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Parental influence on children:
1. The impact on the child's pattern. In fact, how big the pattern of parents is, how big the pattern of children may be. If a pair of parents discuss all kinds of three aunts and six mothers-in-law in front of their children all day long.
Gossip, children are exposed to it every day, and when they grow up, they may only pay more attention to the shortcomings of various parents, and there is no bigger pattern at all.
2. Impact on children's cognition. How bad parents are at their children's education, how bad their children's growth will be. Parents who do not pay attention to their children's education may not pay attention to whether their children imitate some of their own bad behaviors every day, and as a result, they will find out that their children have been led crooked in their growth one day, and it is really too late to regret it.
3. Impact on children's marriage. If the parents' marriage is not satisfactory, every day is either quarrel or cold war, so that the child can not experience the warmth of the family at all, and the child who grows up in such an environment does not have much warmth for the family, so he is not very yearning for marriage, and may not feel the beauty and sacredness of marriage.
4. The impact on the child's personality. The personality of the parents also greatly affects the character and character of the child. As the child's first teacher, if many of the parents' behaviors are not regulated, but do as they please, then the child is likely to be directly affected by the bad influence.
5. Influence on children's behavior. If parents can't talk and comment well when solving problems, and always like to solve problems with fists, then children may choose to directly use fists to talk in the future under this kind of environmental influence, so this kind of education method is not worth advocating.
6. Influence your child's future. A child's future is often closely related to the education of the child. If the parents of the child do not pay attention to the moral shaping and knowledge inculcation of the child when he is young, and grow up freely, it will be difficult for the child to truly become a pillar of the country when he grows up, and it will be even more difficult to become a person who is filial to his parents and useful to society.
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From the heart of a little girl.
I once saw a **, which said that the parents gave the family dog to others, but the child in this family liked the dog very much, and when the child was unwilling, he gave him a toy dog. When the child grows up and the parents buy him another dog, the child says a sad sentence: "What I like is just a toy dog!"
As a parent, one of his actions actually cast a shadow on the child's life.
Perhaps, parents will never know what their children are pursuing, and they will never understand their children's hearts. Parents think about whether you are particularly impulsive when you educate your children, but think about what you are like in the eyes of your children from the perspective of your children.
Every child is originally pure, and 80% of the changes that come from what parents do to their children. Having said all this, I hope all parents understand: every word and action you make may cause irreversible changes in your child's life!
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What kind of person a child can become in the future depends to a large extent on what level of the child's parents are and what kind of family environment the child grows up in in the early days.
There was an Edwardian family in England, a real scholarly family. Edward Sr. was a learned philosopher, rigorous and diligent. Among his children and grandchildren are 13 university presidents, 100 professors, more than 80 writers, more than 60 doctors, one ambassador, and more than 20 parliamentarians.
Also in England, another Zhuke family, compared to which is very different. Lao Zhuke is a well-known drunkard and gambler, who is confused and has nothing to do. This family has been passed down for eight generations, and more than 300 of its descendants have been beggars and vagrants, more than 400 have been disabled or killed by alcoholism, more than 60 have committed ** or theft, 7 murderers, and no one in the entire family has a good life.
As a parent, you really don't have to talk too much to your children, but you must use your own practical actions to influence them, set a good example for them, and let them perceive those truths in practice, so that they can truly understand and apply them to their words and deeds.
As it has been said, a child's heart is a strange land, and sowing the seeds of thought will reap the harvest of deeds; Sow the seeds of behavior and reap the harvest of habits; Sow the seeds of habit and reap the harvest of virtue; Sow the seeds of virtue and you will reap the harvest of destiny.
I hope that children are hardworking and promising, and parents should not be lazy; I hope that children are knowledgeable, and parents should not be barbaric and rude; If you want your child to excel, you must lead by example.
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1. Oversatisfying children.
The child can satisfy him with everything he wants, which will make him feel that everything is easy to come by from an early age. Parents should learn to say no to their children, and make them feel that everything is hard-won and must be obtained through their own efforts. When he was a child, his parents satisfied him when he cried, but what about when he grew up?
2. Say commanding words to children often.
Some parents always use the excuse that their children are good and forcibly instill their worldview and values into their children, and once they are disobedient, it will directly become an order, regardless of their inner thoughts.
The younger the child, the less able he is to express his thoughts and wishes, and the more "high-pressure" the adult, the less afraid the child will be to express it. In the long run, the child will feel that he is not respected and his personality will become rebellious or weak.
3. When children make mistakes, parents do not criticize and correct.
When a child makes a mistake, we always feel that he is young and doesn't understand so many big truths, so it's good when he grows up. But is it good to really grow up? If we make mistakes, even if the child is young, we must point it out and communicate with him and let him correct it slowly, otherwise as he grows up, he will feel that what he does is right, and his values will be distorted.
4. The mobile phone does not leave the body.
Parents have been working for a day and want to relax when they come home, so they pick up their mobile phones and keep swiping, completely ignoring the child's expectant eyes, and pitifully want to play with you. Yes, it is very hard to go to work, and we have to face the child when we go home, but we have chosen to have a child, and since we are born, we have to assume the responsibility and obligation of "teaching".
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1. Dependent.
Emotionally overly dependent on children, with mothers mostly attached to their sons. Healthy attachment relationships are the cornerstone of a child's mental health. However, if the mother is too attached to her son, and the husband becomes an outsider, the child will "replace" the role of the father, which will have an impact on future marriage and friendship.
Find your own role, so that family relationships can be normal. Don't be overly attached to your children just because your relationship is not good, but communicate fully with each other to create a healthy family relationship.
2. Compassion.
Some parents will show an inferiority complex in front of their children to ease their guilt. In this way, it is easy to "infect" the inferiority complex to the child, making them think, "Dad is incapable, what can I do!" "Parents are supposed to be a big tree that shelters their children from the wind and rain, but when their children find that this big tree is "leaking", how can they be confident and confident?
When children have a desire to compare, they will ask many questions to their parents. At this time, parents should first stand up and believe that they can give their children the most suitable life.
3. Complaining.
Parents' complaints are like a dose of poison that will slowly erode the child's body and mind, directly affecting the way the child sees problems. The most direct impact is that children also become complaining and shirk responsibility. Parents should be themselves first, and they should also learn to think from their children's point of view.
4. Doting.
If you want anything, just say it, and Dad will buy you everything. "Baby, Mommy listens to you. Children who are overspoiled do not know how to think about others and are selfish.
Parents meet his unreasonable demands, and slowly the child will have the idea of "I am the boss" in his heart, he does not know how to give in and be tolerant, and he can't stand the grievances, his personality is arrogant, and his behavior is perverse and arbitrary. Spoiling has all kinds of harm but no benefit, and such parents should reflect on their behavior as soon as possible.
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1. Parents should not speak loudly.
Some parents speak loudly, as if they are arguing. Parents may think that this is nothing, but children will imitate it, and children will talk loudly from their parents from elementary school, and when they grow up, they will not feel very good when they speak, like quarrels.
2. Read the book in front of your child.
Maybe you're a parent who doesn't like to read or study. But in front of your child, it's better to pretend to read a book and make a show. In this way, when the child is fine, he will also hold a book to read.
3. Don't watch TV in front of your children.
When your child comes home from school or is at home on the weekend, don't watch TV, play games on the Internet, etc. in front of your child. Because you don't play, children have to play, but seeing adults playing on the computer and watching TV, children have more reason to play.
4. Don't swear in front of children.
In particular, some fathers like to speak with a bit of a swear mantra, which may not be much to adults. But children will also learn, so parents should not swear in front of their children, but use civilized language.
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The relationship between parents will affect the child's personality, children from harmonious families will be more lively, while children in violent families will have low self-esteem. Parents' behavior affects children's behavior, after all, parents are children's first mentors, and many behaviors children imitate their parents.
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For a child, his parents are his most reliable dependents. Because parents are the greatest people in his heart, if the relationship between parents is strained, this tension must also be transferred to the child's heart, thus making him feel uneasy and worried. Some children's parents can't control their emotions well, and because of some frustration or unpleasant things, they complain and even beat and scold each other.
The menacing look of the parents. Shrill scolding. Hateful language can make children feel very scared and cause emotional stress.
Children will think that their loved ones are hating each other and that the family will break up. The child's psychological tolerance is very poor, and if it is constantly in this environment, it will have a negative impact on the child's intelligence, personality and physical development. Parents quarrel in front of their children, and they also damage the image of their parents, when both parties blame each other for weaknesses and flaws, and when children are unwilling to listen to one side, they will use this to rebel.
Some children are overwhelmed between being faithful to their father and being loyal to their mother, and they are often troubled. Some parents use their children to oppose the other parent and tell the other party about their mistakes in front of the child. This practice is also very inappropriate, it is tantamount to involving the child in the "war" of the parents, for the young child, he can not understand what is going on at all, and can only leave a deep wound on the soul, so the wise parents are advised not to quarrel in front of the child.
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The people who have the greatest influence on a child are their parents. I'm afraid of getting married, I'm afraid of having a family, I'm worried that all my bad state will subtly affect my children. I was already a failure of homeschooling, and I really didn't want my future children to do the same.
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The influence of parents on children includes: the formation of children's world view, outlook on life, and values, children's consumption concepts, children's time concepts, and children's behavior are deeply affected by parents' behavior.
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Imagine that the joy of having a new toy has replaced the sadness of a broken toy. Let the child solve the problem in the face of the real situation, and at the same time, she can also adjust her emotions and turn "bad things into good things". Although there is a spirit of writing Ah Q, it is also a positive attitude towards life, because immersing yourself in grief and sadness will not help you solve the problem.
As the child grows up slowly and the scope of contact in social life expands, his personality gradually tends to be social, and the influence of the environment deepens. In reality, the vast majority of people have mixed personalities, and even more cheerful children have introverted times, while older children also show a calm side when dealing with things. As a parent, it is very important to influence your child in the process of character formation, so if you want your child to be optimistic and cheerful, then you need to use your behavior and way to exert influence.
But in any case, we still have to respect the inherited personality traits, so don't force adjustments, and influence each other on the basis of acceptance.
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There are too many of these, it can be said that the people who have the greatest influence on a child are their parents, and even some children will perfectly inherit the character of their parents, so parents must set an example and do a good job in their children's education.
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Parents influence their children's thinking and ideas, as well as their perception of the world. In particular, when parents quarrel in front of their children, it may cause a shadow on their children's minds. The best way for parents to teach their children is by example.
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