I find out that I have a habit of escapism, what should I do?

You are a person with no sense of responsibility, and you are a man and a woman, and there are things in your life that no one else can do for you. You have to face it yourself. Don't be timid, don't run away, once or twice you will be able to do it, give yourself a little confidence.

I suggest that you think that I am a responsible person and must face this sentence in person, just keep it in mind.

If you don't see the coffin, you don't shed tears.

You have to suffer a few losses to see if it is better.

Think more about your responsibilities.

Me too, maybe it has something to do with what I was going through, because I wasn't in a very good state of mind at that time, but now it's much better, maybe that feeling is over, and you really have to think about your responsibilities, and then you have to do something. I think back to my parents at that time, my mood is between numbness and anxiety, and only relatives will really put up with you, but I didn't quarrel with them less, they couldn't understand or didn't understand, because in fact I didn't tell them anything, but they were really anxious, I think about it now, it's really difficult for them, I excluded everything during that time, and I couldn't even understand my mother talking to me, and if she said it again, my heart became anxious. I hated myself for not being able to understand words, and that I had simply lost my analytical skills.

At that time, even if an oncoming car on the road was about to hit me, I was indifferent and numb, my head often stopped, I went on strike, and I had insomnia, sleeping only 4 or 5 hours a day, and vomiting, and I felt very comfortable pouring out all the filth I had, and it was like the only connection with the outside world. Later, I went to the hospital and my stomach proved that there was no problem, it was a psychological factor, so I changed my past wrong, completely quit this problem, and then I changed the environment, just now, after two years of recuperation, I am not as energetic as before, I also slowly understand that it is useless to escape, some things always have to be faced, I can't go on like that for a lifetime, I just told myself, slowly survived, although not particularly good now, but gradually found some life tracks, work hard, don't be like me, made a big detour, and finally returned to the original point and walked again, wasting time and life in vain.

Psychological analysis: In fact, the subject is not stupid at all, but he is not very willing to face the reality, so he is very reluctant to do a lot of things without doing his best.

Reading is to give us enough ability to cope with what happens in the future, although at that time it was to avoid work I chose to upgrade to the book, but not everyone succeeded, and the subject can do this shows that there is still a certain strength.

If you worked hard in the process of the exam, then it means that you have the strength, but you don't want to work, you don't want to face the pressure of life, so you choose to continue to improve your education, and after we can adjust our mentality, I think it is not difficult for the subject to believe that work.

If you didn't work hard to get admitted to the undergraduate, it means that you still have a lot of potential to tap by yourself, and you are about to graduate, in fact, many things are not as difficult as imagined, but we don't take it seriously to face it.

It's like working in a bubble tea shop before, we go to work more like experiencing life, and we can stop doing it if we don't want to do it one day, but it's different for that little sister, because if she doesn't do it, it means that she will be hungry, so she does everything she does with her best, and we give ourselves a kick back at the beginning.

We can calm down and think about what kind of job we want to find, set some goals for ourselves, work hard for these goals, don't think about the final result, and try to enjoy the process, life is not as difficult as we imagined, but we don't want to face it.

First of all, I have to admit that I used to be like this, and when I encountered difficulties, I either avoided them or pushed them backwards. Later, I read an article that changed me completely, and the article reads as follows:

After all, our life exists in society, after all, it is not a very perfect era, nor is it a great contemporaneous period. It can't be a sunny spring, and there will be a cold winter; It can't be all sunny and brilliant days, and there will be rainy seasons; It can't be a sunny day, and there will be a long night when the cold air hits people. In the cold winter, in the gloomy rainy season, in the long cold nights, we must not be restless, we must not be discouraged, and we must not give up on ourselves.

We must wait in silence, endure in silence, and persevere in silence. Only in that way can we get out of winter and usher in the fragrance of birds and flowers in spring; in order to get out of the rainy season and usher in a clear blue sky and white clouds; In order to get out of the night and usher in the fiery sunrise.

I remember a philosopher once said: "Only by accepting the shadow will the sun shine and shine; Refuse the shade, it will only be cloudy, there will be no sunshine. "Friend, the beauty of things is not easy, it is not achieved overnight, it is not smooth sailing.

It must be nurtured in the tears of pain, take root in the soil of patience, sprout in the years of waiting, and blossom in the season of perseverance. It has to endure the pain of countless quantitative changes in order to sublimate to the beauty of qualitative changes'

Yes, everyone has difficulties, but there are not many people who face difficulties every time, but these people eventually become the protagonists of many stories. Each of us wants to have a good future for ourselves, but like the article I mentioned above, a good future can only be obtained by our own efforts. If you blindly try to escape, then it will gradually sink to the bottom like the mud and sand in the water.

A teacher once said: Sometimes, our life is like the mud and sand in the river, gradually sinking to the bottom of the water, at this time, we may not work hard to move forward, but we will never see the sun.

Therefore, no matter how big the problem is, we must face it bravely for the sake of sunshine!!

You can tell your friends about this.

Finally, I wish that friend happiness.

One of the ways to prevent anxiety is to escape. This method is embodied in the personality as a dao evasive personality. The version is as follows:

1.Strong inferiority complex, lack of self-confidence, and easily hurt. This inferiority complex originates in childhood and is formed due to psychological defects.

In addition, physical defects, gender, working conditions, and social status may also produce an inferiority complex. If the inferiority complex is not improved for a long time, it is easy to develop avoidant personality disorder.

2) Withdrawn behavior, reluctance to take responsibility, avoidance of interpersonal and social activities, reluctance to take on new or challenging work, and reluctance to take the initiative to achieve one's goals.

3) Poor communication skills, unwilling to make close friends, unwilling to get involved in other people's affairs, not like to talk in social situations, especially not used to speaking alone, sensitive and shy.

4) Keeping to oneself, following the rules, lacking the adventurous and pioneering spirit, often let one opportunity slip away from the side.

First, remove the patient's inferiority complex, improve self-confidence, believe in their own ability, and be good at discovering their own strengths and strengths. For example, people with low self-esteem tend to be cautious, humble, and do not fight for power. At the same time, we should actively encourage ourselves, self-suggest, and encourage ourselves to succeed.

Second, patients are encouraged to participate in more social activities, take the initiative and consciously speak in front of a crowd, and overcome their interpersonal barriers.

Escaping is just waiting until you have the courage to deal with the problem.

Escape is sometimes a sign of cowardice, sometimes it is an embarrassed heart, and escape is sometimes weak;

Escaping is not necessarily the most difficult to hide, and facing is not necessarily the most uncomfortable. Why run away from it? When encountering things, we must dare to face them, only facing them is the only key to solving the problem, and people who are afraid of danger are 10,000 times more terrible than the danger itself.

Turning around is not necessarily the weakest, hesitation is not necessarily no choice, just not wanting to be wrong again.

Sadness is always inevitable, wipe away the tears you accidentally dropped, heal your bleeding wounds, pretend that everything doesn't matter, and then drive it all out of your wounded heart, if you don't want to bear it, forget him, as a sad death, get out of the shadows, face it bravely, the more you shrink, the more you have the heart of escape, so you have to stand up, everything doesn't matter, and it's a day before you go over.

You know, in fact, a second can be all, and a tear can be a lifetime.

In fact, to be honest, escaping is not necessarily the most difficult to hide, and facing it is not necessarily the most uncomfortable. Why choose to escape? Escape is a cowardly behavior, a manifestation of weakness, a psychological factor of fear, a helpless failure, escape is a shadow of the soul, the heart of escape is not good, the more fearful the heart, the more afraid the heart.

Escaping is not necessarily the most difficult to hide, and facing is not necessarily the most uncomfortable. Why run away from it? In fact, escape is a cowardly behavior, a manifestation of weakness, a psychological factor of fear, there is a bad heart to escape, encounter things to dare to dough spring right, the more afraid the more fearful, only face is the only key to solve the problem, fear of danger people, than the danger itself is 10,000 times more terrible.

Turning around and falling into a state of resistance is not necessarily the weakest, hesitation is not necessarily no choice, but I just don't want to be wrong again.

Sadness is always inevitable, wipe away the tears you accidentally dropped, heal your bleeding wounds, pretend that everything doesn't matter, and then drive it all out of your wounded heart, and forget him if you don't want to bear it, as a sad death auspicious liquid, get out of the shadows, be strong, face bravely, you know, in fact, a second can be all, a tear can also be a lifetime.

Can it solve your problem?

It's because reality makes you unhappy, and you need to face these dissatisfactions and then find a way to solve them.

It shows that you are now encountering things that you dare not face, and you can't get over the psychological hurdle, just like a bureau where you are trapped to death, in fact, you can come out, but you feel safer and more comfortable inside, you should face the reality directly now, otherwise the escape will only get more and more serious, or lose more.

Think about reality, do something you love to do, and be optimistic.

Be brave and face the reality! To run away is to deceive yourself!

After all, you still have to face everything!