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When parents oppose you and your lover, you must first understand your parents, there is no parent in the world who does not love their children, since parents oppose naturally have their reasons, at this time you need to calm down emotionally, don't give yourself too much baggage and unnecessary troubles for this thing, and don't blindly obey.
After calming down, first understand the reasons for your parents' opposition, and then think about it alone, the current living situation and state with your lover, as well as your lover's own temperament, character and behavioral habits, and imagine the future in all aspects, whether you should break up or not, you will have a decision when you break up, if you don't want to break up, please continue to look down.
Love or marriage in a relationship is a right that you have, and no one else can change it to deprive it, even if it is your own parents, and you have to go according to your own heart to break up or not to break up.
If your lover is a motivated person, although her current income is relatively low, or her appearance is average, as long as you have a heart that loves you, you are willing to work hard and bravely face life, and work hard for you and himself to make money to support the family, even if your parents oppose it, it is not recommended to choose to break up, if such a good man misses it, he really misses it.
For their love and lovers, they also need to work hard to struggle, which is not only to help themselves, but also to help their lovers.
If you love him and are willing to be with him, you should not hesitate to act, instead of being entangled at the moment, as long as you put your heart into one place, improve the happy life between each other, and prove to others with your own actions and hard work that happiness is earned by yourself, not in the hands of others or parents.
Blindly listening to other people's opinions, not having the ability to think and act independently, although it will not hurt you, but it will hurt your lover, blindly act according to the ideas of others, then you will lose the initiative in your own life, just like a marionette in the hands of others.
If it is a good man who is willing to be motivated, it is nothing to suffer a little bit of hardship, through his own efforts to strive for it, a happy life is only a matter of time, if a willing lover can seize the opportunity, a good life can be harvested in minutes, such a good man can not break up, if it is a rough temper type, then break up quickly, do not hesitate, happiness is not only a choice but also a bet, do not want to regret yourself to have your own independent choice and ideological cognition, Instead of parents objecting, they began to be sad and made themselves indecisive and difficult to choose.
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In a relationship, if your parents oppose each other, you should ask the reason for your parents' objections, and clearly tell the man whether the situation can be improved, and remember not to work against your parents, because their original intentions are for your own good.
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On the one hand, it is necessary to convince parents to agree with their choice and convince them that they have a good vision. On the other hand, let the other half behave well to gain parental consent.
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Women should calm down, consider the reasons for their parents' opposition, and think about whether this man is with herself, after all, parents are from the past, and they all hope that their children are good, and they will definitely not harm themselves.
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Take a hard look at the relationship. Parents are more experienced than young people, and when parents object, please take a hard look at the relationship and the person you insist on, and see if he has any shortcomings that you don't see, or if your parents have always been biased.
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Women must listen to their parents, because their parents are from the past and know what kind of man is suitable for a woman.
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Respect. When there is a difference of opinion, you must first respect, not only respect your parents, their opinions are for your own good, but the important thing is your own mind, you must know what kind of person you are suitable for and need, after you are sure, you need to respect your own ideas, so that you can grow into a truly independent person.
Communicate. The second is to communicate with parents, no matter what the outcome is to achieve, effective communication is always essential! Communication is crucial in how to convince parents to handle a good relationship.
Attention needs to be paid to the tone of communication, attitude and logic, and it is necessary to communicate rather than arguing. You can first ask them about the reasons for their objections, and then make targeted breakthroughs, combining theory and examples, and finally introduce your partner to your parents and achieve communication between them.
Balance. Finally, for parents to interfere in love, we must remember "harmony" and "balance", in the face of parents' intervention in their feelings to stay sober, do not be carried away by emotions, no matter whether the situation is difficult or not, it is very important to maintain the harmony of parents, themselves, and lovers, and it is also a long-term consideration.
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Be clear about the other person's excellence and how much you love.
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I think the opinion of the father and the mother has a certain influence on the relationship, but it is not the decisive factor. The opinion of parents is more of a reference, a kind of protection advice for yourself, it is always you who really chooses and makes the decision to carry Kai, because this is your life, you are responsible for your own actions, and you are also responsible for your own happiness. Of course, it would be better if you could get the blessing and support of your parents.
How to convince parents who are opposed to falling in love and give a few suggestions:
1. Understand the root cause of your parents' opposition, whether it is because the other party has concerns about her character, family, economy, education, work, etc., or because she is too young, too short in love, and unstable in her relationship.
2. From the perspective of parents, respect their opinions, but also insist on their own choices. Communicate with them with a rational and mature attitude, so that they can see that you have grown up and are able to make your own decisions.
3. Give parents and lovers more opportunities to get along with each other, so that they can understand and recognize each other. You can invite your lover to a family gathering, or take your lover to visit your parents to show each other's merits and sincerity.
4. If the parents put forward some reasonable demands or conditions, such as buying a house somewhere, having a certain amount of savings before getting married, etc., they can try to reach or compromise. If the conditions are too harsh or unattainable, you can consult them or seek help from other relatives and friends.
5Finally, if none of the above methods work, don't give up easily. As long as you and your lover truly love each other and are able to face difficulties and challenges together, it is possible to win the ultimate blessing and support of your parents.
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1. Parental opposition is justified.
In my opinion, if the parents of both parties do not agree to this marriage, I think there is no problem, and even in the future life, there will be all kinds of problems! For example, love with too much age gap can make married life difficult; Before getting married, the man's parents will also let the woman's parents do all kinds of ideological work; Both parents are still urging marriage, etc.
But if they don't stick to it, then it is natural that they will encounter all kinds of problems in their married life, which will hinder the development of the final relationship between the two people. If we are in a hurry to let the other party marry us now, we might as well think about it from another angle: if you like it, you like it, and if you don't like it, you don't like it!
For example, my parents do not agree to marry after being together; If two people have been in love for a long time, it takes time to get married; If two people have a conflict before they get married and break up; I want parents to know that it's normal for their children to have problems in their marriage! But if you are in a hurry to fall out with your parents and get married now, then this matter will definitely not end well!
2. Parental opposition does not mean that there is no love.
There are many people who will say: my love is not supported by my parents, but I have always persevered! This is because my parents' opposition does not mean that I have no love?
There is also a big difference between our love and our parents. Some parents think that love can be progressed and developed by two people, and some parents think that love can only start with parental consent; Some parents think that two people can't live together for the rest of their lives; There are also parents who are worried that their children will enter into marriage with other women after marriage. It's all disagreements and contradictions caused by their different thoughts!
However, no matter if their parents oppose their marriage, they will not get their understanding and support.
3. There are some things that need to be insisted on.
Since your parents are against it, you must be patient, communicate with them more, and don't rush to leave in the first place. But if two people are really not suitable, don't rush to let go, but should first think about what your thoughts and reasons are, and how to solve them if they are not suitable? Two people must have a good attitude when they get along together:
Communicate with parents on an equal footing. You must know that when there is a problem in a relationship, most of the time, it is because the other party is unwilling to accept you! So if you still want to live with him now, then you must stick to it!
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This is based on age, and if you are not a minor, then you should also have your own judgment. Personally, I think falling in love is a matter of two people, and at the same time it is a matter of three families, and it is normal if your parents or his parents are not happy with anyone. No one is perfect.
If it's something that you don't think is normal, then you should consider whether there's something wrong with her. But if it's some fault-finding opposition. Then I think you should learn to judge for yourself.
As an adult, you shouldn't let someone else dictate yourself. You are yourself, not someone else. If you don't believe in your vision or your hopes anymore.
So what's the point? But if it's a minor, then it should also be differentiated. If you are purely against puppy love, then you can think about it for yourself and follow the advice of your parents, because minors are not fully mentally mature.
Parents who have too little experience will not harm their children after all. At the same time, it is not good for minors to fall in love, although they are all at the age of the beginning of love, but it is always bad.
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I think you will be at a disadvantage, just because of the word "forbearance", you can't bear it too much, you will always be angry for a short time, so take the initiative to find him, this is not good, whose fault is the initiative to find, since he makes you angry, you just wait for him to come to you! In fact, the more you care about a person, the less he will care about you, and the more you take the initiative to contact him, the less he will take the initiative to contact you! Because of the two words "habit", she is used to you caring about him, he is used to being angry with you, and he is also used to you taking the initiative to find him ......I want to learn to let go a little, learn to give each other a little distance, learn to be patient, and he will care more about you! >>>More
It's up to you, you can do whatever you want.