Why is a child with one child in the family not as smart as a child with a second child?

I don't know where you came from this judgment, but in the case of my friend, it seems that this is not the case, my friend's first child is much smarter than the second child.

A friend of mine gave birth to a girl and a boy in the second child, and the girl was only a year older than the boy. Girls are smart and responsive, and boys are smart, but not as clever as girls.

In fact, in my opinion, the factor that determines which is smarter, the first child or the second child, is definitely not as simple as who is born first and who comes later. It's the family, the parents' love for the two children, and the difference in their education.

Take my friend as an example, she put all her energy into her daughter, and when the little girl was very young, my friend took the child to the library, went to the children's play, even went to the art exhibition, and took the little baby on a trip. From birth to growth, her mother-in-law helped her take care of the child, so she took good care of my friend's second child. The little girl saw that her grandmother liked her younger brother, she was not angry or coquettish, she quietly kissed her grandmother and told her grandmother that she also liked grandma.

The old lady was so happy that she couldn't keep her mouth shut.

Which is smarter in the first child or the second child has little to do with the order in which they are born, what really matters is the energy and affection that their parents pour into them, and whether they pay more or less!

There will be a lot of families in our lives who have two children, and with the opening of the national two-child policy, it is estimated that more families will have two children in the future.

First of all, it may be that after the eldest in the family, the second child will play with the boss every day, and will also take the initiative to learn some things taught by the boss.

Mom's mentality is different.

In fact, we start from the beginning of pregnancy, mothers may treat the second child with a different attitude, the general mother will be more nervous when pregnant with the eldest child, because it is the first pregnancy, all aspects will be more careful, but with the second child will be different, in the previous experience, so when treating the second child will also be more handy, will also teach the second child to be more smart!

The eldest is just an experimental product, and the second is the official production line.

When we were pregnant for the first time, many mothers had little experience, so they would not be so comprehensive in taking care of the child and the child's education, but it would be completely different when we had the second child.

1. Compare the pros and cons of how many children there are.

If there is only one child, the family will be relatively financially well-off, and the pressure on parents will be less. If there are two children in the family, because someone has to take care of Xiaobao at home, the financial pressure will be greater, and it will take more effort to take care of the baby in the years before the child goes to kindergarten. If there is only one child in the family, if something happens to the child, the parents will have to bear a greater mental blow.

If you have two children at home, it is relatively equivalent to spreading the risk. There is only one child in the family, and the child is used to being the little sun in the family, and he will appear more self-conscious. If you have two children at home, the children are generally better at sharing.

There is only one child in the family, and when he grows up, he has to take on more, because he enjoys all the love, so he has to take all the responsibility. There are two children in the family, and the two children grow up together, and when the parents are old and sick, the two children can help each other and support each other.

2. Comprehensive classification and analysis of the external environment.

First, look at the mother-in-law. After all, most of the mother-in-law in the family holds the power of "life and death", if the mother-in-law does not have the idea of patriarchy, then even if there are two girls or two boys in the family, or both children and daughters, it is not a big problem. There is no need to worry about the mother-in-law having a special preference for the child.

If the mother-in-law is willing to take care of the child for you, she can also do her best, be reasonable, and be considerate of the daughter-in-law. However, in addition to the mother-in-law's side, as a daughter-in-law, you must also do your own thing, so that you can have both.

Secondly, it depends on the husband. Joining the husband is very powerful, he is a person who can do things and adjust, so even if your mother-in-law is unreasonable, as a husband, you can resolve it, which can make your mother-in-law happy and your wife happy. Handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and your mother-in-law will naturally be willing to help you take care of your children.

Finally, it depends on the father-in-law. If there is already a mother-in-law who is not easy to mess with at home, if you are a father-in-law, you will have a small belly and chicken intestines, and there are many trivial things, and if you unite with your mother-in-law, your daughter-in-law can only be more angry, comparable to a powder keg, one by one than the other.

So in addition to the appeal of these issues, the couple's economic strength and family strength cannot be ignored, to put it bluntly, it is the strength of the family. Even if you are a good family with a prosperous family, if you don't have money, how can you raise children together, especially if you have a second child, a boy, and a boy, it is undoubtedly adding fuel to the fire. Of course, if you have high hopes for your family's future income expectations, you can have a few children.

Now many families have ushered in a second child, having a second child has both advantages and disadvantages for the family, and there are many people who find that the second child is generally more intelligent and sensible than the first child. So why is a second child smarter?

In fact, it is not that the IQ of the second child is more intelligent than that of the first child, because of the existence of older brothers and sisters, the second child has learned to observe words and emotions since childhood, and the parents are more pampered when raising a child, so the first-born child may appear particularly immature when doing some things. After the birth of the second child, the average parents will take care of it less carefully, so that the second child will be better than the eldest in terms of self-care ability.

Whether it is the first child or the second child, it is recommended that parents respect the child at the stage of their child's growth and let the child make some decisions on his own. In life, we should also let go as much as possible and let the children do it themselves, so that they will grow faster in learning and life. And the stronger the child's hands-on ability, it will also be of great help in the future.

Some parents have to take care of everything after having a child, so the child of the first child has developed a selfish preference, or even a more selfish character, and when the second child is born, the parents have no heart and energy to manage, so the second child needs to do something by himself, which can make the second child more independent.

Because the living environment of the second child is more "severe", they need to face problems such as competition for favor from birth, and their EQ is higher than that of the eldest, in fact, the IQ of the two children is usually not much different. And many parents who have two treasures will have such a feeling that the second child is much smarter than the eldest child. Obviously they are the same parents, why are there so many differences between the two children?

In fact, this is due to the different living circumstances of the two children after birth.

It is not an exception for a second-born baby to be smarter than Dabao, and parents should still reflect on themselves when they find this situation. First of all, the mother is very cautious when she is pregnant with Dabao, no matter what she does, she will check the information first, and she will be more handy after having two treasures, and the baby will naturally be taken care of better, and the brain will have more opportunities to develop. People often say that "the big treasure is raised according to the book, and the second treasure is raised according to the pig", in fact, this is the truth.

Secondly, when I first had Dabao, there would always be disputes at home because of the problem of educational philosophy, and I signed up for various study classes, which finally delayed the child's time and energy, and made many detours.

However, on the issue of the two treasures of education, we will go straight to the goal and will not waste a little energy and time. The most important thing is that the living environment of the two people is different, you must know that Dabao was completely loved by the whole family when he was born, and his personality is relatively capricious, but after the birth of Erbao, he needs to face problems such as competing for favor, and they have unconsciously developed the ability to observe words and colors, this kind of high emotional intelligence is difficult for Dabao to compare. Dabao is the only child in the family, so he is relatively lonely, without others to accompany him, and his social skills need to be slowly accumulated through communication.

And Erbao was born with older children by his side, and his social skills were directly at the full level.

Although the palms and backs of the hands are full of meat, many parents will always unconsciously prefer Erbao, which will also make older children feel the gap, so they will do something to attract the attention of their parents. In fact, there is not much difference in the IQ of the two children, and the reason why there is a sense of disparity is due to the guidance of their parents.

This is because most people have the experience of raising the eldest after giving birth to the second child, and naturally the second child is no longer crossing the river by feeling the stones, but has experience and methods, and this kind of parenting is better than when raising the eldest child. This is the case in most cases, but it is not excluded that both children are equally smart.

Because many parents have paid attention to the second baby, in fact, this is not the case, the longer you spend with the baby, the smarter the baby will be.

Mainly because many parents feel that the big baby inherits the shortcomings of their parents. The second child inherited her mother's good looks, high emotional intelligence and good genes. Not really

In fact, this statement is very wrong, because whether it is the first child or the second child, as long as it is cultivated through acquired education. You can become very smart, and at the same time, you can also pay attention to the method when you are in prenatal education.

Because there is a comparison, but in fact, children's intelligence is affected by nature, nurture, and environment, and basically it will not be absolute.

I think this is a misunderstanding, whether the child is the first child or the second child, it mainly depends on the mother's nutrition when she was pregnant, of course, there are many other factors that are related.