Why do people lose their temper for no reason?

If you love to lose your temper, you can regulate your liver. The most important thing to maintain a mentality is not to compare and judge people and things outside too much, when you have a different point of view from others, you will change your mind, anger is very expensive, why am I angry. It can only prove that these people have no quality at all, they can't even control their emotions, no matter who they are, they can lose their temper, and if you meet such a person, you treat him as a dog, so that you won't get angry.

There are always some people around who lose their temper inexplicably, and the reason is that these people live in the abyss of pain, why does the pain come from, because what he has is disproportionate to what he wants, the analysis is as follows:

One is the victim mentality. People who are in a bad mood often feel that they are victims, that the people around him make him unhappy, that he is not wrong, that everything is the fault of others, that it is the fault of his lover, that it is the fault of his children, and that it is the fault of the environment. Hit a child just because the child didn't listen to him!

Second, he has a low sense of self-worth, low self-esteem, can't listen to other people's suggestions to him, and takes other people's suggestions as criticism and accusation, and will show great anger.

The third is that the frustration quotient is low, and when you encounter a little sand, you will treat it as a stone, and when you encounter a stone, you will treat it as a mountain.

Fourth, it is easy to extend and generalize some things. If you don't do this well, it will extend to your whole person.

Fifth, the mind is regressive. Babies whose mental age has regressed to 0 to 6 months hope that their parents can satisfy themselves unconditionally, project this unmet need to the people around them, and hope that everyone can satisfy themselves and do things according to their own requirements, if not, they will be very angry.

Sixth, there is expectation of the people around you, and then it turns into control. Obviously his lover is a cactus, but he expects him to be a sunflower all day long, does not accept him as he is, and wants him to be what we expect in our hearts.

Seventh, shirk responsibility and fail to bear responsibility. Everything is someone else's fault and has nothing to do with yourself.

Eighth, self-attack, self-denial, easy depression, and low mood.

Ninth, when depression develops to a certain point, it will attack externally, complain everywhere, manifest as mania, inner anxiety, irritability, and develop into depressive-manic binomial disorder.

Although such a person has a hateful face, he is very painful, living in a black hole, unable to see light, unable to see hope, without strength, with great internal friction, and the whole person is in a state of self-consumption!

There will be something hateful about the wretched!

If you have such a person around, you must maintain your concentration, draw the boundary, do not intervene or get involved, and understand that his emotions are his! Don't argue with him, or your energy will be consumed!

People who want to be freed from the black hole, two words: choose!

People have the freedom to "choose" in any situation!

The famous Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist Victor Frank said that anything a person has can be taken away, but the last freedom of human nature – that is, the freedom to choose one's own attitude and way of life in any situation – cannot be taken away.

Best friend A: I'm with my boyfriend, he always likes to blackface me, and sometimes it's inexplicable, it's a very small thing, but he suddenly blackfaces, which makes me very scared, I don't know if he doesn't like me anymore, what should I do.

Girlfriend B: I've been married to my husband for three years, but in the past year, my husband has always been angry with me when he doesn't agree with me, often with a black face inexplicably, and sometimes sneering, I really can't stand it, we've only been married for three years, he treats me like this, do I want a divorce?

In fact, in life, there are not a few friends like A and B, who suddenly turn their faces to you or even fight because of some trivial things, or because of some small actions and habits of the other party, which makes many people feel very distressed.

So, why do some people always lose their temper with you, or even blackface, for no reason?

One: It may be that your behavior is making him uncomfortable.

As the saying goes, a person lives with a mouth, and a tree lives with a layer of skin. Everyone has their own temper, especially when they encounter something that doesn't go their way.

If, when you are with someone, you always speak ill of him, or deliberately do something that makes him unhappy and makes him feel uncomfortable, such as: when he is talking, you always interrupt, when he is doing things, you always keep interrupting, etc.

After a long time, he will feel that you are not easy to get along with, and he will disturb the wild and slowly stay away from you, and even hold a grudge against you because of this, so when you find that there are such people around you, you must cherish it.

Two: It may be gambling with you.

Many times, the reason why two people quarrel is not really because they have any deep hatred, but because they are angry.

For example, the two of you originally made an appointment to go out shopping together, but you changed your mind temporarily and didn't go. At this point, he may be very angry, and then he will start to get angry with you.

For another example, if the two of you originally agreed to go to dinner together, but when it comes to the meal, you refuse to show up, at this time, he will also be very angry and start to get angry with you.

Therefore, if you find that someone around you is always gambling with you, then you have to reflect on whether you are not good enough, which will cause him to be angry with you.

Three: Maybe it's because you don't understand his feelings.

Everyone's heart is relatively fragile, especially after encountering something or being hurt by something.

At this time, he will hide all his inner thoughts and is unwilling to share them with others. If he writes all these things on his face, then it means that he is really sad.

They have a moody personality and a temper that often overwhelms you. Obviously, you are in a good mood, and the other party's words can make you depressed. Even if you are a very patient and gentle person, you will have a feeling of being consumed, so you must pay attention to some ways and methods when dealing with them.

Clause. 1. Don't compete with them.

Don't let the character shortcomings of others hurt yourself in front of a very emotional person, we can learn to deal with it quietly, because emotions between people will affect each other, and if you also respond to each other in a more intense way, the conflict between two people will escalate and become hysterical.

Clause. 2. Give the other person time to calm down.

Many things are better to wait until they are emotionally stable, although they will be less efficient, but it is much better than hurting each other, or making decisions impulsively. Emotions are closely related to our motivation for doing things, and people who are not emotionally charged must be bad, depending on the situation. However, too many emotions can often interfere with our lives.

Clause. 3. Say to him, you are right, it's all my problem.

In this case, we can look at each other calmly and calmly, and only say four words: you are right, do not compete with each other. The reason why the other person is angry is that you think that you have not accepted his emotions, and if you also respond in a violent way, it will only escalate the conflict.

When you respond in a peaceful way, you are also setting an example for the other person.

Clause. Fourth, it is advisable to give the other person the last patience.

When a person is emotionally intense, he can't listen to what others say. It is better to wait for the other party's emotions to calm down, and then find a suitable time to communicate, and talk about your views and feelings about this matter, although the efficiency of handling things is lower, it is much better than arguing with each other.

1. We are accustomed to keeping a safe distance from strangers, or taking precautions everywhere. In front of his relatives, he seems to be covered with thorns, always unscrupulously showing his teeth and claws, and never willing to wronged himself. Psychologists say that this may be because we always feel that the relationship between our relatives Chi Shu and our lover is too close, so we subconsciously think that the other party can tolerate everything about themselves, and everything they do for themselves is a matter of course, especially between husband and wife, who understand each other almost thoroughly but can't always accept it calmly, complain to each other that they can't find similarities, and those who can tolerate the shortcomings of outsiders are always sharply picky about the embarrassment of their closest people, and sometimes even say heartbreaking words to each other. It seems that any outsider can easily take the place of the other.

2. Tantrums are not something that can be done casually. Tantrums come at a cost. This cost is that if the object of the tantrum is stronger than you, the temper is greater, and the tenant is the tenant, then the consequence of your tantrum at him is that the other party will also lose his temper with you, and you don't have the strength to accept his temper, so you will suffer.

I originally wanted to vent my dissatisfaction by losing my temper, but I became the object of others to vent, and the dissatisfaction in my heart became more, but I didn't dare to vent at the other party, so I was even more depressed.

1 Reason for Relationship: People who are close to them are more likely to be seen as family members or friends rather than strangers. As a result, people are more likely to exhibit negative emotions in these relationships.

2 Reasons for a sense of security: People close to you are more likely to provide security and support, so people are more likely to show negative emotions in these relationships.

3 Reasons to feel stress: People close to you may learn more often about our life and work stresses, so people are more likely to show negative emotions in these relationships.

4 Reasons for not being aware: People may not be aware of their bad temper and therefore cannot treat those close to them properly.

1.Pampered and arrogant, knowing that the other party loves him very much, so he dares to lose his temper with the other party easily, because the other party will not worry about himself, if it is an outsider, it will be a big quarrel, and there may be a fight, and the family always quarrels with each other. Fortunately, I can't do it now, because I feel that I have grown up, and I should not lose my temper with the old man, and it is time to be filial to the old man.

2.The pressure of working outside, the unpleasant life outside, being ostracized by others, and the nagging of our family members provoked our temper disturbance. In this regard, I am also much better now, I have learned to go out by myself, laugh more to soothe my emotions, but I still can't stand nagging, this is taboo whether it is from childhood to adulthood or in married life in the future, because this is too easy to make people lose their temper, the same as Tang Seng chanting.

3.The family did something very excessive, which angered our tempers. Here in the future, I have to learn to soothe my emotions first, cover and then express the reason for my anger to my family, ask them not to do this in the future, and then learn to walk away alone.

Many times we tend to be embarrassed and angry, obviously because we are wrong, but because you know that I am wrong, not only do I not reflect deeply, but I also slowly turn to think that you don't understand me too well or don't forgive me, so I can't give up.