Why do I hurt people who care about me?

It's simple, because you haven't really cared about the people who care about you. White is not always the best, a lot of people think so, I guess you happen to be this kind of person.

If you are of the opposite sex, you must be afraid that your friends will fall in love with you.

What you want is:

A little more than friendship, a little less than love, neither annoying nor calling, neither hating him, but also not wanting to accept his love, the kind of relationship between you and him is only a little bit worse.

But can you handle it? Do the people around you understand?

The reason is simple, because the people who care about you, who are closest to you, are relatively more tolerant of you, so it is easy to become the object of your emotional venting and hurt them.

Sometimes, the care of friends can have the opposite effect at special moments, and will become your pressure or even an obstacle, which can easily make you "hairy". There is no need to blame yourself for this, humans are very strange animals. Sometimes, we have dozens of different feelings in an instant, and we are emotionally confused, and we lose everything, and the people around us who care about us become inexplicably victims.

For this kind of emotion, we must slowly learn to control it, and at a certain time we will be able to control it freely. For those who have no intention of being hurt by themselves and want to care about themselves, it is good to make up for it after the fact and give an explanation in a timely manner.

Calm down next time you do something.

Yes, there will inevitably be harm between people who are close to each other.

Because they like you shellfish.

Unintentional injuries can be forgiven, and the results obtained from each injury may not be much the same, once or twice can be forgiven, and it is difficult for anyone to accept it for a long time! Cherish the people in front of you!

The people you care about the most are put in your heart, and if they hurt you, it is equivalent to inserting a knife in your heart, even if there is no substantial harm, because you care, so you will be sad in your heart.

Because I care, I feel the hurt the most. In the face of a person who has nothing to do with him, no matter how ugly he says, he will not feel uncomfortable because of this.

Yes, because you care, the other party's damage to you will be doubled, so the easier it is to get hurt.

I think that's actually the case, because you care about them, so you care about their opinions, so the probability of their actions hurting you is still relatively high, and the people you don't care about won't hurt you.

Only the people you care about can hurt you, because it is you who care about and like the most, so you can go to your heart, you can love, and you can hurt yourself.

I think it's that those people you don't care about, you don't care what he says, and you don't particularly care about those who slander you, but for the people you care about, if the other party says that you are not good at all, you will feel very sad, so only the people you care about can really hurt you.

That's true, because the person you don't care about, no matter what you say or do, you won't hear the heart, only the words and actions of the people you care about can really hurt you.

Because we know that people who really care about us don't leave, just like our parents, who have been working for us all their lives since we were born, and are constantly running for our lives. From the time we were not born, our parents began to take care of us, in order to let us grow up healthy, they took folic acid, took supplements, and although those were difficult to eat, they ate them for our happiness. They took care of us when we were born, they had to take care of us while we were in school, and even if we were rebellious and ran away from home, their hearts never left us, until we got married and had children, and they still did.

And we, when we were young, we didn't say anything if we didn't listen, and we were still young at that time. When we grow up, we start to rebel, we don't listen to our parents, we talk back to our parents, we quarrel, we throw things, we run away from home, ......Have you ever thought about what we did when we ran away from home, and we still took our parents' money and went outside. But we also feel very natural and at ease.

We feel that our parents are nagging, and we think that they are too unreasonable to understand your inner thoughts, but what will the people who can really understand you do for you, and what kind of mentality do you use to talk to your parents about problems, is it impatient!

When we are older, we have our own careers, we left our parents' side, you are sometimes busy for a long time without giving your parents a big **, and said that they don't know that they are busy and hit ** affect themselves, although I have not graduated now, but I think I am sometimes very excessive, I don't understand why parents want to have an extra child, whenever they tell me how tired they are, how stressed they are, I will say without the slightest distress on the side, Whoever told you to have to have one more child, it's too late to regret it. And I don't take the initiative to say that I miss my parents, and I generally don't say that I hung up for too long. I also had a bad attitude towards my parents, and I threw my temper at them directly, without thinking about my parents' inner thoughts.

Because you are loved, so you feel that even if we feel like to them, they will not be angry, they will not leave us, they will not ignore us, but it is different when you fall in love, you will really be like this when you are in love, you will not, because you don't dare, if you are like this, a few people can stand the test, and a few people will really be able to tolerate you, but I am afraid that there are few people.

Because you can't hurt people who don't care about themselves. We are able to hurt others because they care about us. How do you relate to a person who doesn't care about you? So I think I won't be hurt by you.

In real life, we may be polite and patient to people we have only met once. But they are full of impatience with those who truly love us and care about us. Because people have such a mentality.

That is, the one who cares about us will not leave even if he is hurt. And if I have a bad attitude towards him when I first met, he will ignore me. It's a very selfish mentality.

Because everyone has a limit to what they care about you, when your damage reaches a certain level, no matter how much people love you, they will go.

But when we find that those who used to care about us don't care anymore. Instead, you go back and complain. Why don't you care so much about me.

But I don't know why I care about you. Is it because of your indifference to me, or because of your hurt again and again?

Maybe we have the same attitude towards everyone, but the person who really cares about us will feel hurt a little more. Because he has given so much. And because of the amount of giving, people's habitual thinking is that they can get more.

If you give everyone the same amount, the person who gives more will definitely be indignant and feel hurt. Will feel like I'm giving you so much. He gives you so little.

So maybe we feel like we're hurting someone who really cares about us. We did hurt too. So in the rest of our lives, let's care more about those who really care about us.

Because only people who really care about us will put up with our ignorance of humanity and losing our temper. I know that. In the past, when I was wronged outside, I went home to vent with my mother, no matter what my mother did, it was wrong, and then my mother saw that I was unreasonable and didn't care about me, and I would go to coax my mother when I was angry.

It doesn't matter how much my mother has done for me, as long as my temper comes, she will get angry.

In fact, it's a pity that I realized that it was not easy for my mother, because I fell in love with someone, and then this person always lost his temper with me, but he had a good attitude towards others. Obviously, when someone else does the same thing, she will patiently explain and help to complete it together, but when it comes, I will lose my temper and say no matter how ugly it is. At that time, I felt that my mother had been tolerating me, and it was not easy.

Then I feel even more sorry for my mother for so many years, and when I go home, I will know that I have less disputes with my mother, even if my mother is not right, I try not to refute it, and growing up is in an instant, when one day I am good to a person, but that person is not very appreciative, I promise that I will definitely grow up quickly, even faster than the growth obtained in the past ten years and twenty years.

We always leave the worst temper to the people who care about us the most, it's not an exception, it's a problem that everyone has, I just think that if I lose my temper with outsiders, people will think that I am not an empathetic person, but when I lose my temper with my mother, my mother will still want to love me as before. It's really favored and fearless, and I hope everyone can be aware of their own problems.

Because in our subconscious, we think that the people who care about us will never leave us, so we will always show our teeth and claws in front of them unscrupulously.

You can never hurt people who don't care about you, and the people who can be hurt by you are the people who care about you the most. People are so cheap sometimes! No way!

We always think that it doesn't matter how much we talk to the people who care about us, so we develop a habit.

In love, the person who loves will always lower himself to the dust and willingly do anything for the other party, while the person who is loved will take these things for granted for a long time, and will not even cherish them. Love is a matter of two people, and only one party is destined to go far alone, because no matter how much love is ignored by the other party, it will be worn out little by little, and the heart will become a little colder. Being heartbroken by the person you like shows that he doesn't cherish your good, can't see your contribution, shows that he is not that beloved, you don't need to reply anything, you lower yourself to the dust in order to get his love, but without love, why do you keep lowering yourself, if you want to get the love of others, you must first love yourself.

Be strong and let go, not all encounters can last long, some are just to teach you to grow, mutual love is happy, one day you will meet.

Because you care, you have emotional investment in him, your heart is inclined, you give 80% of your care and love to the person you care about, and on the other hand, once you hurt you, it is indeed very painful, but if you care about you, then the harm is much less, and there are not too many accidents.

Someone who knows him has feelings for him.

What you don't know is compassion.

Or maybe it's been taught since childhood. Be caring for others.

Because others need to care.