Men have reasons why they can t go home, and what does it mean for men not to go home

1. Do your own hobbies.

Men are busy with work all day long, and rarely have time to get in touch with the things they like to do, and only have time to do these things when they are off work to fill the void in their hearts. And most men love fitness, they go to fitness after work, not only to exercise their body, but also to relax their mood and relieve their day's pressure. So men after work"There is no home", women don't be suspicious, he just does something he likes.

Second, there is a lot of overtime at work.

All workplaces inevitably have overtime projects, and men are the heads of the family, and they must rely on their own hardships and hard work to support this large family. All work is like this, as long as you want to earn more money, you have to do more things than others, only your own hardship, your own unremitting efforts, in exchange for future happiness and stability. So when men"There is no home"Maybe you are working overtime silently in the company, trying to make your life better and better through your own efforts!

3. Friends gather for a lot of entertainment.

Boys generally have more friends, and it is normal for friends to eat and drink together. If the circle is large, there will be more people to know, so it is inevitable that there will be more gatherings. Boys don't eat together like girls, they simply eat what they want to eat together, and they leave after eating, without procrastination, and boys' parties are generally very long.

Because they must have drunk when they get together, and then two or three friends get together to chat, so they have to come home late. So men"There is no home"It's because they socialize a lot, women, have you found out?

Fourth, you always lose your temper with him.

When a man comes home from work, he wants to relax and relax himself, and some women often can't understand their man, they are very harsh on him, and they are prone to lose their temper. So men will feel irritable after a long time, they will feel that they need a gentle and considerate object to take care of themselves, and you are too willful, which will make the man very reluctant to go home, because he wants to give you time to reflect, and he also needs a space to calm down. This will cause a lot of trouble for your relationship.

If this is the reason why men do not return home, women should reflect on themselves!

So, most of the men"There is no home", mostly because of these four things, if there is a last one, both parties need to reflect deeply, women don't understand!

In today's society, men's inner pressure is still relatively large. You have to be rich, you have to be handsome, and you have to be considerate of anyone's psychological feelings.

Money is the dignity of men in modern society. I can't earn money and I don't have the face to go home. And what about women? It's a man's face. If you can't find a wife, you're afraid of gossip from others, and you don't have the face to go home.

Home was close, but the man couldn't find his way home......Thank you. <>

If a man doesn't go home, it means that he may have someone outside, if a man likes you, respects you, and will go home every night, if the company has overtime, he will definitely tell you in advance, so that you don't worry about him, but if he doesn't tell you what the reason is, he has been refusing to go home at night, and the biggest reason in this case may be that there are people outside, he doesn't like you very much, and he doesn't want to come back every day to face you, and he feels very tired, Other reasons may also be getting drunk with friends outside or playing cards outside, which is understandable when you don't come back to play with your brother one night, but if this is always the case, the probability of someone outside is very high and needs to be noted.

The reason why I don't want to go home, the first is that I am too busy with work and can't spare time, and I often travel or work in other places and need to go on field investigations, research and so on. The second is that there are people in the family who he doesn't like to meet, usually his wife, because of excessive nagging, or two people have different worldviews, and the values can't come together, but they still have to live under the same roof. However, he couldn't make a decision to divorce, so he could only temporarily accommodate both parties.

Men not coming home are also one of the compromises made.

A: Either you don't feel warm at home, and you will be annoyed when you go home. Either there is something more attractive outside than at home and you don't want to go home.

Two aspects, first, there are annoying things at home, long-winded wives, annoying children, parents and the like.

Second, there are things that attract him outside, gentle women, brothers who play together.

A married man once told reporters: To understand Shenzhen men, you have to wander around in the night of Shenzhen; To get to know married men in Shenzhen, you have to hang out at night in Shenzhen.

At 9:30 p.m. on July 3, the reporter "accompanied" his friend Zhang Kunming (pseudonym) to Baden Street in Shenzhen, known as "Beijing Sanlitun", and walked into the True Color Bar. Not long after the bar was renovated, three-quarters of the tables in the entertainment bar in the lobby were full, and there was not much space in the bar.

When you reach the fourth floor, you immediately feel an atmosphere filled with alcohol and mysterious words. By half-past ten, there were more and more people in the bar. The reporter made a cursory observation and found that most of the men who came here were men, and the ratio of men to women was about 3 to 1.

Moreover, there are many men with good appearance and "suspected" white-collar and gold-collar workers, and a considerable proportion of them seem to have turned 30 last year.

This bar is a place known to all men in Shenzhen," Mr. Zhang said. Zhang Buji is a law enforcement officer in the town of Zhangbuji. He has known journalists for many years and is divorcing his wife.

Knowing the purpose of the reporter's interview here, he cooperated to express his views on this topic. "Shenzhen men are tired from going to work and tired when they go home.

Everyone knows that Japanese men have a very indulgent nightlife because of the pressure of work. Aren't all men in Shenzhen like this? The difference is that in a patriarchal society like Japan, the wife will obey, or at least accept her husband.

Home is a harbor. But in Shenzhen, let the wives understand your pressure and distress? What a dream!

She will definitely turn her home into a battlefield. "

In China, the nightlife of Shenzhen people is already famous. The reporter has been to many bars in Beijing. It should be said that the bar atmosphere in Shenzhen is not as good as in Beijing, but the scene of overcrowding is even worse.

I like Baden Street, I love Sea World, I love Casablanca on the revitalization road; There are also various KTVs, restaurants of various grades, which accommodate all kinds of people under the pretext of killing time and relaxation.

Recently, the reporter intends to interview some married men. More than 80 per cent of them said they could go home on time for up to two or three days a week. When they asked the topic of "why don't you like to go home", some said, "With so much pressure at work, going home after work won't suffocate me, right?"

Some say that if you don't want to quarrel with your wife, the best way is not to go home and fight for silver; Yes, men in Shenzhen are not stupid or boring, and if they don't go home, they must have their own hardships. Yes, there is no reason not to go home. The question is simple and complex.

There's no need to make excuses. The more you search, the more tired or searching, it is easy to be misunderstood by women.

Many times a person doesn't want to go home not because the family is unhappy, nor because of the so-called pressure, but after going home, it becomes an ornament, the other party opposes the things he likes, and he wants to do things quietly and has no environment, and over time the home has become a concept.

Generally speaking, there are several situations where a man does not come home after work:

First, a bad mood to relieve stressSome men may not want to go home for the time being when they are in a bad mood because of things and pressure at work, and they will go outside to find a buddy to drink some wine and have fun, chat, relieve their inner pressure, and release their bad state. But this situation is basically a late return situation, there will be no situation of not going home, he just doesn't want to bring his negative state home, and he won't be able to go home without going home.

Second, emotional discord and avoiding marriageSome men become more and more bored with their wives and become more and more dissatisfied with their families, so they will choose to avoid marriage and begin to be reluctant to go home. He will feel that home is no longer a harbor, but a trouble, a bondage and a shackle, a place of pain. And the emergence of this state is undoubtedly caused by the discord between husband and wife, the entanglement of two people in trivial matters of life, and the accumulation of contradictions.

Third, empathy, don't fall in love, and have an outside heartSome men suddenly don't want to go home, maybe it's true, as this lady suspects, that he has an outside heart and has a good person. Therefore, because I am obsessed with the outside, I begin to ignore the home. In this case, as a wife, if you are just arguing with him, you can only constantly provoke him, get his indifference, and even make him make extreme choices in an impulsive state.

Therefore, in marriage, if a man does not come home after work, he will present various states and should be treated differently. If your husband, because he is a social elite, has a successful career, is busy with work, needs to socialize, and often can't go home in time, then you should choose to be understanding and tolerant, and don't have too many doubts; If your husband, because he doesn't have so much sense of responsibility and responsibility at all, prefers to go out to find friends to eat and drink than to go home and do nothing, and face his wife's nagging and children's entanglement, then after avoiding his own problems, he should beat him in time to let him have a little overall concept and learn to take care of his family; If your husband starts to care about other women outside and ignores you because of emotional problems, then you must learn to repair the problems that have arisen in your marriage, and at the same time start to enrich and develop yourself, and prepare for all bad possibilities through your own strength.