Who have I hurt and how have I hurt the person who hurt me?

What is love? The meaning of love is very broad and can be friendship, family affection, love, ......Perhaps the most interesting thing for people is love, right? Then I might as well talk about love.

Love is the most beautiful word, how many people are struggling to pursue it, sometimes people regard love as more important than life. But what is love? How many people truly have eternal love?

How many people have been searching for it all their lives? Love may be the feeling of love at first sight, love may be the feeling when you make a promise, and love may be the ......feeling of life and deathLove is a topic that can't be talked about endlessly. When you fall in love with someone, your heart is panicked and uneasy, you don't know how the other person feels, and you have to hide your feelings because you are a reserved person.

Maybe the root of your love is a shadow in your heart, you put on a dream clothes for him, you are intoxicated in the illusion of the dream and do not want to wake up, wandering and tossing for a long time, when you know the other party's feelings, everything has been light, because you have stepped out of his shadow, his coat is no longer gorgeous, the love you hold has lost its luster, and your life has been injected with gray since then. When I don't have the experience of loving others, I think, "It's a pleasure to love others."

When I was loved, I thought, "What a blessing to be loved!" But whether it is to love or be loved, it is so sad, because people's hearts are always so unpredictable, and desires are always so things, for her, they can only pass by.

Nothing can penetrate deep into her heart. Like a decadent and gloomy flower, with a gesture of despair but looking up at an innocent face, smiling at all cruelty and humiliation. The deep dark green color is without tears.

Such a flower that blooms forever in the dark does not believe in tears, and is destined to be lonely for a lifetime. Often, in a crowded crowd, I feel the extension, sound, smell of many strangers, chaotic and noisy. And when you are quiet and then look and listen, you can feel incombinable, with love and being loved, there will be a struggle in the whirlpool of feelings, and with love and being loved, there will be more entanglements in the emotional world.

The wrong car of loving and being loved, the incomprehension of loving and being loved, the restriction of loving and being loved, the helpless ...... of loving and being lovedIn the vast land, for a person who is disappointed in the world and has no love in his heart, isn't it the same to **? Forever walking on the road, all love, all of a sudden, you will find that there is nothing here. Empty and silent.

There are many people who have no soul. I live a mediocre life, I have no purpose, I don't know why I want to live, and I never think about what I live for. this world.

If it hurts, it hurts. It's just a mistake made by youth.

Now that I know that I hurt her, I can't hurt her.

Will you forgive those who have hurt you?

In the movie "Dear", Huang Bo, who lost his child, said: "At most, I don't hate you, and this is the end." ”

Ma Dong said: "With the passage of time, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us." ”

And Cai Kangyong said: "That's not forgiveness, but forget it." ”

There is such a sentence in "Lu Xun's Proverbs":

Let them resent it, and I will not forgive any of them. ”

A person who has learned five cars and is said to be ignorant, he will not be sad;

A man full of courage, who is said to be cowardly and cowardly, will not be sad;

A generous person, others say that he is stingy, and he will not be sad.

He may be angry or dismissive, but it won't make any waves in his heart. We are sad because we subconsciously agree with what others say, and we may have really thought we were ignorant, cowardly, and petty at one time.

If others can hurt us, we must have hurt ourselves. The negative criticism of others awakens our criticism of our own imperfections, and then the self-protection mechanism will allow us to fight back. Because people like to be appreciated and praised, and no one likes to be criticized.

People with low self-esteem are not easy to be happy, they are sensitive and fragile inside, and the casual words or actions of others can make them seriously ill in their hearts.

I'm also an introvert myself, and I've found that when other people's opinions hurt me, I hurt myself too. For example, when others say that I am introverted, have low self-esteem, and can't speak, I will feel very hurt, but in fact, these points are also the points that I once hated for my existence.

Any kind of personality has strengths and weaknesses. Although introverts are sensitive and not good at expression, they are more able to understand the mood of others, are more likely to understand others with thoughts, and are also better at analyzing, summarizing, and grasping things as a whole.

Psychology tells us to accept ourselves, to accept our strengths, but also to face our shortcomings calmly. I accept everything I have and then improve and improve myself towards a better version of myself.

When we can let go of our attacks on ourselves, others will not be able to hurt us, and we can become free. Hopefully, one day, when others deny us again, we will laugh it off, because although we have weaknesses, we also have thick armor.

In order to get their own interests, many people will take other people's income as their own, such as using stratagems to secretly display warehouses, deliberately reducing prices to attract customers, stealing other people's trade secrets for their own use, misappropriating ** to change the training book, and even public property for private use, etc., and so on.

However, does hurting the interests of others really bring benefits to oneself? It's just a cover-up.

People and all things are connected, harming the material interests of others, but putting their own blessings into it; Huigen, who hurt others, put his own wisdom life into it.

Yin and yang are reconciled, one is eliminated and the other is transformed, and the two are always balanced, and no one can stop the laws of the universe. On the surface, it seems to be obtained, but it damages yin virtue; Although he lost something temporarily, he secretly accumulated resources.

When you give to the other person, you actually benefit yourself; When you hurt others, you are hurting yourself. Everything in the universe is one, and when you hurt mountains, rivers, and all living beings, you are actually harming yourself.

There are people who quarrel in the morning and are always resentful of the fate of their own servants, but they do not judge whether their actions are hurting others. Those who secretly reap benefits for themselves unconsciously form deep karma, and if you want to have good luck, isn't it a fate to seek fish?

Mortals do not understand cause and effect, and only make a fuss on the surface. No matter how good a person pretends to be in words and deeds, once his mind deviates from the direction, he will not escape the consequences of fate after all.

The historical "Yu Jingyi Gongyu Stove God Record" is a very typical example. Yu Jingyi acted as a good person on the surface in the first half of his life, but his heart was full of malice, and as a result, his life was poor and unsustainable. Fortunately, I met the guidance of the god of the stove, and I realized that I woke up, and from then on, I vowed to change my life, remove all the stains on my soul, and only reverse my fate in the second half of my life.

If this is regarded as a mythological story, then Yuan Lifan of the Ming Dynasty is a real figure in history. He completely rewrote his life by doing good deeds and accumulating virtues, and the "Four Disciplines of Lifan" written by him is still a well-known article.

The universe is just, and everyone has the opportunity to become the darling of fate. When I am tired and blocked, I look back, examine my thoughts, and believe that continuous reflection will definitely allow me to find the answer behind it.

If someone who has hurt you comes forward, tell yourself that this is to cross yourself. You must not lose your temper, you must not get entangled in it, you must endure, you can endure the blessings and blessings, and you can endure the karma for yourself! Forbearance can save oneself from the suffering of the six realms of reincarnation.

First of all, we must know that all laws are born by cause, they are born and destroyed, and they are empty! The thing that hurts you is also something that has no self-nature, and the body is empty. Your true nature will not increase or decrease in the slightest.

Yes, yes, yes! So there is no need to meet him in general. If you can't bear it, you're being turned around, you're forming a bad karma, he's creating karma, you're also creating karma, and bad karma will hinder the cultivator's true nature.

To prevent the true nature from appearing is unenlightenment! Our true nature is a vacuum! But a vacuum can give rise to illusions, and this illusion is the law of karma!

If you can't bear it, you're getting married, and you'll create karma. Therefore, you have to see the harm that others have done to you as if they are here to save you, and they are consuming their Dharma wealth. You don't want to be like him, you have to endure it.

Every sentient being is born of karma. It's all because of the past karma that I have the current self! That's what it is!

If you have to cultivate lifeless forbearance, you won't have to endure so hard! Our true nature is inherently unborn, inherently unborn, imperishable, impure, unincreased and undiminished! In other words, there is only a vacuum! I won't endure so hard! There is nothing in the first place, how can we endure and endure!

Morality and Cause and Effect.

Do a good deed, and be calm in your heart; Doing a bad thing, the shadow is ashamed.

Ming Shen Hanguang.

The law of cause and effect revealed by the Buddha tells us that what we want to get, we have to give.

Be kind, generous, honest, and friendly to others, and you will get good results.

On the contrary, if you hurt others, you will eventually hurt yourself.

These are all encompassing the general.

What is advocated by social morality.

The principle of cause and effect can make people.

It is more conscious and self-disciplined to abide by ethics, and it provides many ways to practice.

Law is externally binding, morality is internally binding, and sometimes the standards of the two are not necessarily the same.

But we don't restrain our troubles and negative karma to escape.

legal punishment or moral condemnation, but responsibility for one's own bitterness.

Ethical standards may follow.

Eras, regions, and cultures change depending on the era, region, and culture, but the law of karma remains the same, and the connotation of the Dharma remains the same.

Many people are willing to be kind and respect morality, but they don't understand cause and effect, and they can't believe in cause and effect, so they feel wronged

Confused, confused, powerless.

So what we really need to do is not to doubt cause and effect, but to understand, learn, and believe in cause and effect.

Let yourself do good more and more powerfully, more and more happily, and more and more determined.