How much does a parent s crying of poverty affect a child?

For a delicate child, the cry of parents will make her more and more barren and inferior. When children grow up, they will feel inferior, so they can often only please others, live a well-behaved life, and cannot live their own life at all.

Parents crying poor, will let the child's energy distract and affect learning, children live in the days when their parents cry poor, so that children will turn their energy to think about the gap between the rich and the poor, fall into the trouble of money, and experience the taste of no money, so there is no way to study well at all.

Parents crying poor will make their children sensitive and vulnerable. In this stressful environment, children will become extremely sensitive to people and things around them, and are reluctant to participate in social activities, which will hinder intellectual development, affect academic performance, and the most obvious effect is to inhibit the curiosity to explore the world.

Parents cry poor, will let the child lose some pattern, the most obvious is that the parents cry poor, the child may save a little money, spend time on something that can not add value to themselves, so as to lose more time and opportunity to contact new things, for a long time, the child will fall behind a lot than others.

Parents are the shadow of children, parents' behavior will affect children, parents are children's enlightenment teachers, what kind of parents will educate what kind of children.

No matter how hard life is, it needs to be borne by parents, the child is innocent, crying poverty to the child, the child will not help in any way, why put a lot of pressure on him when he should be happy.

Crying poor will only make the child think that his family conditions are very poor, and he will have an inferiority complex, and he will have a lot of entanglements because of the ** of some items, and he wants to save every penny for his parents.

I can only watch the things that my friends and their parents buy for them, and I have long forgotten what the gifts my parents give me look like.

In a poor family, the concept of poverty should not be passed on to the child, his soul will be traumatized, and the bad conditions are due to the parents not working hard enough, and even he does not know.

Why did Shiro's parents tell him that their family was poor?

It will make the child misunderstand whether he should save money or not, the child will find problems in his own side, and they will not blame the parents, because they know that blame will not change anything.

To teach children the right values, crying poor will affect children in many aspects, such as interactions with friends, and he is not willing to spend a penny to maintain the relationship with friends.

In the process of having a girlfriend in the future, he will try his best to save money, and it is easy to become a stingy man, and he will think that money can give him enough security, and he will even save very much in life.

The impact is great, it can make the child inferior, it can make the child vain.

It is not necessarily a good thing for parents to cry poor, maybe parents want their children to know that their family has no money and cannot spend so much, but if parents often cry poor, the child's personality will change over time.

There are many examples of this around me, including myself:

When I was a child, my family was very poor, and my parents often instilled in me the idea of poverty, always saying that our family could not be compared with other people's families, and slowly in terms of money, I was quite inferior, and now it is the same, I always feel that our family is worse than other people's families, and my family has no money, so it always seems out of place with others.

I remember that the primary school organized a spring and autumn outing, one or two hundred yuan at a time, our whole class signed up to go, only I said I didn't want to go, in fact, I really wanted to go, but I felt that our family had no money, I didn't want my parents to spend money, I was very inferior so I often cried secretly.

I also have a friend who told me that his family used to be very poor, and his parents would always tell him that their family was so poor that it was difficult to make a living. And when I usually get along with him, I think he is quite vain, he will always say that he is poor and only has money left, he will show me his wallet, say that he has a lot of cash, and he will especially like to talk about high-end things.

In normal conversations, if I say what I see and what I see, he will definitely say, "Buy, buy, buy, there is money, what is money, it is a piece of paper, if you don't have enough money, I will give it to you" In fact, I will be very disgusted when I hear it.

When rich friends appear around him, they will also flatter, like to post the past, call them brother, and then buy them cigarettes and food, in fact, I think this is also the sequelae of parents crying poor and leaving behind.

Parents often cry poor, which really has a great impact on children, and I deeply understand that although I will not be inferior in interpersonal communication, but in terms of money, I am so inferior that I am afraid that others will say that I am poor, and my heart is very sensitive.

It can have a very big impact on children, which can form an impression in their minds and even affect them for the rest of their lives. When parents cry poverty to their children, they are actually complaining in disguise about how tired and busy they are every day, and they can't make money, which makes it easy for children to feel that it is difficult for them to survive in this world! If they have a good worldview, they may have good results, but if they have a bad worldview in the first place, then they may go down the path of crime!

When I was very young, my parents didn't actually tell me about the situation in my family, but she used his practical actions to show that the family was not rich, and when I was sensible, she slowly told me the specific situation in the family, and told me what I should do in the future, and told me very clearly what I should do now, what I can do, and then told me that this situation in my family will not last long, at least now I feel that she crying poor in front of me still helped me, and did not let me have a bad influence!

And in one of my villages, maybe this family is in a similar situation to me, or a little better than mine, his parents often tell him that the situation at home is not very good, so he has to work hard to make money, but when he is sensible, he finds that this society is not the same as the society he imagined, and finally he becomes less and less like himself, and wants to make money faster, and finally embarks on the road of crime, which stains his life!

So a lot of words, we can say in front of the child, but we should pay attention to the occasion and way of speaking, parents should not instill a bad world view in the child when he is young, to make his world full of joy, but when he is sensible, you can also let them know that the world also has a cruel side, so that they will not be unable to accept the bad reality for a while!

Many times, parents use crying poor as a means of controlling their children, "Children are very poor at home since they were young, so they can't." This one is too expensive, so don't buy it. It's not easy to make money, and it's hard to go to work. ”

Many times, this method will be very effective, but behind the effectiveness is accompanied by the child's sense of deprivation, which may accompany the child until he grows up, and if the child is not able to sort out himself when he grows up, it may accompany the child for a lifetime.

What are the harms of such a sense of deprivation?

Growing up in such conditions, it is easy to be set up by money in a lot of frameworks.

1.When children grow up, they will not have the courage to explore the world, and when facing university, they will not consider what they like, but which major is better for employment.

Facing graduation, the consideration is not what kind of job they like, but what kind of job is more stable, it is better to say, thinking that such a job will be more stable, there are many people who have been taking the career examination since graduation, civil servants, have been depressed, on the one hand, they have to escape from the home environment, complain about their parents, and on the other hand, they are not determined every year and do not think about a new way out.

2.When it comes to consumption, it's hard to think about value and prioritize **.

Will be for a discount of 10 yuan and walk on the ** for half an hour.

For the 5 yuan discount, I will wait for 2 days to buy paper towels that will be used soon.

There are a lot of daily necessities such as soap and toothbrushes that cannot be used up in a year because they are cheap.

When you travel, you have to finish all the attractions to feel that you don't suffer.

When you see free resource books on the Internet, you immediately want to save them, but you never read them, because although these are free, they are not your own specialty, so you can't read them at all, and when you want to read them, you don't know where to look for them.

3.I have something very good, but I don't think I deserve it.

The exciting thing you want to have, thinking that it is not your consumption level, is the first thing to turn away. For example, I like a teacher's course very much, and when I hear that ** wants 5 figures, I don't even want to give up. I don't think I'm qualified to spend so much money on a class.

I think that such courses are only heard by people with an annual salary of one million in big cities, but as everyone knows, those annual salaries of one million are all because of listening to such courses and doing such hard work. The rich mindset is what I have to do to have what I want, while the poor mindset is what I have to be able to do.

Therefore, as a parent, you must pay attention to communication with your child, and cultivate a child who is full of heart, self-confidence, and a sense of security is a blessing for the child's life.

It will make children form wrong concepts of money, affect children's personalities, lead to low self-esteem and sensitive situations, and also affect children's self-confidence, affect children's three views, make children lack a sense of security, and in the future life and work road, Slender Heng is easy to be deceived by others.

It will make the child become very inferior, the child will be very unconfident, the child does not have good values, and the child is easy to be dissatisfied with his father and mother, and will form a pleasing personality.

It will lead to the child's very low self-esteem and sensitivity, will cause the child to be particularly fragile and rush to the bridge, will cause the child to be very selfish, will not be good at sharing, and will also cause the child to be very extreme, and will also make the child unable to raise his head in front of friends and friends, and will make the child loose and very picky, and pay special attention to money.

It will make the closed mold child more inferior, and it will also make the child talk about the sedan chair and have a lot of problems, the child will also be hurt to a certain extent, and the child's heart will be very distorted, and it will also be very cowardly.

If parents often cry poverty to their children, they may let their children develop the habit of being thrifty and stingy. That is, consciously not to spend money, and then Fu Sui is more harsh on himself. At the same time, I will also know that there is some inferiority complex in my heart.

I feel that my family is relatively poor and does not deserve better things.

The child will think that his family is very poor, and any person who wants to buy it in the future will not dare to tell the family, you can tell the child that his parents are very tired of doing things, how much salary can be paid every month, although this salary is not much, but it can keep him warm, what he wants, he can or shake the congratulations to think about whether he really needs?

Children will have no sense of security and low self-esteem. The negative energy of parents infects the child, and the child feels that he has no confidence in life. Having a higher desire for money is not conducive to the development of children's people.

Parents crying poor have a certain impact on their children. When parents often complain to their children about financial difficulties or financial constraints, children may feel the pressure and anxiety of the family, creating insecurity. This can have a negative impact on a child's emotional and mental health.

In addition, parents crying about poverty may also instill in their children a negative concept of money, causing them to pay too much attention to material things and money, and even form negative attitudes and behaviors, such as a comparison mentality or irresponsible spending habits. Therefore, parents should pay attention to positive language and attitudes when communicating with their children, convey the values of accumulation, and help children establish a correct concept of money and the ability to cope with difficulties.

There are many parents who like to cry poverty with their children, and parents always instill some poor thoughts in their children from childhood to adulthood. In family education, there will always be unconsciously crying poverty to children, parents do this with good intentions, and do not want children to form a sense of spending. But doing so can have a lot of bad effects on the child.

I believe many people have heard that parents say this, our family has no conditions, you don't want to buy such expensive things, there is one in the family that is not broken, you can continue to use it. It's not easy to make money, don't buy useless things. Always instilling a poor value in the child, will make the child feel that he does not deserve those things, the child does not dare to expect high-quality things, over time will become inferior, and when getting along with peers, he will feel that his family is very poor, so he can't take the same things as others.

I always hear parents say that poor children will also lack psychology, for example, I didn't buy Kinder Eggs when I was young. Because a small thing costs more than 10 yuan, I am reluctant, and now I am grown up and can afford to buy it for myself, but I can't feel the joy of childhood anymore. Not satisfying one's desires when you are young will make your child remember it for a lifetime.

Even if you grow up and make up for the regrets in your heart, you will still be hungry for a lifetime.

Children who have been suppressed by money for a long time will be very timid and cautious when spending, because they have been instilled with the idea of poverty for a long time, causing them to feel guilty for spending every penny. They will feel inferior and afraid to make new friends. It may even lead them to lack of understanding of money and produce revenge consumption, but everything involving money will make them especially careful to think that money is the most important thing, and when they grow up, they may do things with no lower limit for money and completely become slaves of money.

Being indoctrinated with the idea of poverty for a long time will also lead them to be stingy, selfish and unstructured. Although frugality is a traditional virtue, excessive frugality will only make children become selfish and petty, unwilling to share good things with others, short-sighted, fragile in their hearts, and scheming for petty profits.