What should I do if I find an extremely stupid and scheming man?

How to deal with a scheming man?

I don't know what people think of scheming men, when I write this, others will definitely say that I am self-inflicted, but I hope to give you a warning.

I was a married woman, because we had just graduated, because of work, we were on one side, busy with our own careers, the company's computers were all connected, I entered a forum in my free time, and wrote some of my things on the Internet, most of which were about emotional confusion and the pressure brought by marriage.

Then I met a man in the forum, he first comforted me, he was trapped in love, his first love girlfriend married his friend, I didn't notice him at first, and then he asked me to join a group chat, I added, at that time there were a few netizens who played well and chatted together, and he said he liked me, thought I was real, sent me a lot of emails, and took my ** number from female netizens. Evolve to chat.

I didn't know that everything was a trap, basically every time he dialed it, I called, but I thought, anyway, it's friends, and I don't care about those, I was dizzy during that time, many netizens even encouraged me, thinking that there is a real relationship between us, and they all support us, I even promised to go to his place to see him, but after weighing it for a long time, I also asked some of my friends, or decided to break off such a relationship, I realized that doing so would hurt many people, including my lover. Although they all said that they could be friends, they didn't expect that he would be entangled repeatedly, he was on the Internet almost every night, and even had a chance with people outside, and he also put the responsibility on my head, saying that it was because he missed me, my God, which made me feel very guilty, in fact, before breaking off with him, I had persuaded him many times, telling him to want to open a little, and the past was over, why mention it again?

I pulled him into the blacklist, and then because I was okay in the forum, I made some friends, and I was very popular, and he started to talk nonsense again, making fun of me in every way, saying that I was a feeling**, saying that I was hypocritical, and who was the next person to be deceived? To be honest, I don't know where my hypocrisy is, who am I fooling?

It turned out unexpectedly, so I decided to leave the forum, so I posted a post that didn't mention that he had pursued me before, just that someone was always difficult for me, that he had become a moderator with our support, and as a result, he took out all the previous things, and also said that our chat history could be copied to everyone to see, including everything.

In fact, nothing happened to us, we just can't stand this kind of person, it's too hypocritical, yes, so he became famous, stepped on me and became famous, I didn't say much, keeping silent is the best solution, but silence does not mean acquiescence, I will still stand up and make my position when appropriate.

He was too clever to know that I had blocked him and deleted him, so there was no evidence left for him to pretend to be weak and hurt, and to gain the sympathy of many girls, and in fact he used this sympathy to perform his deception.

I'm glad I recognize him as a person, and I hope you sisters should be cautious when making friends.

Divide it! Don't try to change it if it's impossible!

Learn to observe.

The so-called eyes and ears are the knowledge that must be mastered in society. No matter where you are, at work, at school, even at a dinner table meeting, you have to learn to observe, to observe everyone around you, to observe everything that is happening. You can't just immerse yourself in your senses, you have to use all your acumen to observe everyone around you.

2. Learn to judge.

It's not enough to just observe, you also have to learn to judge, and use the first time to judge the general idea of things. Although it is said that you cannot judge a thing or a person all at once, you must learn to have the ability to judge at the first time. Many people seem to be very shrewd and observant, but when they encounter unexpected things, they are very confused, they don't know what to do, and they can only make judgments for a long time, which is the reason why their judgment is not strong.

3. Know how to reason.

No matter what happens, you must first have a self-reasoning, use the fastest time, according to your inner feelings, as well as the appearance of things, plus your daily observation of those things and people, and then make a series of reasoning. Although everything cannot be done by reasoning alone, reasoning is a skill that you must master.

4. Don't be self-righteous.

Stupid people will have such a characteristic, that is, self-righteousness, you have to have your own observation, judgment and reasoning ability, but that must only be a matter of your heart, no matter how correct your reasoning judgment observation is, as long as the matter has not been proven, you must keep your thoughts in your heart. Of course, you can come up with your ideas when you need to, but that doesn't mean you're going to have to put it all at once.

5. Learn to hide your emotions.

A person who can't control his emotions well suffers very much in this society. No matter what we've been through, or what we're going through, it's something that can only be kept in our hearts. You can say that a person who likes to be in the shape is innocent and innocent, and I think so, but to survive better, you have to learn to hide your emotions.

6. Do not be quick to anger.

Once a person is angry, then he is bound to lose a lot of reason, and a person who loses part or all of his reason may do a lot of things that he can't understand, and at that time, you can say that your IQ is almost zero. So you always have to remember that you don't get angry easily, unless you don't want to be the scheming person at all.

7. Not to be swayed by anyone.

Being swayed by others at will, such a person will be trampled under his feet in society, you don't even have your own ideas, what else can you have? The opinions of others are certainly worth thinking about, and are worth listening to and learning from, but it does not mean that we should be easily swayed by any of them.

Becoming scheming is to be hurt a lot, only then will there be scheming, the heart of harming people is indispensable, the heart of preventing people is indispensable, the society is complex, the heart is complex, you don't have the scheming to live, the beginning of people, the nature is good, but the social environment, you can't think of scheming, anti-villain, anti-**, etc., so scheming is slowly coming.

Talk less, think more, know the result of a thing or know who did it, don't say it, even if you say it, not only is it not beneficial, but it will lead to trouble, this is also as people grow up, slowly understand, think about it slowly.

There is no way, stay away from scheming people.