Where you go is more important than who you go with

I don't think that for a person who likes to be lonely, maybe as long as he has been on the road, it is a kind of happiness, but the person who really chases his dream is definitely not a lonely person, he needs a team that suits him, or a person who can accompany him to go down, and these people are not anyone, and the road will be wider and wider in their company.

This debate topic appeared very early, and it was debated on the Internet.

The other party's whereabouts, from the subjective level, just want to go or want to achieve the goal, all of which have not yet been realized, just stay in the longing stage, and the objective level refers to the individual essence of the **, is the specific realization of the goal.

In this process, who is walking with whom is not negligible He influences the final destination of the individual (material determines consciousness), and is the guarantee of success in the realization of the goal (scientific view) It shows that who you walk with is more important than where you go.

Behind who to walk with

In fact, it's especially important to choose who you're going to walk with. Compared with first-class leaders or partners and second-rate leaders or partners, the difference between the two is likely to be several times, or even tens of thousands of times.

Whether a business can be successful, in addition to factors such as business model and profit prospects, whether there is a reliable partner is very crucial, which is also the experience summed up by countless successful enterprises. In the early days of Xiaomi's Lei Jun, he basically focused all his energy on finding partners.

What kind of partner the founder chooses, how to allocate partners, and how to treat partners can be seen in his values, pattern and prospects.

In the process of struggle, it is difficult to predict what the road ahead is, who to choose to walk with, it is more important to go to a distant place, and the people who travel with them will often decide the direction of a thing, and the depth of decision-making and understanding of the problem will also make things go to the other end.

Standing in a different position, looking at the problem, in order to see what others are thinking, the needs are **, yesterday morning to write down to myself the review experience is as follows: "The real review is to dare to admit the mistakes of self-decision-making, is to face the rogue style in human nature, is the regrouping of repeated defeats, no one is always right, what to do is to do a pit not to fall twice, a mistake not to come twice." ”

When I calmed down and thought about it, I found that many times the compounding of identity requires us to learn more, to understand many cultures, ideas, including instantaneous judgments, and life trade-offs, so that we can not only empathize, but also think of our own ways to break the situation. "Empathy is characterized by creativity, insight and perception of others, and people with a strong sense of empathy are better able to understand people who are different, to understand partners, to understand colleagues, and even to understand competitors.

In the end, I think I still need to use empathy to deal with the follow-up things, really stand in the other party's situation, to feel and judge, empathy is a kind of respect and care from the heart, people with empathy can not only recognize the success of others, but also be able to understand the failure of others, both to send charcoal in the snow, but also to add icing on the cake, empathy to help you stand in the perspective of competitors to think about the possibility of win-win.

Many times, the world in the eyes of different people, showing different faces, because people see the world is just a projection of your inner values, with empathy, you can see more different aspects from yourself, can have an infinite perspective to understand more things, Arthur Schopenhauer said "Although people can do what they want, but not what they want, empathy will bring you a kind of tolerant power, tolerance for others and yourself, from being overly discouraged or overly harsh on others, This will make you better who you are. ”

At no time should circumstances, money, education, and other things become a burden to you and alienate you from reality and others. After drinking coffee in the morning, the moment when I was about to finish writing, I realized why some people always say that when you want to get more, the premise is that you need to pay more, and this payment has your understanding of others.

Not all people, at the moment of old age, have a sense of awe for the world and life, and not all people can clearly see what can stay around at the moment of age, I hope that I can be inspired in this thing, and consciously choose the people who travel with me from now on.

Choice is more important than effort, and who you walk with is more important than the distance you want to go.

The most essential value is long-termism. If you look short, it's hard to do anything. If you stretch it out, you will see a lot of things.

The flowing water does not compete for the first, but the competition is endless.

On the evening of September 14, 2020, Hillhouse founder and CEO Zhang Lei's "Zhang Lei's Friends" was broadcast on major ** platforms at the same time. Zhang Lei and his friends, Zhuang Chenchao, co-founder and partner of Zebra Capital, Daniel Zhang, chairman of Haidilao, Lu Qi, founder and CEO of MiraclePlus, and He Yu, CEO of Guoyi Quantum, had a "thirst-quenching and interesting" summit dialogue. At the same time, I talked about Zhang Lei's first book "Value".

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