What is it like to want and not get it?

The years go by, and there is no trace. The meaning of life lies in beauty. And life, health, sincerity, integrity, and conscience are priceless treasures that are indispensable on the way to a happy and beautiful life.

It's also what you want the most and can't buy. The years are quiet, we should embrace life with a normal heart, cherish what we have, be indifferent to fame and fortune, treat people sincerely, be honest in things, do not seek luxury, learn to choose, know how to give up, and keep the soul in a limited time. With an upward and beautiful heart, the journey is in the journey of life.

When I was a child, my family was poor, and I couldn't afford many toys, such as remote-controlled cars, remote-controlled airplanes, and robots, so at that time, I was always longing and fantasizing that I would grow up early, become an adult, work hard to make money, and buy my favorite toys to my heart's content. But when I got rich after working, I had already lost the mood to buy toys and never bought toys for myself again. If you buy, maybe you will only buy it in the future for your own bear children to play, suddenly very feeling, the environment of growth is different, the mood is different, what you especially want at the moment, just try to pursue it, don't delusionally satisfy yourself in the future, the mood is completely different at that time.

In addition, also remind yourself that if you raise a child in the future, try to satisfy his whimsical ideas.

At a very young age, all I crave at this time is to eat. I remember when I was very young, I especially liked to eat Golden Monkey's crispy noodles, big bubble gum, and white rabbit toffee, but my parents didn't give me pocket money, so I never ate them. So at this stage, snacks became the thing I wanted the most.

Bigger. I went to elementary school. I have pocket money and can buy these snacks that I want.

At this time, I wanted a remote-controlled car and a remote-controlled airplane. My pocket money can support me to buy those snacks, but I can't afford these toys. And my biggest hobby is no longer eating.

I wanted to play with these things that I thought were cool at the time.

What I want most is to live my youth again, but unfortunately "the yellow crane is gone, and the white clouds are empty for thousands of years". There are many misses, many regrets, and many regrets in life, and a person cannot extricate himself from self-pity because he has wasted his youth, let alone continue to be drunk and dream of death, and regard himself as a living dead. Cherish the rest of the time, try your best to work hard, and live every day.

In this way, there will be no regrets when you leave, and it is enough. In the world of all living beings, struggles, struggles, failures, successes, and people's lives pass like this.

I've always felt that a certain mentality when I was a child was very strange, and it probably lasted until I was a teenager, that is, as a child, every time an adult agreed to go out to play, the happiest and happiest state was the period between the time the adult agreed to go out and the time before I went out. Then I fantasize about all the fun things that can happen when I go out and play, and I feel extremely happy. But no matter what you play later, you don't have the time to prepare before you go out.

This made me suspect for a moment that happiness is imaginary.

When I was young, I didn't have money, and I was jealous of those who were born with it, and then I worked hard to get it, and I found that I spent so much effort for those things that others were born with and didn't cherish, and that kind of loss is not clear.

Each of us is born with edges and corners, but life has worn away the edges and corners of most people, and only a few people are lucky to retain their original appearance. In fact, there is no special experience, because we are changing step by step, and it may be difficult to accept it for a while, but we finally bow our heads to life.

There used to be times when Top Gun was in the clouds, and I think everyone was worried about whether to go to Tsinghua University or Peking University when they were young. At that time, I was really entangled, and I was full of confidence in myself.

Later, from the time I was in school, I had excellent grades in elementary school, and I had to work hard in junior high school to barely squeeze into the top student industry, and by the time I was in high school, I fell completely.

At first, I was confused and unwilling, but ah, it was just high school. However, the state is full of top students from all secondary schools. The scary thing is not that people are smarter than you, but that they are smart and work hard, so you can't do anything.

So slowly, I accepted this radical reality.

I took a second exam, and I watched many of my high school classmates enter the 985 and 211 schools because others are better than me. I spent 4 years in college uneventfully, which was completely different from what I imagined, but the reality is like this. After graduating, I was busy looking for a job, and my classmates from those colleges and universities, those who were in graduate school, and those who were admitted to graduate school.

There are also those who are looking for jobs, have happy careers and happy families.

There are always fewer outstanding people in this world than ordinary people, and after watching too many movies in the hero series, you will understand that you are just an ordinary passerby. It's a pity, it's sad. But having a family that loves you, having close friends, and having a stable job is actually a good ordinary life.

Is this your delusion, you think you really want it and not because of curiosity? Actually, yes. How many things in your life do you not get from?

Because the more you don't know, the more your curiosity increases, and the more you want to see what is going on. But to get a glimpse of it, you have to get it first, you just want to get it, it's not because he's really good, you don't know if he's good or not, do you? This is caused by curiosity.

You think you really want it because you think he's good! That's just your delusion. Let's start with a brief psychological aspect:

Freud believed that there are three levels of human psychology. The id, the ego, the superego. The self:

It's primitive desire. For example: hungry desire to eat, sexual needs, curiosity, etc.

Ego: The ability to choose methods because of intelligence. For example:

I'm hungry and want to eat, and I'm telling you what you can do, to steal something to eat? Go talk to your mom? Or go to a friend for a treat, etc.

Superego: is the highest level, the one that governs the way you will adopt in the end and which can conform to your conscience. Simply put, morality.

It's impossible to grab it and eat it. Curiosity is a primitive human desire, and there is no doubt that babies are born with curiosity and will explore the world around them. In the first place, I became interested in something that I had not been exposed to because of curiosity.

I think that if you have not been exposed to something before, you can rule out that you are interested in it because you need it. Who would be in desperate need of a ballpoint pen he's never used before? As mentioned earlier, the more curiosity (id) wants to get a glimpse of what is going on, the more you have to get this thing (self).

In addition to how you actually get it, the superego will help you rationalize your reasons to conform to your own and society's desired conscience. Because I am curious, I want to get this reason, which is true, but does not meet the high standards of morality in society, so it has to be transformed into some acceptable reasons, such as: I like it so much, I need this thing, etc.; When the goal is not achieved for a period of time, it may be strengthened, which I like very much, and I need it very much; Some people with strong superego abilities may dismiss their thoughts.

But that's mostly out of curiosity! And not a real need. Look at how many people get another person and then dislike it, and then ignore the things they like at the time and buy them home?

Because curiosity is satisfied, desires are satisfied, and there is no reason to continue to be curious, so don't want it.

When he doesn't love you.

When he doesn't love you, whether he loved you in the past and then forgot about it, or whether he never loved you.

When you can't be the person in his heart, his heart won't remember you.

Although he knows that you love him deeply, he prefers to pretend that he doesn't.

When he doesn't love you, don't bother him when you're unhappy or in trouble.

He's definitely not where you should be at this moment.

Maybe he will comfort you lightly when he receives your **, but that's all.

When he doesn't love you, your love, your people, will seem much cheaper.

You have the upper hand, it's human nature.

When he doesn't love you, don't talk to him about you, maybe at the moment, you just want to get to know each other better.

It's just that he has no time and no interest in understanding you, no love, so you are destined to not be able to squeeze into his life.

Even if it's just a tiny corner.

When he doesn't love you, please don't shed tears in front of him and don't tell him when he's sick.

He can't give you care and attention. At most, sympathize with it, and please, proud of you, don't give up the pride that belongs to you.

Although too many people have lost too much in the face of love.

I didn't even have the courage to stand up. Where is pride?

It's just that you have to remember that only those who love yourself can really cherish you.

Instead, the sympathy of the bystanders, the pity.

When he doesn't love you, your love is a burden to him.

Don't count what you're doing, don't expect anything in return.

Loving someone who doesn't love you is in itself unreciprocated.

Don't care about right and wrong. It's going to be happier.

Remember, the love between you and Him is one-sided, you put your heart into it, and He has no heart.

So, don't blame him either. Because maybe he wants to do some good too.

Don't be so indifferent to you.

It's just that loving someone is good to someone.

It's instinctive.

I'm sorry, he doesn't have such instincts.

When he doesn't love you, don't lose your self-confidence.

Because loving someone is not his excellence, but just a feeling.

He makes you feel that way, and you love him.

In the same way, if he doesn't love you, it's not that you are not good.

Excellent, not a reason for love.

Look at how many people love themselves, and a faint smile is also strangely sweet.

When he doesn't love you, be sure to bless him too.

With love, there should be no hate.

Love is wonderful. Hate but ugly.

Why let the best things in life turn into ugliness?

Don't feel unfair either.

About leaving. He lost someone who loved him, and you lost someone who didn't love you, but you got a chance to live again, to love again.

Please don't think of "forever".

Love doesn't last forever.

You love him deeply at the moment, but you are destined to stop loving him one day in the distant future.

He just arrived at the day one step ahead of you.

When he doesn't love you, please gently embrace the warmth of the memories and gently gaze at the withering tenderness.

Human beings are animals governed by desires, and if they can't get it, they will feel precious, and when they get it, they will feel that they are not interested in pulling

That's right! The weakness of human nature is like this! Give your gift often don't like! The more you can't get it, the more you want to get it! Because what you can't get is the most beautiful thing in your eyes! I'm the landlord!