Rural customs, funerals must be broken clay pots. If there is no son, should this clay pot be a neph

Nephew, because I think my nephew must be a little kinder.

Answer: One is that you can choose according to the distance of relatives, and the other is voluntary, if the daughter voluntarily wants to break the pot, the daughter comes. In fact, in the final analysis, it is to solve the problem of pension for the elderly, and whoever falls the pot will be responsible.

Each place has its own customs. Like the average village, they will let their brothers fall, and rarely look for sons-in-law and nephews.

In my house, I died, my nephew and nephew stood aside, only the child I gave birth to, and the others were outsiders, even my daughter was my descendant, and my blood was also flowing!

The ritual of breaking a pot does not exist in all rural areas in China, and the description of it is also different. My hometown is in Henan, and in our rural funerals, there is a ritual of breaking pots, which represents "peace in the years".

Since ancient times in our country, the form of "striking the rope" has appeared in funerals. The meaning of striking is "striking cylinder", and "缶" is a kind of tile musical instrument in ancient times. Because there were many poor people in ancient times, many people did not have the financial ability to hire a musical instrument group for their deceased relatives to see him off, so they adopted the form of beating ropes to send their relatives into the ground.

North of the Yangtze River in China, it is a relatively common custom to throw pots. When someone in the family dies, a clay pot is placed in front of the coffin to burn paper. When the coffin is buried in the ground, the eldest son will break the pot on the way.

And the louder the better, and the more broken the better. The purpose of throwing the pot is also to remind the deceased that it is time to go on the road, hoping that the deceased can walk smoothly on the way to the underworld.

The pot must be done by the eldest son and grandson of the deceased. After the death of the elderly, it is usually the eldest son and grandson of the old man who come to break the pot. If the old man does not have a son, he will be replaced by a nephew who is closely related by blood.

Of course, it is also of extraordinary significance to let the nephew fall into the basin, and it means that he has become the filial son of the deceased. Therefore, all or most of the deceased's property should be inherited by the nephews and nephews of the deceased. If the family has no offspring, then there will be no one to break the pot for the deceased, and then the deceased cannot walk with peace of mind, which was taboo in ancient times.

Therefore, the ancients were so patriarchal and attached importance to the continuation of incense.

The pot must be broken once. In my hometown in Henan, after the death of a loved one, I usually park it at home for three or five days before being buried. On the day of the burial, the son of the deceased will break the pot at the intersection on the way to the burial.

Moreover, it must be broken once, and the more broken the better, so that it represents "peace for the years" and has a strong symbolic meaning.

After breaking the pot, the official funeral begins, and the person who can do this work must also be a close relative. Therefore, whoever can fall this is the heir of the deceased, and in ancient times, when there was no legal management, it was by this inheritance of the family property.

The person who threw the pot is the heir of the deceased's property, and if the pot is broken, it means that the person has established a property inheritance relationship with the deceased. At the same time, it is also a custom in the countryside.

In ancient times, the common people could not afford to buy bells and drums for funerals, nor could they afford to hire bands. In order to conform to the liturgy of bells and drums, they used to break pots instead of bells and drums.

After the death of a family member, dropping the basin is actually a form of expressing grief and indignation. At the same time, it also means that the deceased will completely disconnect with these people who are alive in this world, and those who are still alive will start a new life.

There is a custom in some rural areas that the clay pot must be broken at the funeral, so if there is no son, should the nephew or son-in-law fall the clay pot?

The person who goes up or down the tile pot must have the function of inheritance to the deceased, not only to raise and bury the deceased, but also to be responsible for the daily sacrifice of the deceased, and inherit the deceased's inheritance and family rights. From this basic point of view, the roof tile pot or bricklayer must be the eldest son and grandson of the family. Unless there is none, it is not thrown by the nephew.

1. PeopleThey will drop the clay pot before the funeral, the main purpose is to throw out the bad things in the house, and it is also so that everyone can touch the ground before burning it to the deceasedSent to the underworld, so that the deceased can also have money to spend there, and it is also to show that the deceased will be able to reincarnate smoothly when they come again.

IIThere is a legend in the custom of crockpots. It is said that Fan Yi, the ancestor of the pottery industry, wanted to choose an heir before his death. He invited a little apprentice to discuss.

EveryoneIt's talking, and there's a lot of discussion. At this time, one of the disciples said, "When a man is in a pot, he goes to the pot, and when your old man dies, your bowl is taken to the underworld." Fan Yi agreed, and handed over the craft and inheritance to the apprentice.

IIIIn this way, a rule came into being after Fan Li, who fell the tile pot for the deceased, who has the right to inherit the deceased's property, after the tile pot was broken, the filial sons and grandsons would kneel on the ground and cry bitterlyThen the women went home, and all the men continued to run to the cemetery to be buried. This is actually a traditional custom and cognition. If it is not broken, it is harmful to future generations.

FourthIf you don't break it when you break it, it will affect your family's body and career, so you won't fall it a second time when you don't break it, but other people directly use their feet to crush the pot, if it is said that the ground is broken, it means that the future life will be better and better.

Therefore, people nowadays will let their eldest son and grandson drop this clay pot before the funeral, mainly because of the nostalgia for the deceased.

Our country is a traditional country, folk customs have been passed down for many years, the family does white things, people in the past have to drop the tile pot before the funeral, and the more the tile pot is broken, the better, the louder the better. This is because there is a folk saying that the more the clay pot is broken, the faster the deceased will go, and you can go to the underworld to report as soon as possible, carry your own clay pot with you, ingots and incense will not break, and the property left to future generations will be more and more, bless the family from generation to generation.

1. The more the clay pot is broken, the more smoothly the deceased can cross the bridge

The custom of throwing clay pots originated from the folk, and the family members were usually asked to break the clay pots for the deceased before the funeral. Some people say that the more the clay pot is broken, the louder the sound becomes, and it is to guide the deceased. led the deceased person to cross the Nai He Bridge smoothly, did not let him drink Meng Po soup, forgot all the grievances in his previous life, broke off his relationship, looked forward to taking care of his life as soon as possible, and waited for the next reincarnation.

2. The clay pot is broken more and more loudly, which means that the ingots of the dead people are continuous, and the incense is continuous

Nowadays, many young people don't understand this folk custom, and the customs and habits of the past say that the clay pot is broken more and more loudly, which means that the dead people are constantly in the underworld, and the incense is continuous. Relatives left us, since then Yin and Yang separated, he is a lonely person there, this clay pot represents the pot for eating, take the clay pot on the road to the underworld will not starve, the incense is good. In fact, this is a kind of longing and sustenance of the living for the dead, hoping that they can live a good life in the underworld.

3. The more the clay pot is broken, it represents the wealth of the descendants of the family

Only the eldest son and eldest grandson are qualified to come to the clay pot, so they must be the ones who will hold the financial power of the family in the future. The more the clay pot is broken, the louder the sound, which means that the fortune of the descendants of the family is rolling in. The fine traditions of the deceased, the virtues of thrift, will be passed on to the head of the family along with the property.

Therefore, the person who throws the clay pot will definitely work hard to break the clay pot and make a sound, so that the family's fortune will roll in.

The beautiful meaning also represents a kind of longing for the deceased. The fact that the white affairs in the countryside are very solemn shows that the rural people are still following some old folk customs. I believe that these folk customs are about to fade out of our sight, because it is imperative to change customs, advocate civilized sacrifices, and oppose extravagance and waste.

People eat, drink and have fun in this life, but in the end they have to obey the principles of heaven, and they can't escape birth, old age, sickness and death. SoIn the countryside, when the funeral is held, the clay pot will be dropped before the funeral, which makes many people puzzled, in fact, the reason is very simple, which also contains people's good wishes.

In people's traditional thinking, falling anything is equivalent to "shattering peace."Mainly because of the homonym, and it also represents good wishes, then this idea is also the primary reason at the time of the funeral. After all, people are willing to believe that there will be a soul in this world after death, leaving a trace of thought for the living family or friends, and when the basin is dropped, the eldest son or eldest daughter of the family must be allowed to fall, so that people can walk at ease.

And when you drop the clay pot, you must fall hard, if it is not broken enough, it will appear disrespectful to the deceased, and some families will pay attention to it and do some things like gods before the funeral, which can make people walk more peacefully. In some places, the clay pot is dropped on the hearse, and in some places, the clay pot is dropped after cremation, so the difference in individual places is still relatively largeBut there is another theory besides this statement, which is that people don't want the deceased to forget themselves.

Since ancient times, people have believed that people should drink Meng Po soup after death, so that the deceased will forget everything in the world after drinking it, and then go to reincarnation. The deceased's tool for drinking Meng Po soup is this clay pot, so in some areas, people buy a small hole under the clay pot, so that the deceased will not drink Meng Po soup when he drinks, and thus will not forget the things of the worldAgain, this is why the clay pot should be broken.

People often say that "birth, old age, sickness and death, life events", death as a major event, the world attaches more importance to it. There are many more elaborate customs in rural funerals, and many young people may be full of doubts about this. For example, why do you have to break the clay pot before the funeral in the countryside, and why do you have to break the clay pot?

In fact, throwing a clay pot before a funeral is a traditional custom of rural funerals. Breaking the clay pot is the last ritual of the deceased at home before the spirit of the deceased is buried in the earth. On the one hand, the purpose of breaking the clay pot is to express people's grief and remembrance of the death of their loved ones, and on the other hand, the clay pot is broken to facilitate the deceased relatives to bring the pots and bowls to the underworld, and there can be food in the underworld, which is the expression of filial piety for the deceased relatives by the living people.

In addition, in the past, it was also a way to inherit the inheritance, because according to the old calendar, most of the inheritance of the deceased person would be inherited by the person who broke the pot.

So why did the pot have to be broken? The more the clay pot is broken, the better, because the broken one means that the years are safe, and it is said that the deceased relatives are blessings to the younger generations; It is also said that the loved one stayed at home for three days after his death and was unwilling to leave. The clay pot is shattered and smashed so loudly that only the deceased can hear it, reminding relatives that it is time to go on the road.

Breaking the tile basin is also called throwing the old basin, throwing the brazier, throwing the yin and yang basin, throwing the auspicious basin, etc., which is a funeral custom that has been passed down in our country for thousands of years.

Not anyone can fall on a clay pot, and it is also very particular about falling a clay pot.

If there is no eldest son or the eldest son is not there, then the eldest son and eldest grandson will be arranged to fall, if there is no eldest son and eldest grandson, then the second son will come, if there is no more, and so on, it must be operated in the order of the eldest and youngest.

There is also a saying that the more the clay pot breaks, the more the deceased's relatives will live safely and smoothly in the yang world, and the deceased will also be very smooth in the underworld. At the same time, the clay pot is required to be broken at once.

If you don't break the first time, you can't fall the second time. If it is not broken the second time, the coffin bearer walks over and crushes it. In another case, if the pot is not broken, the eldest son's family will treasure it.

It is believed that this is a blessing for the deceased to leave to future generations, which can bless future generations with prosperity.

Regarding whether some traditional funeral rites should be retained or eliminated altogether, people also have different opinions, and there is no consensus.

In fact, I think that we should take the essence of some customs and etiquette in the past and carry them forward. Because this is a cultural wealth passed down from generation to generation, it is extremely precious, once lost it will be difficult to regain it, these etiquette culture allows us to have roots and has a very important significance for us. For example, the clay pot, which is a manifestation of filial piety in the entire funeral ceremony, should not be diluted, let alone forgotten.

But we should also decisively eliminate the dross, such as the excessive extravagance and waste in the funeral ceremony. Society is constantly developing, and if it is not good, we should abandon it.

In the countryside when we were children, after the death of the elderly, they would park at home for three daysA clay basin will be placed directly in front of their remains; When the younger generations keep filial piety, they will continue to burn paper in the clay pot, and whenever someone comes to pay their filial piety, they will also burn paper in the clay pot, which represents the paper money, and will go to another world with the old manTherefore, the more paper burned in the clay pot means that the more money is taken away from the elderly, and in another world, the richer life will be.

Generally, paper money should be burned in the basin before falling into the basinIt is the eldest son of the deceased who comes to break the pot, and when the eldest son is absent, the eldest son and the eldest grandson take their place; If the eldest son has no one, it will be the turn of the second son, and so on. If the deceased has no children or grandchildren, the closest son or nephew of the same surname will do the work for him. To put it bluntly, the person who broke the pot belongs to the "heir", and can inherit most of the deceased's family property as a rule.

As for those who have no children and nephews, they cannot fall into the basin when they die, and they are among those who cannot die well. The same cannot be said about this point today, because many families are only daughters, and they can't help but fall into the pot, so the daughter will break the pot.

The more broken the pot is, the better, indicating that "the broken (year) is safe", and it is also said that the more the pot is broken, the easier it is for the deceased to take it away. On the day of the funeral, I only heard the sound of "dang chang", the tile basin fell to the ground, the coffin was raised, and the mourning and joy were low for a while, and the cry was loud, the funeral officially began. Now in the city, the body of the deceased is thrown after the hearse, and in the countryside, it is broken on the day of cremation.

On the day of the funeral, the coffin was parked in the middle of the road, and the eldest son knelt in front of the coffinHolding the pot high above the top with both hands, and smashing the pot with all his might, it means that the old man who has left home will take the money away and go to another world to live a prosperous life；After the pot fell, the barman carried the coffin to the cemetery. Of course, there is another situationIf the pot is not broken, the eldest son's family will treasure it, because it is the old man who has left the blessing to his children and grandchildren. It will bless future generations with prosperity.