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There is no "ink" in the stomach, and the communication with others is not smooth, how to practice?

I have had such an experience, and I am also very distressed, after careful analysis, I found my own reasons, adjusted by myself, and the existing changes, I would like to share one or two with you.

Why is it that when communicating with others, there is a situation where "others say the last sentence, but I don't say the next sentence"?

1. You feel that your identity is "not equal" with the other party

In our daily lives, we also have times when communication is natural and smooth, when is that? For example, when communicating with friends who are close to you, or when sharing events that you are familiar with. Why is there so much communication at this time?

Because friends are "people who can understand you", when you share your own experiences, you feel that the other person is "someone who can listen to you".

Before we communicate with each other, we first give each other an "identity positioning" in our hearts, that is, what kind of person we see each other as. If the other party is positioned as an equal person to oneself, the communication will be natural and smooth, otherwise, there will be a situation of "words are not speculative".

For example, in a business situation, or when facing people with higher status or positions than you, when we communicate with these people, we position the other party in advance as "I am a person who has a request for him", "a person with higher knowledge than me", and so on.

If before communicating, give yourself a psychological hint that "I am not equal to the other party".

It is difficult to establish a basic relationship of trust, and it is difficult to establish a relaxed and natural atmosphere for conversation, and it is easy to have a situation of "there is a sentence but no sentence".

Second, in communication, it is customary to pay attention to the differences between the two sides and ignore the commonalities of both sides.

In the conversation, when the other party talks about the field that he is good at, we may think: "Wow, the other party is too powerful, I don't understand any of this, the gap is too big!" I can't answer!

This kind of thinking arises because you are accustomed to finding something different from the other person, and when you find that you are becoming more and more different from the other person, the communication barrier arises.

And what should be thought? Find common ground! "The other party is very powerful, and I agree with many points of view, which is great! "With this habit of thinking, you will slowly find that you have more and more in common with the other person, and the communication will become more and more speculative.

So, it's not that you don't have ink, it's that you're making the wrong choice.

3. Pay attention to the way you speak in communication to make communication easier and smoother.

1. Answer: No matter what the other party says, there must be a process of "picking" first, and how to answer is to first understand the meaning of what the other party says, or understand the mood of the other party. Such as:

What you just said means. ""I can understand your feelings!" I agree with your point of view!

2. Speak: Speak your point.

3. Push: Use an inquiring tone to make the other person speak again, such as "Do you think what I just said makes sense?" "What is your opinion on my point of view? "Wait.

The above is a way of speaking technique, which can indeed be formed through practice.

I feel the same way, the reaction is too slow. It's always a moment before I think about fighting back, but it's too late. Hahaha.

You can join the eloquence class to practice.

Come pick me up and give it a try, oh oh!

How do you pick up.

In short, what should I do if others say that the last sentence can't be followed by the next sentence? That means that your knowledge is too shallow, you have to read more books and learn a lot from books.

Summary. Hello <>

If you can't accept someone's words, you can just say "I'm sorry, I'm busy right now and can't accept your request at the moment" or "I'm very sorry, I can't help you for some reason". This not only expresses one's position, but also avoids offending the other party.

I can't answer what others say.

Hello <>

If you can't accept the words of others, you can directly say "I'm sorry, I'm busy right now, and I can't accept your request for the time being" or "I'm very sorry, for some reason, I can't help you". This not only expresses one's position, but also avoids offending the other party.

Can you tell us more about that?

Extended addendum: When we receive some requests or tasks, sometimes we may feel that the pressure is overwhelming, or for other reasons, it is unacceptable. At this time, we should search for books to clearly express our attitude, and at the same time try to avoid unnecessary distress and harm to the other party.

If we refuse someone else's request, it's best to give a clear reason so that the other person can understand our position. At the same time, we should also express our attitude politely and avoid using overly strong or arrogant language so as not to arouse the other person's disgust.