Is there an obstacle in my concept of marriage, help me, thank you

Your worries are not unreasonable, but women are not all the same, the key is whether you have found a female friend who pays attention to character and is down-to-earth and hardworking, it is indeed not easy to find this kind of woman, because in addition to being honest with yourself, it is more important to have a correct view of love, and value her character rather than appearance, so that the probability will be greater. In addition, let me tell you a key point: when looking for a girlfriend, pay attention to understanding her family upbringing, especially her mother's personality, character, attitude towards life, and ability to run a house.

My boyfriend doesn't have the same conditions as you, so I'm not with him anymore.

It's still about fate.

Are you asking too much? Those with superior conditions must of course talk about material, just like men with superior conditions have high corners of their eyes.

When my husband and I were there, we hadn't bought a house yet, and money wasn't everything.

Love and marriage depend on the sincerity of both parties, if you only look at the material conditions to marry, this kind of marriage is not long-lasting. Don't think too much, fate can solve all incurable diseases.

Not every woman has the same requirements for material things, there are many people who want to find someone who trusts each other, cares about each other, and has a good character, and material things can be worked hard in the future. Your she hasn't appeared yet, as long as you have a kind heart and treat it sincerely. Yours she'll show up.

First of all, let me state that I am not an expert, but I have learned some basic psychological diagnostic skills.

1. After reading what you wrote, I conclude that you may be suffering from marital phobia.

Explanation of marital phobia) As the marriage date approaches, many prospective couples will have an inexplicable fear and even have the idea of running away. This symptom is actually a kind of avoidance psychology, which psychologists call "marriage phobia".

Before getting married, we will have anxiety, fear, restlessness, insomnia, etc., these are all symptoms of marriage phobia

Fear of marriage deprives you of your freedom.

I'm afraid to take on it, and I don't know if I can take on this responsibility.

Is she in front of me my love, can I really face him for the rest of my life? There is no confidence.

Just think about facing her, but also face her parents who cook unpalatable, how can I bear it? Bitterness and fear.

Poor psychological tolerance, poor self-care and self-regulation.

3. Handling methods.

1.Think about the one thing you've done so far, the one thing you've done the most courageously, the one thing you've taken the most responsibility, think about how you did it, and then apply that approach to other things. Then do one thing a day or a month that you want to do but don't dare to do.

Train your bravery and commitment.

2.It's okay to go to my mother-in-law's house more, contact more, and try desensitization.

3.Facing marriage correctly, marriage does not mean losing freedom, listen to more positive information about marriage, avoid negative information, or learn to accept it.

4.If your independence is poor, find a way to exercise your ability to be alone, make an agreement with your lover, and face it together.

Fourth, blessings. I wish you to get out of the sea of suffering as soon as possible and sail into the harbor of happiness, marriage needs to be managed, may your marriage develop results as soon as possible, and may you break through the knots and become a man who dares to take responsibility and has the courage to face it!