Why do boys go bad from adolescence? How can parents spend this time with their sons?

It is said that boys have "become bad" since adolescence because their secondary sex characteristics begin to develop, and they are very aggressive, very angry, and even become "unreasonable" during puberty. At this time, as a parent, you should actively guide boys, grasp the degree of communication with them, and help them better pass puberty.

Many boys begin to "become bad" after entering puberty, and even do some particularly radical things, such as having more bad friends around them, and even some boys are emotionally overly aggressive after entering puberty, and they are easy to be impulsive when they encounter problems, and they are easy to fight, and then in the eyes of parents, it is simply unreasonable, and many parents are helpless in the face of such a situation, the reason why such a situation occurs is that the child's secondary sexual characteristics begin to develop, And with the hormonal approach of adolescence causing them to not be able to solve things well and reasonably, and they only know how to use their fists when they encounter problems, it can be said that adolescents at this period are very "dangerous".

After facing the boy entering puberty, parents should first face up to the physical and psychological changes of the child, no longer treat the child as a child like before to get along, but to communicate rationally with the child with an equal attitude. Usually to know more about the child's daily state, as well as her performance in school, the first time there is a problem to ask the child, to have a certain trust in the child, to face the problem to a more rational attitude, and for the adolescent child, do not deliberately provoke his emotions, to be calm, when dealing with things, should put the child's self-esteem first, do not disregard the child's face in order to deal with things.

Boys who enter puberty will have certain physiological changes, they will grow a wide Adam's apple and a stronger body, at this time the boy's strength is very large, and the development of secondary sexual characteristics after puberty, so that they begin to be "interested" in girls, and the budding of early love will also begin at this time.

Therefore, parents must face up to this problem in their daily companionship education, be able to explain the changes in the body to their children reasonably, and actively guide boys not to act impulsively, treat girls to be gentlemen, and explain to children that it is normal to have feelings for the opposite sex, and face up to this situation, temporarily focus on their own energy on learning, and then consider this kind of thing when they are older.

In this case, the father in the family can take the corresponding responsibility and accompany the child to do more sports to release himself and avoid the child's life and learning being affected by the excessive pressure of puberty.

All in all, adolescent boys will encounter this or that problem in the process of growing up, parents must treat it rationally, communicate with their children in a timely manner when they encounter problems, pay attention to their attitude, and at the same time need to give their children loving companionship, find ways to help them relieve pressure, so that boys can better survive puberty.

The child's deterioration does not begin in adolescence, it should be said that it is the enlightenment of adolescence, and the child's rebelliousness will be stronger during this period. Parents should help their children through this period and should pay more attention to the changes in their life and learning with a calm mind.

First of all, parents must learn to stand in the child's point of view, but communicate more with the child to understand the child's ideas, and then actively guide him to develop in a good way.

Because adolescent boys are more rebellious, they may become estranged from their parents, and they are very confused about the future, so they will become bad. Parents should communicate with their children in a timely manner, understand their children's ideas and correct problems at any time, and encourage their children to try what they want to do.

I think that when parents communicate with their adolescent children, they must pay attention to thinking from the child's perspective in a reasonable way, understand their children more, listen to some of their children's ideas and opinions, and don't always beat and scold their children.

When communicating, we must respect these children, and we cannot educate them through some coercive suppression, which will only make them more and more rebellious.

Adolescent children have basically just entered junior high school, and many problems are actually slowly emerging, and children also feel that it is difficult for a person to face, and parents should be properly guided.

How to educate adolescent children.

Adolescent rebellion is a relatively normal phenomenon, and your child must have something wrong with it, or be dissatisfied with something, and want to try to vent it. But as a parent, when your children's performance does not satisfy you, don't blindly blame your child, don't show your own weight, and don't always say something in front of him that he has no self-esteem, which will hurt his self-esteem, he will play personality with you, and he will show some abnormal performance to maintain his self-esteem. I used to be a rebellious teenager, and I fully understand why teenagers are so rebellious nowadays, that is, you are too authoritative as parents.

If you want to change the children's rebellion, you must teach them with the right attitude and methods, and you should criticize and educate the children reasonably when they make mistakes, instead of showing their authority and bringing out their previous mistakes at every turn. I think that most of the rebellious people are middle school students, it was adolescence at that time, they were teenagers, they were already under a lot of pressure to study, and they didn't have any freedom, and they felt unfair in their hearts when they saw that you had everything, plus they had to be absolutely obedient to your parents, which would inevitably lead to rebellion. Rebellion is light, and some serious ones will hold back mental illness, and it is very likely to go to the road of crime when they grow up, which is not a joke!

Parents should give them a certain amount of freedom, and they should take care of what they should do, but they don't want to do anything, and they should take care of what is useful or useless, especially some unreasonable. If this kind of control is too strict and too serious, the children's psychology must be unbearable. Remember, he is your child, not your slave!

He should be given appropriate encouragement and praised even for a little improvement. Some children are like this, they have made progress and paid, but in the end they still can't be appreciated, which will make them break the jar and break it.

Look at the child with appreciation; Praise more; Patience; to the shortcomings, twists and turns; Don't be grumpy.

Give him a little bit of information about the family's financial pressure, and the mother should not always be very strict, and show in real time that she is weak enough to need her growing son to protect, rather than the mother always protecting her growing son. This trick is particularly effective, my mother is so in charge of my brother, my brother is also thirteen years old this year, very well-behaved, more sensible and obedient than my sister, although occasionally there is a stinky temper, but he is very serious, never obsessed with online games, occasionally my mother is sick and he will take care of my mother, really super.

Don't educate him in a direct way, because he will become more and more rebellious. Learn to surprise him, guide him, and make him happy to communicate with you, and slowly let your child say what he wants to say. You get to know him and can prescribe the right medicine.

Tell him from the small things, the establishment of values, don't ignore the little things. In particular, remember not to mention how you persuaded your children when you were young, that is the most taboo.

Communicate sincerely, so that there is no distance between hearts.

There are a lot of methods, and there is a lot of book knowledge. But to put it bluntly, it is to grasp a point, the child is in the rebellious period, and he likes to come in the opposite way and save face. Just remember one point, under the premise that the principle remains the same, the greatest patience, and speak to him in a gentle voice, he is noisy for a while, sometimes just for his own unreasonable to find a reason, or to be brave for him, be patient, do not quarrel with him, communicate more, remember that the child in this period is the best face, face the problem, communicate carefully, the child is sometimes noisy, he will regret it later, but generally he will not take the initiative to admit his mistakes, so he needs to be more tolerant.

After this period, the temper will be much better.

Hello: 13 years old is a rebellious period in the stage of life, it is normal, in this period, as our relatives to carefully observe his intentions, do not ask him to do this and that, there are some little things to tolerate and forgive him, try not to annoy him, if there are some things he deviates greatly, you have to be patient to give him an analysis of the reason, explain the reason, do not force him to do or not to do, if you can't change his mind, then follow him and let him do it, don't force him, But while he is doing it, you have to observe it silently, as long as it doesn't end too badly. Let him feel that no matter what, his relatives still love him the most, and it will be good to wait for this period.

Communicate more, chat or something; Care more about him in life, so that he can experience the warmth of the family. Don't push him out, remember that home is always his strong backing. He did something wrong, he actually knew it very well in his heart, don't blame him, find out his strengths, encourage him more, because everyone likes to listen to good words, including adults also like to listen to praise, don't tell more cute stories when he was a child, learn to observe words and looks, find the topics he likes to hear, as long as he is not disgusted, continue, if he doesn't like it, stop immediately, don't scold.

This is the most difficult time for education. Pay attention to communication, understand his ideas more, respect him, give him enough space, and most importantly, be patient. You must not be arbitrary and hard-hitting, which will generally not make him agree with you and respect you from the heart, and may also cause him to subconsciously distance himself from you, which will be more troublesome at that time.

Generally trusting a person is the best encouragement to give him, don't take a suspicious attitude. Be relatable.

1. Be friends with your children and don't take drastic behaviors.

To educate your child correctly is to let go of your posture and take the initiative to be friends with your child, rather than acting high all the time. Parents should often have in-depth and intimate conversations with their children to convey their love for their children.

In addition, when children make mistakes, parents should first calm their emotions, avoid taking aggressive actions against their children, regardless of whether they are indiscriminately taught with sticks first, but calmly help children analyze and solve problems.

Treating children harshly not only fails to make them realize their mistakes and correct them, but also leaves a shadow on their hearts and makes their personalities extreme.

2. Give your child more company.

No one can replace the love and companionship of parents, only under the careful teaching and companionship of parents can children receive better education and develop good habits.

But in real life, many parents are forced by the pressure of life to let their grandparents and grandparents come over to help watch the children or leave the children directly in their hometown.

In this case, parents are unable to provide enough time for their children, which will have a negative impact on his development.

Therefore, parents should treat their children more attentively, communicate with them more often, communicate with them more, and keep abreast of their life and learning, so that they can feel that even if their parents are not around, they are still caring and loving themselves.

Boys' puberty generally refers to the growth of boys from early childhood to adulthood, generally boys are puberty at the age of 12-20 years old, and some children are relatively early. When boys enter puberty, some of them will have the following "deterioration" manifestations, this characteristic is very obvious, parents can take care of your eldest son or not.

After the boy enters puberty, the hormones in the body are metabolized, the mood swings are relatively large, and the self-identity is improved, which is very easy to cause friction with parents. Especially in the early stage of puberty, after the child is 10-13 years old, some children become more and more fond of mouth-pouting, disgusted to communicate with their parents, especially ignorant and disobedient, which makes parents very annoyed.

Some boys have "gone bad" and are increasingly not even recognizable to their parents. Children not only love to swear, but also very rude in personal behavior, often arguing with others and fighting with others. Even looking at my parents, it's so rude.

Some children have a tendency to fall in love with students, are used to staying up late, and love to play with the opposite sex. There are also children who are willing to live alone, close themselves off, and even if they are scolded at school, they do not tell their parents, and there is an insurmountable gap between the children and their parents.

Once the child shows this kind of "bad" behavior, the most common way for parents is to be extremely angry, love to scold the child, and try to immediately dissuade the child's various bad behaviors and prevent the child from becoming bad. Parents try their best to hope that their children will become their original state as soon as possible.

Unfortunately, the more parents react like this, the more likely the child is to landslide on the way to "get worse", and the worse it will be.

When parents find that their children have a tendency to deteriorate, parents should help their children find the main reason for their deterioration. For example, as mentioned in the previous article, Xiao Xiang is playing with his grandmother, but in fact, Xiao Xiang is angry, he hasn't seen his grandmother for a long time, and he misses his grandmother very much. Merely a child's form of expression is using catharsis.

Therefore, my parents were so angry and angry inadvertently. Only by looking for the direct cause can it not be easy to misunderstand the child. At the same time, when the child's speech and behavior problems are discovered, even if it is really bad, parents must guide the child correctly.

Boys are all wild to a certain extent, and if parents fight evil with evil, they are not subdued. In this case, the child may be at odds with his parents and cause diaphragms to each other. In that way, it will not help the child to develop his own and inner development, and it will be difficult to wait for the boy to overcome the development difficulties.

Only by guiding children in a proactive manner can children adjust their mentality and make behavioral changes.

Or the above is an example, the father should not have beaten Xiaoxiang, and the mother should not spoil the child in particular, but the problems found are left alone. And when we use gentle communication methods, we should find the root cause behind the child's behavior, and then find a way to solve the real problem together.