How to turn passive into active in love, and how to turn passive into active in love?

It's very simple to change from active to passive in love, as long as you blindly pay and obey your words! But this is not advisable, and slowly when the other party feels that this is your obligation, you will be very humble, and then you will want to run away from the other party and not want to cherish it.

However, if you want to change from a passive state to an active state, it will take some time and a certain amount of skill, and you will have to endure a certain amount of pain in your heart.

Let's explain what this initiative means. Taking the initiative here does not mean taking the initiative to give to it. It's the direction of the relationship, which is the direction in which the relationship is going, which is dominated by the person who has the initiative, such as a short-term relationship or a long-term intimacy.

There are requirements to master the dominant position, you have to have a strong enough personality, have enough opinions, believe that you are in a passive position, these are not qualified, some people may have, but once you fall in love, you will be lost, you will lose yourself! We want to enjoy the joy that the process of falling in love brings us, but we must not indulge in it and lose ourselves, we must maintain a certain amount of calm.

So what you're learning now is to develop an independent personality (not to say that it alienates everyone), that is, not caring about other people's eyes (but considering other people's feelings), that is, being yourself without hurting other people.

The assertive thing is whether you will hesitate when you choose, and if there is, then change it.

When your two things are strong enough, the other party will not be able to control you, and can only obediently sing conquest for you!

Two days ago, I received a private message from a girl, saying that her boyfriend was excellent in all aspects, and she was the first to chase him, and she felt lucky to be with him, so everything went according to him. But her boyfriend is getting more and more aggressive with her, she feels very tired and doesn't want to go on like this, and she doesn't want to break up, so she asks if she can change this situation.

First of all, you can take the way you want to get away with it. Chase for a period of time first, and don't chase after he has a good impression of you, and then he will take the initiative to chase you.

I think we should try to understand each other as much as possible, and after knowing each other's temperament, we can turn passive into active.

I think you can give more in the relationship and make the other person addicted to you, so that you can take the initiative.

Introduction: Many people say that after the breakup, I send her messages every day, wait for her to get off work every day, admit my mistakes to her every day, and almost kneel down for her every day, isn't it enough for me to take the initiative to do this? Why won't she forgive me?

First of all, you have to understand that what we mean by initiative here does not mean taking the initiative to go to her after a breakup and ask her for forgiveness. Because this is just a behavioral initiative, it is not of much use to redeem. If you don't do it, it will cause her disgust and push her farther and farther.

The initiative here refers to the status of the two in love, and changing the passive to the active means that when recovering love, make yourself change from a passive position to an active position, fully grasp the initiative of love, and make it easier to redeem.

Why change from reactive to proactive?

Some people say that in the game of love, whoever loves more will lose. We all know that true love is not a game, and this sentence may not be true, but when it comes to saving love, it is extremely applicable, because the more you care, the less chance you have of winning. If in the process of redemption, you still show that you care more about the relationship than the other party, you will always be in a passive position, and then for a long time you go to her and beg her, but she still ignores you and will not take the initiative to find you.

In that case, it will be very difficult or even impossible for you to recover. Therefore, to redeem love, we must first change our status and change from passive to active.

So, what can be done to change from reactive to proactive?

First, reduce the sense of need. This is very important, because in the process of recovery, whoever has a weak sense of need will have the initiative, and you must ensure that your sense of need is weaker than that of the other party. If your sense of need is too high, you will keep doing things that the other person doesn't like, which will deepen the conflict between the two and make it more difficult to redeem it.

So, you have to reduce the sense of need, preferably no sense of need. Because when the sense of need is real, it can't be hidden'。Even just one look, the other party can feel that you are still thinking about her.

You can't fool her.

Second, don't reach out to her. After the two break up, you try to leave her as she wishes, and don't take the initiative to find her. Give her the affection and give yourself a vacation, you both need the time and space to revisit the relationship.

During this time, you should reflect on yourself, identify the problem, and then solve the problem. More importantly, you have to reform yourself, live seriously, and try to live a more fulfilling and happy life than when you were with her, and she will not be able to stand. Because she's going to mess around.

She's messed up, and the initiative is yours.

In the process of recovering love, it is very important to take the initiative, especially for men. Only when you have the initiative will you not be led by the other party, and you can guide the other party to increase their investment in you, and then improve the probability of recovery.

1. Divert attention.

Plan your own things, and force yourself to do a slip time, for example, when he is busy, you go to chase dramas, read books, at this time the point comes, some people can't help but look at the mobile phone whether he has replied, my suggestion is, during this time, pinch your own time and don't touch the WeChat dialog box, mute the phone, carefully devote yourself to your own world, and continue for a period of time.

2. Be confident and generous.

Confident people are always charming, and they will always be like the sun in people! Constantly improve yourself and make yourself more confident, so that you can show that even if you don't have you, there are better people than you, and you won't be overly sensitive if you are not afraid of loss.

3. Remember that the sense of security is always given to you by yourself, and you must have a blunt sensitivity.

When you give attention to yourself, gradually"Selfishness"Get up, you won't pay too much attention to others, and at the same time have a dull sensibility, at this time you are full of charm, and back to when he first met you, remember not to let others give you the sense of security you want, a sense of security can only be given to you by money, when you are rich, beautiful and generous, what are you afraid of.

4. Give yourself a half-hour cooling-off period before making a decision.

Because this kind of person is easy to be controlled by emotions, when they are emotionally on the head, they do some impulsive things, such as questioning each other and deliberately saying that they should break up, then after half an hour of calming down, reason will slowly return, and it is better to communicate and exchange again.

5. Don't treat love as the whole of life.

Have 1-2 things other than love that you can devote yourself to, such as your work, study plans, hobbies, circle of friends, etc., to balance the proportion of love in your life.

6. Learn to express your needs.

Don't be suspicious in everything, and don't let the other party guess the handWu Bi strongly recommends that everyone express their needs directly, and directly tell the other party what you want him to do and why he does it.

The active and passive of falling in love is not fixed, and the slippery book varies from person to person. Some people like to take the initiative to pursue and take the initiative, while some people prefer to be moved by the reeds and wait for the other party's invitation. This has to do with factors such as an individual's personality, experiences, and values.

In a relationship, active people are more confident, resolute and courageous, they dare to express their feelings and positions, and they are willing to put in the effort for their preferences and goals. Passive people are more cautious, reserved and reserved, they are more concerned about protecting their feelings and dignity, and they are not willing to easily reveal their true thoughts and feelings.

Of course, in the process of falling in love, there is no absolute right or wrong between active and passive, and God has allowed everyone to have their own choices and ways. The key is to find a way that works for you, stick to your beliefs and principles, and don't give up your true thoughts and feelings in order to cater to others.

It is recommended that you take the initiative to understand each other, try to put forward some ideas, and often take the initiative to chat with each other, so that you can grasp the initiative.

When this is the case, you must be decisive and proactive, you must be assertive not to be controlled by him all the time, you can do whatever you want, you can't be controlled by others, and you will of course become a passive person after a long time.

If you seem to be very passive in a relationship, if you want to take the initiative, you have to make yourself good enough to make yourself more confident and take the initiative.

First of all, we must make ourselves better, and we must also properly adhere to semi-sugarism, so that we can make ourselves more attractive and attractive, so that we can grasp the hearts of the other party and grasp the initiative.