let alone her or his friends, and the situation is the same for the other person.

Second, let's say we already have a partner and we have an opportunity for a promotion in front of us, but only if we study abroad for two years. In this case, it is certain that even those who are already married will consider the changes in people in a completely different social and cultural environment. If you give up this opportunity, even if you can maintain the relationship, the psychological displeasure will become the fuse implicit in the relationship.

Third, economic issues. The biggest advantage of maintaining celibacy in modern society is that you can maximize your financial reserves to serve yourself, that is, you can fully enjoy the life you have set. One of the advantages of celibacy is unlimited freedom.

If we have to say that loneliness and loneliness are poisonous weeds, then the many social places in modern society can fully satisfy the emotional needs, after all, in the fast-paced life, only to remain independent and sober is fundamental.

Does True Love Exist?

There is a problem with people getting along.

Celibacy can survive.

Freedom. And I'm mentally clean.

All kinds of celibate people have different specific circumstances and different psychology.

Some people are too good and therefore very confident. None of the others in their eyes have much to attract them, so celibacy can satisfy their various pursuits.

There are also people who love freedom and think that love and marriage are bondage.

Then there are some who are too inferior, always thinking that they are a broom star, a disaster star, and whoever has something to do with them is unlucky.

Well, there are also those who were hurt by love in their early years, or were hopelessly waiting for such a person, or quit love from then on.

Everyone's experience is different, the living environment is different, the idea is different, the personality is different, so the specific reasons for celibacy are also varied, the above are just some typical, in reality, many celibacy at the same time have a variety of psychological reasons, or specific problems and specific analysis.

But as a non-celibate, I think it's not difficult to understand how this person feels, if you put yourself in the shoes of that celibate, and think about this person's situation and try to experience it. No matter what the phenomenon is, it has its essence and cause.

This has a lot to do with their own life and work or family environment, lonely for a long time, people should feel that they should live like this, and suddenly end this life will feel very uncomfortable, and often people with these psychology, after finding that they are not adaptable, do not deeply analyze the reasons, and will not be aware of the impact of this psychology on their own lives, so they have never thought about changing, since they feel that this is very good, then how to accept others. Therefore, if you want to change this mentality, you need to change your perception and attitude towards the outside world. Of course, this does not rule out the factor of inferiority, and dare not seek opportunities to change themselves.

The first is that it is fun.

Second, there is marital phobia.

The third is to focus on career, and feel that I don't like to talk about feelings, and it hurts money when I talk about feelings.

It's not good for you to think like this, there are good men, but they are relatively good, there are no perfect people, only people who are not suitable! You know, it's easy to get homosexual, and that's how a colleague of mine is, who loses faith in men, and there's a woman (who is gay, but she didn't know it at first) who is very nice to her, and very nice, and then they fall in love. So it is advisable that you do not have such negative thoughts.

It's not that you don't have to find a woman if you don't look for a man, it's just a possibility, think about it, when you are disgusted with men all over the world, there is such a woman who cares about you, and you will definitely be good to her, but it is possible to become gay, not absolutely. If you look at it, as the saying goes, you don't care about the world, you can see it very lightly, but people are emotional animals, in addition to family and friendship, love can not be ignored, you may be heartbroken by one or two bad men now, and you want to give up, you shouldn't be so negative, I don't know what kind of person you are, I don't know if you are too demanding on men and your other half, causing you to feel that you don't have a perfect man, Or the men you meet are all bad, or they are not very good at locking men's hearts. Anyway, I still hope you can find your other half, after all, it's hard to live alone!

You think so bad, good man, just right, there are no perfect people, only people who are suitable! You know, this kind of thinking is likely to lead to homosexual tendencies, so my colleague lost confidence in the man, there was a woman (the woman was gay, but she didn't know) was nice to her, and later, they fell in love with each other. It is recommended that you do not have such negative thoughts.

It's not that you have to find a woman to find someone, it's just that if you think about it, when men all over the world are disgusted, when a woman cares about you, you will definitely be good for her, but it is also possible to be gay, and it is not absolute. With it, what do you say, it depends on you personally, if you are open, disillusioned with something, it doesn't matter, as the saying goes, it's very light, it can, but people are emotional animals, in addition to family and friendship love can not be ignored, you may be a bad man, two broke through my heart, want to give up, shouldn't be so negative, I don't know what kind of person it is, don't know your person, your other half is too demanding, because you feel that your current job, has reached its peak, there is no perfect man, Or the men you meet are all bad, or it's unlikely to lock a man's heart. In any case, I hope you can find your other half, after all, it's too hard to be alone, and in the end, I want you to be happy and cheer up.

If you don't have physical needs, that's great.

You talked about your specific situation for a long time, but these have nothing to do with whether you are suitable for celibacy or not, let alone celibacy.

What is a "ist", you have this kind of thinking and make sure that it suits you, you can be called it. You don't have that idea in the first place.

Ask yourself to find out.

The key is to see if you want to do it. And what kind of resistance and pressure you will face if you want to be single all the time, how to solve it, and how to deal with these things before thinking about whether to do it or not.