When love and life collide, which one should I choose?

Why don't you want to think about why he doesn't want to work, is he unwilling, likes freedom, or is he lazy and doesn't want to go? Why do you have to choose between the two, if his family has enough money for him to spend his life, why should you care if he doesn't work? It's not that he can't afford to support you, if you feel fine, you can go to work, the two are not necessarily the best of both worlds, the so-called solution to the cause can go to the effect, so after understanding the real reason why he doesn't want to go to work, then you persuade him not to get twice the result with half the effort?

Love is not the whole of life, if he doesn't like to work, it means that he has no sense of responsibility, he is not responsible for himself, he is not responsible for his family and you and future children, what to do if he has children in the future, what to do when his parents are old in the future, even if he has no problem with his family life for 4 or 5 generations, then what about children's education.

Think about it more, life is not only about love, but also about responsibility, and there is a very classic line in Julius Caesar, when Caesar was very old and had no sexual ability. He said to his wife, who was 30 or 40 years old at the time, "Do you still have love for me?" and his wife said, "That's sublimated into responsibility, you know, love is not the whole of life."

A man who doesn't like work is definitely not a good man.

Bread and love.

The choice is yours.

But you have to know.

It's not life, who is still in love with you, who is still in love with you.

Without love, I can still live a better life.

It's just that if love is a foreshadowing, we will live a more nourishing life, you say.

Life! There is nothing without life, including love!

Life! That's the way to go!

To tell you a way to make a choice, is to find a piece of paper, draw a vertical line in the middle, and write on the left: What would happen if we were together. Written on the right: What happens if you don't get together. Then list the possibilities of the left and right.

For example: together, and then it is.

1. Sponsor his siblings and watch them lavish on the money you save.

2. If you sponsor it, this kind of thing will be endless in the future, it will be a financial burden on you, and even your boyfriend may ask your parents to borrow money to spend because his brother is getting married, buying a house, etc.

3. If you are unwilling to fund them, it will inevitably cause conflicts between you and your boyfriend, and you will have a grudge about this matter, and even quarrels, quarrels, and endless quarrels.

If not together:

1. It is possible to be single for a while.

2. The next boyfriend won't necessarily be better than him.

3. It is also possible to learn a lesson and find a more suitable one for you.

4. You may regret it after a breakup, you may find that you can't do without him, and you would rather let him and his siblings spend the money you have saved.

5……Try to list it yourself, don't rush to list it in a day or two, write it down when you think about it. Then take a good look, think about it, and then make a decision.

Dear, it all depends on your and your boyfriend's ability in the future and how much you love each other. You can have a good talk with him, I believe that if there is a view of right and wrong, he is not willing to let his younger siblings idle around, right? Secondly, you can tell him that if he gives money to the family, can he be nicer to your parents at home?

In the end, it is said that you are a little worried, and it is not easy to say anything in the future, for example, this is also the case in my object's family, but we got married and had children, it is really you who spend money on your brothers and sisters, and you spend less on your children, and you will not buy milk powder. So dear, as long as your boyfriend has a good character, is sincere to you, and can understand right from wrong, there is no need to worry too much, because first of all, if you have a good income of hundreds of thousands of dollars a year in the future, what are you afraid of supporting your family, there is no family and no him, besides, he knows right from wrong, and he will not let his younger brothers and sisters become parasites in the end, that is harmful to them, are you right? Satisfied, remember the praise of the pro.

, it is recommended to break up, marriage is not a matter of two people, it is difficult to change the concept of money and values, not to mention that what you want to change is a family, and the final result of getting along with them is a thankless effort, take advantage of the fact that you are just a little reluctant, break up quickly, and find a like-minded person to be happy.

The boyfriend said that it is not wrong to fund the brother when the conditions are good in the future, which means that you can have more affection, but they are not in good condition now, and they are spending money and spending a lot of money, which you can give their opinions, after all, after getting along for a year, there is no major contradiction, I hope you still cherish each other as well.

Both of you are doing the right thing, and the fault is that his siblings are spending lavishly. His idea is to take care of his loved ones. Your idea is to live your two-person world.

If you are really reluctant, then you can make three chapters of the law, and if you can do it, then continue to communicate, if you can't do it, I think you should find someone else, so that you won't be too tired. I am a man, and I personally feel that I can help my brothers and sisters, but it should be appropriate, if my financial conditions allow.

It's hard to choose, I have 3 brothers and sisters, and my lover is an only child. My two younger sisters once dropped out of school to work for me to study, and now we are married, have our own families, I can help them appropriately if I can, this my lover has no objection, but my brother-in-law spends money like you said, lavishly, which makes people very angry!

You should be glad that your boyfriend told you what he really said, instead of flattering you in front of you. As long as he is good to you and can tolerate and tolerate your shortcomings, in fact, life will get better and better, and there will be bread and milk.

In fact, your boyfriend's thoughts are understandable, of course brothers and sisters have to help, but they can't be endless, the two of you also have to live a life, and you have to support your family, do your best to help, or don't give up easily

Values are not formed in a day or two, nor can they be changed in a day or two. If it's different, give up!

Did you say you liked him?

Did he ever say he liked you.

My opinion on this issue is:

Love is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world, it can be chained to make people happy, happy, and it can also make people give a lot. When it comes to love, everyone has a different bottom line. For me, I am willing to sacrifice for love to a certain extent.

First of all, I don't think love can be a reason for us to give up everything. It is not advisable to go against one's inner thoughts and give up one's way of life for the sake of love. Love should be a two-way street, with mutual respect and understanding, and one cannot be allowed to sacrifice their all to cater to the other.

Secondly, I think that love needs to sacrifice some personal interests. For example, when deciding on the future of two people, I will consider each other's feelings and preferences and adjust my plans and goals appropriately. But this should not be beyond the scope of one's own tolerance and life pursuit, and Pengbo Town cannot give up his dreams and ideals for love.

Third, I was able to give time, energy, and money to love. Constantly accompany each other, surprise each other, and provide financial support for each other, these are all things that love needs. However, these ways of paying also need to be reasonably distributed through negotiation between the two parties.

Fourth, I am able to think about and care for each other in love. For example, when the other person is in trouble, I will try my best to help and support the other person, and give encouragement and comfort. When the other person is unhappy, I will go to understand the reason and try to make a change; When the other party needs space, I will also reserve time and space for the other party.

Fifth, I am willing to learn better communication and compromise in love. In a relationship between two people, it is difficult to avoid differences and contradictions, and it is necessary for both parties to negotiate so that they can understand each other's ideas and needs, and actively compromise to solve the problem.

Addendum: It is not advisable to give up one's bottom line and values for the sake of love. Love is a part of life, it cannot be the whole of life.

At the same time, we also need to realize that love needs to be managed, and it cannot be based on just momentary enthusiasm and heartbeat. In a long-term relationship, a stable emotional foundation needs to be established through communication, shared interests, and understanding.

Summary: Love is beautiful, but we need to establish a correct view of love. It's okay to sacrifice some personal interests and time and energy, but it shouldn't be a reason to give up your bottom line.

In love, both parties need respect, understanding, and mutual support, while also maintaining independent thinking and lifestyle.