What kind of dad will make his child selfish, narrow minded, and irresponsible?

One, serious dad.

1.Too doting.

Many parents are too doting on their children, as long as the children want to eat what parents will buy, what toys they want parents will give, basically will not refuse all the children's requirements, even if the parents refuse will force the parents to comply through resistance, which has caused the child's arrogant, willful, selfish character.

2.Too protective of the child.

Many parents do not believe in their children's abilities, and parents do everything for their children, resulting in children passively accepting and relying on their parents' personalities, and once they face social life alone, they will show a selfish and cowardly side.

3.Too much suppression of the child's independence.

Some parents have complete control over their children under the pretext of protecting their children. Children can't express their own ideas, can't do what they think, and can only follow their parents' plans step by step. Such children are often deprived of the ability to think independently and deal with things independently, and they cannot adapt to social life without the arrangement and advice of their parents.

Many fathers usually do not smile, and are very strict with their children, because fathers feel that only by being strict with their children can children embark on the right path, in fact, this will make children very unconfident, and even very inferior, children want to be recognized by their fathers, and fathers should give their children encouragement, and don't always treat children very strongly.

Second, the father who does not communicate with his children.

There are many fathers who go out to work for family life, because they are very busy at work, and neglect to communicate and communicate with their children, which leads to insufficient understanding between fathers and children, and many children will become very inferior because they can't see their fathers for a long time and don't communicate with their fathers, and even envy other people's fathers.

Three, the grumpy dad.

If the father is a violent temper, most of the education of the child is suppressive, and when he is a little dissatisfied or has pressure in life, he will bring emotions to the child. Doing so hurts your child a lot, so be sure to be a person who can manage your emotions.

Selfish dads, selfish dads will affect the child, making the child become unsighted and narrow-minded.

Grumpy, lack of care for children, selfish. The irascible dad transmits bad emotions to his children; Lack of care for children makes children grow up in narrow-mindedness; Selfish dads make children selfish.

Introduction

Nowadays, families think that the mother is the main force of education, and they dare not give the child to the father, and they are afraid that the father will make some very strange moves and take the baby to do some very strange things.

Therefore, we can see that it is generally the mother who takes the baby out to play, even if the father takes the baby out, there will be Hongbi's mother around.

There are often mothers on the Internet who complain about how reliable the father has to take the baby, but in fact this is just the difference between the way the father and the mother take the baby, in fact, the father with the baby has many benefits for the baby.

The World Health Organization has done a study and concluded that if the father can play with the baby for more than 2 hours a day, it will make the child's personality become stronger, and the daughter will know how to contact the opposite sex.

It can be seen that the father is not so bad at taking the baby, but compared with the mother, the father lacks care.

You know, from ancient times to the present, it is "male outside, female inside", so everyone thinks that girls have to take the baby at home, and it is precisely because of this retro feudal thinking that it has affected the current family's concept of education.

But in fact, in the process of growing up, although children need the careful care of their mothers, they also need the guidance and encouragement of their fathers, so that children will become more excellent in character, and they will not choose to escape when they encounter difficulties.

Many mothers want their children to have a strong character, but they don't want their fathers to take the baby, so after the passage of time, the child's character begins to become cowardly, and if you don't want your child to have a weak character, don't be a father of these 3 types.

Grumpy father

The father is the representative of majesty at home, and many children are afraid of the father, but the father should know that majesty does not equal temper.

A grumpy father, not only will affect the child's character, but also affect the atmosphere of the family, some children in order to protect themselves, do not want to be educated by the father in the way of "beating and scolding", so in the face of the father's words are always obedient, this kind of grievance will affect the child's character and growth.

A timid and cowardly father

Don't look at most children have a good relationship with their mothers, but the image of the father in their hearts is no worse than that of the mother, the father has always been tall and majestic in the hearts of the children, but if the father suddenly becomes timid and cowardly, not only will it not affect the image of the father in the child's heart, but even affect the child's character, and the child will also be affected by the father.

A father who never communicates with his children

Although the father is cold, but not ruthless, if the father does not communicate with the child for a long time, it is easy for the child to think that the father does not like him, and even there will be a gap in his heart.

At first, the child will try every means to get closer to his father, and after a few attempts, he finds that his father is still unwilling to talk to him, then the relationship will become more and more distant, and the rebellious period will come early.

Therefore, it is said that the child's personality is determined by the father, and if you don't want the child to become timid and weak, or even irresponsible, then don't be the father of the above kinds.

Often hit the child, and fight pure socks and the pace of life is not always fast, what will not be discussed with the child, often choose the stick education method to educate the child, and the child and the father Ji Ji talk is always impatient.

The father has no ability, and he is particularly cowardly, which is generally very related to the character of the father, and he can't change it when he grows up.

Most of it has something to do with the father's character, the father is timid and cowardly, and the child is naturally like this.

1. Find out the reason for your father's irritability

Everything happens for a reason, and when we wait for my father to be less angry, we ask him or someone else what's going on, maybe he has his own reasons.

2. Communicate more with your father

We should communicate more with our father, especially if it is a more irritable and unreasonable father, try to open my father's heart and talk to my father, which will help improve my father's temper.

3. Care more about your father

We may misunderstand our father's irritability and unreasonableness, but what he needs is for us to reason with him, just to make us care more about him.

4. Be patient

We have to keep a patient heart in the face of our irascible and unreasonable father, this is an uphill battle, and we keep trying to communicate with our father, hoping to find out what ways to improve in this exchange.

5. Understand our fathers

Many people have left their fathers, or who in the family has left our fathers, resulting in fathers living alone, and our fathers can't play with computers and mobile phones. We should be able to understand the boredom and helplessness of our father's life, and we, as children, should understand our parents.

6. Organize family activities

If this is the case, we can organize some family gatherings to make the father feel the warmth of the whole family, and maybe it will also help him to be irritable.

7. Outdoor activities with my father

We can use our free time to organize an outdoor activity with our father, such as going to some tourist attractions to feel the breath of nature, which may change my father's irritable personality.

8. Reduce the pressure on your father

Whether as a student, a part-time worker, or even as a boss, our father has to bear a certain amount of pressure for us, of course, this pressure is not only financial, but also psychological. We can reduce the stress for our fathers, such as trying to do their own thing and doing some household chores.

Impact on children:

Some parents' misconduct is not applied to their children, but may be selfishness in dealing with outsiders or external things. Having such a father has a great impact on his growth and even his life.

This kind of harm to children is also real, they use their own way to express love at the same time, constantly to destroy the beauty of their children's hearts, destroy their worldview, but children can not fiercely resist and resist, because they really have no malice, this heavy helplessness, can not make people make up their minds to escape, but from their bad influence and real, there is no way to avoid it.

Encourage your child and develop self-confidence

When children grow up, they have insufficient life experience and social experience, and mistakes are not uncommon. As parents, you should be more understanding and tolerant. Timid children are more likely to be timid by making mistakes and need encouragement from their parents.

Parents should tell their children that it's okay if they fail. What matters is whether they can get back up after failure. They should guide their children out of the trough and regain their confidence.

Listen to your child's thoughts

There is a reason why children are timid. In the face of such a situation, parents should not scold their children too much, but should understand more about their children's difficulties. Parents can communicate with their children and listen to their children's voices.

Only by understanding the child's thoughts can it be possible to prescribe the right medicine. Parents should not ask their children from the perspective of adults, but should think from the perspective of children.

Explore and discover your child's interests and strengths

In the field they are good at, children can find their own light. Parents should consciously nurture their children's strengths. First of all, in these areas, children can meet a lot of like-minded friends; Secondly, children with skills and specialties will be more confident and courageous in their future lives.

Let children be exposed to society

Parents can take their children to public places more often, have more contact with other children, and let children interact more with their peers. Often, parents can also invite their children to play at home to develop their children's "sense of ownership".

Let go and train your child

Children have been growing up under the protection of their parents, and they will feel that they can't do anything well, so they will have such a mentality. At this time, parents need to let go and nurture their children. Only by letting go of nurturing children, having confidence in children, and believing in them, will children believe in themselves and feel that they can do well.

The right attitude towards education

Parents cannot, because they are not doing well, to preach to their children, so that the children feel that they are not good at anything, will hit the child's self-confidence and are unwilling to communicate with others. Therefore, parents should correct their own educational attitudes and educate their children in a reasonable way.

Don't blame the child

Children are more timid. Parents should never blame their children, accuse them of being timid, or criticize them a lot. This will make children lose confidence even more, and the more noisy they are, the more timid they become!

Parents should communicate well with their children, praise them often, encourage them, let them go out to socialize, and let their children participate in some social activities, so that they can change their children's personality.

Parents can take their children to participate in some games that consume physical strength or test their intelligence, and play a good role in the child's team.

Parents should guide and educate their children, communicate with them more, give them enough love and warmth, and take them to participate in more group activities, so that they can become confident and cheerful.

If the parent is too aggressive, it will have a very negative impact on the child, so that the child will become one of the following three states.

1. Extremely rebellious.

This kind of child has the nature of being strong when encountered, the more parents want him to be obedient, the more disobedient the child is, sometimes he can't resist the suppression of parents, so he has to pretend to agree with the parents' approach on the surface, but in fact he is very resistant to the behavior of his parents, and even secretly accumulates negative emotions, and waits to explode at any time.

Such a child is still relatively easy to control at a young age, but when he grows up and enters puberty, his rebellious behavior will become more serious, making it difficult for parents to control.

2. No assertiveness.

Due to being oppressed and controlled by parents for a long time, children have become accustomed to this feeling of growing up in oppression, and have become puppets of parents.

Such children do not have the ability to think independently from an early age, they will be more dependent on the discipline of their parents in everything and are accustomed to following the advice of their parents, and in the future, they will go into society, marry a wife and have children to build their own family, and they will not be able to make decisions according to their own preferences.

3. There is a difference between the inside and the outside.

When the child is overly disciplined by the parents, the child's first reaction is often not to resist, but to obey, even if the child does not approve of the parents' approach, but in order to make themselves suffer less, they will also show their agreement to the parents.

If the child's personality is not corrected, then the child's personality imperfection will make it difficult for the child to become socially easy and difficult to build trusting relationships with others.

If you want to educate your children better, you should learn to be respectful!