Let s talk about the reason why the more generous people are, the easier it is to be friends?

First: cherish and tolerate every bit around you, but often ignore the people who are best for you and the friends around you.

Second: I always think that I am great and I have a lot of friends, so I often don't think about the consequences when I have conflicts, and I can't tell who is the most important person to me.

Giving generosity to others, many people will think that it is good to bully, once the other party has requirements, and the generous person cannot meet his requirements, the other party will easily separate him.

A bowl of rice feeds a benefactor, and a load of rice feeds an enemy. This is the most common example of a generous person. Being kind to others and helping without compensation is a generous character.

When you meet someone who needs help, you help him once, he will be grateful, you help him ten times, he is also close to you like a relative, but once you don't help or is not as good as he wants, he will immediately turn his face, when you are an enemy, he will even pick your weakest place to attack you. By the time you find out, you've already made friends.

People who are generous are not without psychological boundaries. However, because of its broad-mindedness, it can often tolerate what ordinary people can't, and it is often calm and calm, and rarely angry; It is easy to give people the illusion of "excess", and "greed" is also a part of human nature, so the other party in the relationship is easy to become unreasonable at this time, and finally unilaterally or jointly lead to the destruction of the relationship.

The generosity of friends is not the capital that you squander friendship, why generous people are easy to make friends, is because his friends did not grasp what the bottom line behind his generosity is, so once he breaks his bottom line, he will be friends.

Generosity is good, easy to get friends to win respect, but it is also easy for villains to take advantage of, people are selfish will ask for wirelessly, once you can't get what you want, you will feel that you don't treat him as a friend, we can't ask others to do anything, so we can only let us change ourselves appropriately learn to reject others.

There is a saying called "your kindness, you must have a little edge", which shows the balance of dealing with people, and this sentence is also applicable to "tolerance and generosity". Because some people's tolerance and generosity are actually with some flattering meaning, more like a kind of protection for oneself and pleasing others, rather than real generosity, the real generosity is "I can be completely generous, but I am willing to choose generosity". This kind of generosity is respected, and the generosity of taking a step back is actually easy to be despised by the other party.

This is a typical kindness that is not rewarded. There is nothing wrong with being generous and kind in a person, but it depends on who is right. There is a saying that is very vulgar but very reasonable:

Don't be too nice to people, don't overfeed dogs. If he is too good to a person, he will take it for granted, and if the dog is too full, he will not bother to visit the house.

Psychological boundaries and boundaries in relationships: Being generous may be mistaken for "unreasonable" in relationships. Psychological Boundaries:

It refers to the self-boundaries of the individual's heart, which is a bit like the psychological level, although not as clearly visible as the physical boundary, but it is an important part of protecting our psyche.

Generosity describes people's minds, and the ancient text says that "people's hearts are narrow if they have many desires, and wide if they have few desires." "Generous people, indifferent to fame and fortune, respond to the needs of others more often, and ask for help from others less, and the relationship tends to be "one-way".

If in a friendship you always ask your friends to share in times of joy and sorrow, and you feel the need for your friends to share or share, it is likely that you will not feel comfortable in such a relationship. After all, there is a "feeling of need" and a "feeling of being needed", which is a mutual need, and such a relationship is longer-lasting.

I myself am a more generous person, friends will do their best when friends need help, but there will be such a kind of friend in life will ask you for help all the time, feel that others help you as a matter of course, but people's patience is limited, even generous people will feel that such friends trouble may not meet the needs of these friends.

Because of this kind of generous people, they are often very high-level, and there are many people around him who can't climb him, so he will have few friends.

Because of this kind of generous person, others will not be sincere to you, and feel that everything you do is what it should be, so there is no true friend around.

Because if you are generous, others will not know if there is a point of anger in you. I don't know if you have anyone in your heart who cares. So, generally this type of person. You won't make any real friends.

Because many people think that they are very good to everyone, they will not cherish such people, they feel that such people are not deliberately good to themselves, and they have no way to let themselves recognize or pay for his generosity.

Because generous people are kind to everyone and will make others feel that they should be taken for granted. If you meet someone who doesn't understand gratitude, you should stay away, and you also need to have a measure to be good to others.

Because being too generous will make others feel a sense of need, rather than friendship between friends, so generous people should pay attention.

Because such a person is very generous to everyone, but he does not give his heart to every friend, so he has no friends.

Because of very generous people, they will not care about a little thing, but once one day they are not generous, others will not treat him as a friend.