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It's very simple, let him suffer! If a person is pampered, he will suffer less, as long as he is allowed to eat enough hardship, he will naturally change. For example, let him go to the construction site to move bricks; Go to the market to work as a coolie; Volunteer in a non-profit organization; Go to the orphanage and help the children ......Anyway, you can't let him be idle.
Let his sweat break into eight petals, and get a sense of accomplishment from labor; Let him see how difficult other people's lives are, and I believe that he will become sensible slowly.
<>Secondly, let me talk about how I get along with my children. For a while, I remember that I just felt very impatient with my children, and I didn't know if it was menopause as people said, or if I was very stressed during that time, so my mood was not good, and I couldn't control myself well.
A phrase that is often said. In the family relationship, there must be a warm, harmonious atmosphere, parents should give the children full of love, respect for the old and love for the young is the traditional virtue of our Chinese nation, so in the family relationship, we must use words and deeds to lead, not just be a high parent. We want to be the mentor parents of our children, and be their military in life and learning.
The first is learning. Children who are spoiled at home may not work hard in learning, but when they encounter difficulties, they often have a fear of difficulties and cannot deal with problems well. This is prone to psychological problems.
second in life. Because at home, he enjoys the treatment of clothes and food, so in life, it is basically difficult to help others, because he wants to help and has no ability!
When my son was young, I was in business, and my children grew up with my grandmother, and my mother-in-law was also a hard worker. Even if I have some savings in business, I am very strict with my children. I can't just spend money on useless things, and the toys at home are all sent by my relatives.
Whenever my son wants to spend money on something, I ask him to recite the familiar seven words "save and save".
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For those children who have been pampered by their parents since childhood, then they will not be able to bear it once they grow up with a little setback. At the same time, they will also do some very extreme behavior. And it's hard to make real friends in interpersonal interactions.
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Children who grow up in doting are easily deceived, can't accept failure, and don't want to work hard for the future.
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Such children do not have the ability to be independent, and they are more selfish and do not care about the feelings of others at all, so parents should not spoil their children.
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Children who have been pampered since childhood are difficult to integrate into society when they grow up, their self-care ability is very poor, and they do not know how to take good care of themselves, which will make their parents very worried, especially after the children's families go to college, they have to stay away from their hometowns, away from their parents, and arrive in a strange city. Therefore, parents must try to let go, and let their children develop their independence and autonomy at an early age, so that they can do their own things. <>
It is difficult for pampered children to get ahead, and most of them are mom boys.
Or mom bao girl, always pin all their hopes on the family, on their parents, these people will also become very selfish, because they feel that their parents should treat them like this, and the education they have been exposed to since childhood will give them an outlook on life.
There has been some shift in values. It is also difficult for such children to get along with their classmates and make some close friends. Parents must not let their children become such arrogant and domineering people.
Let them master more good life skills, they can love their children, but they can't spoil their children, and let them understand the world.
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Parents should let their children develop the ability to be independent, do not help their children do everything, but also let their children do their own laundry, cooking, or cleaning their own rooms. Although parents are the backers of their children, sooner or later parents will grow old. If the child has not been able to take charge of the child, then it will be difficult for the parents to be at ease after a hundred years.
Some parents are always reluctant to educate their children, always feeling that their children are young and careless in what they do, and this will only make their children more and more arrogant for a long time. <>
Parents are the first teachers of children, we must not ignore children, we must properly guide children to the right path of life, cultivate their outlook on life and values, let them understand the feelings between people, and endure hardships in order to become a superior person, do not worry about children suffering hardships. Only by letting them try it for themselves can they be better inspired to grow.
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If you suffer a little setback, you can't bear it, and you will do some extreme behaviors, and you can't make real friends; Let the child participate in life to do what he can, and parents should lead by example and play a correct and positive role in guiding the child.
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They will become uncommitted, they will become very cowardly, they will become very disobedient, they will talk back to their parents, and they will often go against their parents' opinions. Parents should let their children become an independent person from an early age, let their children become an obedient person, and let their children receive a lot of exercise in the process, so as to help children grow better.
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It will make the child's personality become arrogant, selfish, willful, do not know how to respect others, be unreasonable, and mess around, which is extremely detrimental to future development; In daily family education, parents should set an example for their children, and let their children do some housework within their ability, so that children can experience the difficulties of parents and effectively establish a correct outlook on life.
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Parents have been pampered with their children for a long time, and the children will become impolite, and they will be no big or small in front of outsiders, because in the children's minds, I have always been like this, my parents have never said that I am not doing it correctly, and at the same time will make the children develop a lot of bad problems, just like what we commonly call "princess disease", the most important thing is that this will also make our children overly dependent on their parents and have no ability to take care of themselves.
Most of the pampered children can't do hard work, or the children go out to work when they grow up, and they can't stand it if they are criticized by their bosses or colleagues for doing something wrong, because no one has ever treated her like this, and her tolerance is very low, and she can't continue with a little pressure. The ability to be independent is not good, because I have been growing up under the protection of my parents, and my parents have always helped solve problems, and I have not thought about how to solve this kind of problem and what kind of solution there is. Excessive dependence on parents and lack of self-care ability.
And pampered children don't know the hard work of making money, and they all say that "the children of poor families are in charge of the house early", this sentence is not unreasonable, because poor children have to endure hardships since they were young, and they know how difficult it is to make money. But pampered children are different, they don't have such an experience, they live a life of clothes to reach out for food to open their mouths, they all feel that it is easy for their parents to make money, what I want to buy, what I want to tell my parents to do, or if I am a spoiler, they will buy it for me. They don't think I'm going to make money to buy it myself or save it myself.
In addition, pampering will make the child's temper worse, and respond to the child's requests, if you refuse her when you feel inappropriate, then she will lose her temper, because everyone has been following her, she will think that no matter what she does, she must do according to her requirements, and there can be no ambiguity at all, and it is very likely that the parents will not be able to control the child in the future. And it will also make the child not know how to be considerate of others, because he is used to living a life that is spoiled by his family, he thinks that everything is taken for granted, and everyone thinks that everyone should be good to me, which is very unfavorable to the child after he goes out of society. There are many harms, in short, I think parents should not pamper their children, and they also need to be "whipped" in a timely manner.
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The child will become very willful, the child is particularly impolite, the child will be abusive when he speaks, the child will become very irritable, and the child will be disrespectful to his parents.
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The child will become very pampered, the child will not know how to respect others, the child will be very impolite, the child will be very short-tempered, and the child will contradict others.
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Let the child not be self-disciplined, let the child have poor learning ability, the child has a bad personality, the child will bully others, easy to be proud, and cannot endure hardship.
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Children who are spoiled by their parents and grow up mainly have two characteristics: big temper and poor ability. Because the parents who dot on their children, when the children are angry, they will meet the children's requirements, which will fuel the children's temper. A child whose parents grow up doting on him will be helped by his parents to do everything, so his ability will become very poor and he will not be able to do anything.
A child who is spoiled by his parents will also become freewheeling because his parents will tolerate him in anything, so he develops such a habit. If you want to correct your child's problems, then the first thing that needs to be reformed is the parents. <>
In life, we can see that some children who have been spoiled by their parents will have a very big temper. Because in daily life, parents do not want to fulfill some of their children's requirements, but when they see their children angry, they will immediately meet all of their children's requirements. Through such an act, the child will be trained to grow more and more tempered.
Because the child feels that he can meet all the demands as long as he is angry, he is more inclined to get angry. To correct this problem, his parents will not be able to tolerate his temper, and if he does not do it right, no matter how much he loses his temper, he will not be able to forgive. <>
Parents who dot on their children usually lead to particularly poor children's abilities. When encountering a small setback, parents will directly help him solve it, which will lead to their children not being able to do anything and have no independence. Such a person will also show similar characteristics when he grows up and goes out into society, and he will think that this society will also get used to him.
Therefore, after such people come out of society, they often appear to have no social experience and will appear particularly immature. After leaving society, there is basically no competitiveness, just like a giant baby. In order to correct this problem, parents should let him solve some problems more independently, so that the children who grow up in difficulties will become stronger.
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Let the child become very arrogant, the child is self-centered, the child has no way to get along with others, the child has no heart to endure, the child's temper is not particularly good, and the impact of parental doting on the child is particularly great. Children should be taught positively, and if they do something unreasonable, they should be punished appropriately, so that they will change their behavior.
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They will disrespect their elders, do not know how to be humble, are very selfish, do not know how to be grateful, and lack independence in life, and are prone to blind comparison; Parents should refuse their children's unreasonable requests, help them develop the right habits, let them know how to be grateful, punish children for mistakes, and set rules.
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Such children will be extremely rebellious, do not respect other people's feelings and opinions when doing things, sometimes they are very selfish, and they usually do not know how to get along with others; Parents must be comfortable in educating their children, must have issues of principle, and do not excessively cover up their children's bad habits and bad problems.
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When children grow up, they will be ambitious and very selfish, so as parents, we must educate our children reasonably.
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If a child is accustomed to his parents from an early age, he will usually become lawless, not polite, unsophisticated, and unable to behave in the future.
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If a child who has been accustomed to his parents since he was a child grows up, then he will not be polite when he grows up in society, and he will not behave in the world, and he may not be able to support himself in life, and everything depends on his parents, which is an old man.
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When you grow up, you will become arrogant and unreasonable, and you will be very selfish, and you will not consider the feelings of others, and your temper will be very bad.
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will become lawless, unable to listen to other people's advice to him, and always make decisions based on his own ideas.
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These children will grow up to be very arrogant, and they will not have the ability to handle things on their own, and they will be very dependent.
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1. The prestige of parents is damaged, and children are lawless.
Parents spoil their children for a long time, which will inevitably damage the prestige of their parents, so the child is likely to become lawless, he feels that he is the little emperor of the family, and his parents must also meet his requirements. Over time, the child will even order the parents, and if the parents do not agree to their requests, they will start crying and making a fuss.
Second, the child lacks the ability to take care of himself.
Parents spoiling their children may help them do a lot of things, which deprives them of space to grow up and makes them lack the ability to take care of themselves, so children who have been pampered by their parents for a long time are usually particularly low in their ability to take care of themselves.
3. Disrespecting elders.
Children who grow up under doting do not think about others, do not know how to respect their elders, and are self-centered in everything.
Spoiled children will actually cause a lot of problems in the long run, often many parents will in the process of their children's growth, maybe not to a certain extent, and then parents will not be aware of their own problems, so when the child grows up to teenagers or adults, they will see a lot of problems, which are caused by early education.
First of all, the characteristics of spoiled children are generally more selfish, because in the doting of parents, many opportunities to deal with things are solved by the parents themselves, and then let the children compare themselves in some things, and then will not consider some responsibilities and feelings of others, so they are very self-centered in these things.
The second is the lack of sense of responsibility, because parents dote on their children, so they may rarely let their children do something, and even some children's things, parents have covered, then there are very, very few opportunities to exercise children in this process, and then in this process, children simply do not realize their own value and sense of responsibility, and then they will not think of what good impact they can bring to others by doing some things. So often you can't find your own sense of responsibility.
In fact, there are many problems, such as the poor independence of spoiled children.
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