Talk to us about how to regulate the relationship between a daughter in law and a mother?

Humor works best. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a contradiction within the family, there is no need to distinguish who is who is not, both of them are most concerned about your attitude, do not deal with it seriously, and use humor to bring out the contradictions between the two people in the best way. Once, my mother and daughter-in-law had a conflict over educating their children, and I did not directly judge the rights and wrongs of my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Instead, he said loudly: "Son, look at you, you provoked your mother and offended your grandmother, killing two birds with one stone, whose child can endure such a big thing." Then I said to my mother

It's all your grandson, and it's upsetting you. Then he said to his daughter-in-law, "Haha, it's all your son, educate me well."

Immediately, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's brows stretched. Use more humorous methods to quickly resolve the temporary unhappiness and relieve the embarrassing situation.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is far and smelly. Of course, many families don't have this kind of conditions and can only live together, so I'll try to help you come up with some ideas to ease their relationship. When buying things, the main contradiction in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that they are unwilling to back down.

You can buy something that your mother needs and send it over, remember that it is in the name of your wife! Eating, don't feel that eating can't ease the relationship, in fact, there is a lot of knowledge. You can take your mother and wife to a restaurant outside for dinner, no matter what they quarrel at home, but when they go outside, they will definitely restrain themselves.

After all, it is a family, and it is enough to quarrel at home, and it will not let outsiders see the joke.

Two people who have never lived together are bound to quarrel when they first get together, just like during a relationship, two people will often quarrel! Quarrels are because they are running in, colliding, and slowly adapting to each other, and when they have enough run-in and each other are adapting to each other, there will be fewer quarrels! This time varies from person to person, but generally takes more than 2 years.

Daughters and mothers will often quarrel and have cold wars, unpleasant things will happen between colleagues, and husbands and wives will inevitably fight, which is a normal performance of a person. If this situation seriously affects life and work, it is recommended that two people live separately, the distance produces beauty, and you can live very close to your mother, but do not live in a house, rent a house nearby to take care of the elderly and be taken care of by the elderly, and life will be harmonious.

The center of the war between the two women is the man, the mother is worried that the daughter-in-law has snatched the son that belongs to her, and the daughter-in-law thinks that the man is still a mother's treasure, so as a man, you have to persuade well, untie the knots in their hearts, and show the mother that the daughter-in-law is good to herself, so that the mother can rest assured, and let the mother clearly know that she is not marrying a daughter-in-law and forgetting her mother; Show your mother's difficulties and worries to your daughter-in-law, let your daughter-in-law feel her mother's care and love for herself, and you can say some of your mother's influence on you when you grow up, so that your daughter-in-law can feel her mother's difficulty.

Boast more about your wife in front of your mother, talk about your mother's good in front of your wife, as the saying goes, and mud, mud and good, naturally there is no trouble. The same respect and fairness for his wife's parents as he does for his parents, his wife is naturally good to his parents, and people's hearts are flesh and blood.

Be a confidential. As a son and husband, you must keep your mouth shut, and in any case, you must not spread words between your mother and wife, especially if your daughter-in-law or mother is dissatisfied with each other, so as not to increase their resentment with each other and intensify the conflict between them. At the same time, it is necessary to enlighten the mother more, so that the mother can understand the difficulty of the daughter-in-law.

When there are some disputes between your mother and wife, you should learn to face it calmly and learn how to regulate the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The first thing you have to learn as a man is not to pass on the two ends. As a man in a family, if you know that you can't speak, then you must want to speak, especially in an occasion like a family gathering.

When a qualified wallhead speaks to whoever is in front of him, he is silent when both of them are there.

Today we are going to talk about the problem that most people will encounter in their lives, that is, how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! You must not think that such a problem is far away from you, so it is pointless to think about it too early, in fact, for the things we will encounter in our lives, it must not hurt to understand it early.

No matter how bad it is to guide others, there is one more skill, I have heard such a sentence before, that is, if a person can handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no problem in the world that cannot be handled, and the "University" in the four books has always emphasized that self-cultivation Qi family can govern the country and level the world, and the key to Qi family is the handling of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

However, many people have misunderstandings about dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, thinking that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the mother-in-law is not good enough, or the daughter-in-law is not good enough, in fact, the biggest key is that the man who connects the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not deal with this problem, in other words, the key to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lies in the man.

We have to understand that people are competitive, especially between the same sex, this kind of competition is everywhere in front of the opposite sex, and this kind of competition is the same in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother must love her son, and what will she be afraid of when she sees her son getting married? I am afraid that my son will marry a daughter-in-law and forget my mother, which will hurt my mother.

So as a wife, it's the same, what woman doesn't want her husband to love herself more? This is all human nature, and there is nothing wrong with it, but the competitive relationship has planted the seeds of disharmony for the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! But what happens if you are a man who blindly looks towards his mother or his wife?

It will definitely exacerbate the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because you seem to be towards one of them, and you always have your reasons, but you are giving them hatred for each other, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are already competitive with each other, what men have to do is to make them no longer so strong to compete with each other, so that they can understand each other and tolerate each other, but you just create an unfair competitive environment. In fact, this is an irrational way to deal with it, and this is a typical way to create contradictions.

But what I want to say is that the method is not absolute, it must be adjusted according to the actual situation, my friend has a strong emotional control ability, he can hold it, he knows how to make his mother and wife unhappy, but it will not hurt a lot, and what can be a tantrum in anything, or how often the tantrum is raised, it can be controlled, but different family environments are different, but the core concept is the same.

The core of this adjustment of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to make the state of mutual attack between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law turn to a state of consistent external appearance, so that both parties can become a state of mutual understanding and tolerance.

Because if you really do this, your wife really has some emotions because of this, your mother will help you soothe, your mother has emotions, your wife will also soothe, and then in private you will treat them a little better, and any problem can be solved, so a man should play a good role in the relationship between his daughter-in-law and his mother.

1. Do housework together, don't always instruct your daughter-in-law to work The son is the mother's heart, pampered as a baby since childhood, if the son is instructed by the daughter-in-law to work, the mother must be very angry. A smart man is never a lazy man, at least let your parents see that you both do housework together to maintain a small family. Even if a man has not worked much since he was a child and wants his daughter-in-law to do more, he must never instruct his daughter-in-law in front of his mother, and respect his daughter-in-law.

2. Know how to trust your wife is your own choice, you have to trust her, the most important thing is to understand her, what happens to think about her temperament, a woman marries into a strange family alone and only you are her dependence, so do your best to protect her, the old man is inevitably stubborn when he is old, and the daughter-in-law is angry with the old man, so you don't want to be angry with her. 3. Love your parents, love your parents-in-law, have a husband with a mother and father, and have a daughter-in-law with a father-in-law and mother-in-law. If you marry a daughter-in-law, it is equivalent to your husband's family marrying a daughter-in-law's family.

So, don't forget to honor your parents, and don't forget to honor your parents-in-law. With the support of the elderly on both sides, your small family will live a happier and warmer life, and reduce the occurrence of family conflicts. 4. Have the courage to take responsibility When something happens in your family, no matter whose fault it is, you must come out and bear it as soon as possible, after all, blood is thicker than water, and the old man will not see you in the air, but once you shirk the responsibility, the unlucky must be your daughter-in-law, and there will be more complaints about a so-called outsider and the elderly.

5. Good daughters-in-law do, bad people do their own There are few women who are not greedy for cheapness, and mother-in-law is no exception, when you want to buy something to be filial to your mother or make your mother happy, you might as well let your wife come forward to your mother-in-law to reduce your mother-in-law's hostility to your daughter-in-law. When there is friction between the mother and the wife, it is necessary to look at the problem from a neutral perspective, kindly remind the other party of the mistake, and appease the emotions of the other party. 6. Learn to hide from both ends, don't pass on both sides as a man can't speak, don't speak, especially on the occasion of family gatherings, don't be open-mouthed, the wife says that the mother-in-law is not good, the mother complains that the daughter-in-law is not filial, it is just from the nature of women to complain, listen to it and it will pass, if you take it seriously, if you pass it on both ends, or just say that you miss your mouth, it is purely to blame, and there is nothing to do.

7. Say more about the good or bad of the daughter-in-law, and don't say bad things about the daughter-in-lawWhen the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is not harmonious, do not follow the mother-in-law when she counts the daughter-in-law, it seems that the parents will be angry and happy, but in fact, they will think that the son is also dissatisfied with the daughter-in-law, and over time it will spread to the daughter-in-law's ears. If you really want to straighten out the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should say more good things about your daughter-in-law in front of your mother, and properly express your love for your daughter-in-law, so that your parents can understand that you are very happy after marriage and will not wantonly destroy the relationship between the two of you.