How important is the bride price? Do you think bride price is important?

For people who are about to get married, the bride price is a piece of the man's heart, it is very important for the woman, how important is it, take an analogy to explain it, everyone when they pay a point, they want to get more returns, sometimes they can also see marriage as a transaction to solve it, if you spend money to buy a 1000 yuan mobile phone and spend money to buy a 5000 yuan mobile phone, you will cherish which mobile phone more, the same is true of marriage, Some people say that the bride price is the guarantee of marriage, and some people say that the bride price is equivalent to the payment of a family.

I have always believed that the bride price is a reasonable and appropriate existence, China has been circulating thousands of years of bride price culture, from my parents' generation of dozens of dollars or even hundreds of dollars, and finally to the present tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands, I think it is a social progress, because people know the equivalent exchange, although I know that it is not appropriate to use this word to describe, but why not, a girl with her own decades or even the second half of her life, to another family you are a cow and a horse, I think the bride price is deserved! Sometimes the world's vision allows us to learn to grow, so the bride price is valued by the world, and it should also be very important!

I remember once my neighbor made such a joke with me, saying that the family next door talked about a daughter-in-law who spent less than 200,000 yuan in bride price, and then said that the family all treated the daughter-in-law as a bodhisattva, because they spent so much money and always hoped to get the due return, and the man's parents did not dare to offend the girl at will, because they were worried that the girl would choose to leave in a fit of anger, so sometimes the bride price can also determine the status of a girl in the man's family!

In my opinion, the bride price itself does not mean much, and some people may ask for the bride price just to save face, so now there are all kinds of news about the bride price, what "sky-high bride price", "marrying a daughter is like selling a daughter" and other strange remarks. Although it is not excluded that there are many families who want a lot of bride price, but most of them are generally just a formality, and now most of them are only children, why do parents want so much bride price! The bride price is just a form of face, my parents are quite open-minded, there are no excessive requirements in these things such as the bride price, when my sister got married, my parents didn't ask for a penny at all, but gave my sister a big red envelope.

Mom and Dad said that there is no need to make the two families unhappy because of these formal things, after all, the two families will still be relatives in the future, so just understand each other.

But there are some strange people around me, marrying a daughter is really desperate to ask for a bride price, is the bride price really that important? Just a colleague in my office and his girlfriend have been together for three or four years, seeing that the age has also arrived, and when they are ready to get married, the woman has to ask for a bride price of 100,000 yuan, and the two families are now deadlocked. The man's family feels that such relatives can't get married, and blatantly asks for money, and the woman's family may feel that they won't give it now and in the future.

From my point of view, I think that both families are thinking too much, since young people like each other, and both parents should give the best wishes, I think it may be too cheesy to raise money at this juncture of marriage.

Since they both want to go together, the man's family has a heart, so naturally give it to the woman's family according to his heart, give more to the less, and the woman's family should not mind too much, after all, they will be a family in the future, so I don't think there is any need to take the bride price too seriously.

This is definitely very important for today's society! Nowadays, people get married a lot, and it is impossible for a girl to marry you without a bride price! And there are many couples who break up because of the bride price!

It's just to get some money to spend, and if you give it, you won't be rich, and you won't be able to live, so you still sit and eat nothing.

It varies from person to person and from region to region.

As a traditional custom in China, the bride price is mainly used by the man to provide a certain amount of money and valuables to the woman's family when he marries the woman. This custom has different manifestations and amounts in different regions and families.

The view on the bride price has long been different from person to person. Some people believe that the bride price is a sign of respect and gratitude to the woman's family, and represents the sincerity of the man's family. Others, on the other hand, believe that the bride price should not be an obstacle to marriage and should be based on the feelings of both parties.

If you don't have a bride price, whether you will choose to get married depends on your values, cultural background, and personal preferences. You can communicate fully with your partner to understand each other's views and decide together whether to accept a marriage without a bride price. It is important that you focus on each other's feelings and common goals, rather than money and material issues.

The essence of the bride price.

As society progresses to the present, the nature of the bride price has actually changed.

In ancient times, the bride price was a kind of buyout of the girl, which was equivalent to giving the bride price, leaving the mother's family, which was equivalent to marrying into the man's family.

However, in today's modern society, no one will stop contacting their parents' family just because they are married.

The amount of the bride price.

The amount of the bride price should be analyzed according to the individual's family financial situation. Moreover, in many cases, while the man pays the bride price, the woman will also have a dowry, usually a car as a dowry, which is also paid according to their respective strength.

Is it really impossible to get married without a bride price?

Actually, I don't think there's only one kind of problem.

Whether it is a bride price or a dowry, it is an expense that parents give their children to the small family that is about to be formed.

For girls, poverty alleviation is not advisable, I have always thought so, if the gap between the two families is too big, I don't think the future will be very good.

Of course, if the economic strength of the two parties is equal, the bride price is just a formality, and whether there is it or not will not affect anything.

And more importantly, it depends on whether the man's family respects the woman's family, whether the person to marry is of good character and filial piety to his parents, aren't these qualities more important than the bride price?

There are actually thousands of kinds of bride price for whether or not to have a bride price, and each one is just for your own situation.

Therefore, I think that in this matter, we should analyze the specific problems on a case-by-case basis, and do not restrain ourselves because of the form, and do not retreat too much from our bottom line.

This problem cannot be said too absolutely, the breakup is due to many reasons, and the bride price is often a poor fuse, and it is a big collision of the concepts of both parties.

Marriage is much more to consider than to be in love, and the first thing to bear the brunt of is materialism. Now the most common situation is that the man is in the face of a bride price that exceeds the estimate of the bride price after a series of anxious things such as a wedding, a house, and a car, and the negotiation with the woman is unsuccessful, and then the conflict between the two parties intensifies and finally breaks up.

For example, in a small city, the man's parents are good employers, and the woman's appearance is said to be good, it is a rural family, and there is only one brother in the family who does not need to worry about it. The two fell in love in college until they got married, the man in the garage wedding was all inclusive, and in the end the woman asked for 300,000 dowry, and the man said that he would express his intentions in 10,000, and then he negotiated, had contradictions, quarrels, and finally parted ways.

The difficult part of this kind of thing is that you stand on both sides of the reasonable: the man has already prepared so much, and in the end, he just needs to express his mind and live a good life after marriage; The woman wants to be more hopeful, hoping that the other party will pay more attention to herself, have more face in the village, and her parents can also subsidize the family. In the end, it becomes a dead end.

The woman thinks that you refuse to give 300,000 yuan, but you don't pay enough attention to me and I don't love me, and the man feels that his girlfriend has equated himself with 300,000 yuan, and he is more and more disappointed.

In addition, there is another situation, the woman takes care of the wedding, the house, and the car, and asks the man to pay a relatively small bride price of hundreds of thousands or tens of thousands, but the man refuses to pay. This kind of is not much to talk about, almost the truth.

Therefore, the breakup is not just a matter of bride price, but also caused by the collision of two families and two concepts. It's a pity to fall in love with each other, but it's a pity that we have gone through so many steps but go wrong at the last step, but we have to admit that some people are suitable for love, some people are suitable for marriage, and what we want is a more comfortable lifestyle.

I think that breaking up on the issue of bride price is a good thing, which shows that there are still many conflicts between a series of concepts between the two parties, before marriage is the bride price, after marriage is trivial caused by the earth-shaking situation, and finally it becomes divorce, and the concept instilled by the family from childhood to adulthood is very difficult to change. Looking at it this way, how good it is to stop the loss for both parties in this way.

As for the issue of social orientation, I won't go into details, there are many related ones, and both men and women have unspeakable secrets.

Yes, the bride price is very important, but it is not the most important, that is, the hunger shed said that there is no bride price, but this is not fair to the woman, after all, the woman must have a dowry, after all, the woman must also have a banquet ceremony when she marries her daughter, if these are not accompanied by limb sleepiness, it is too hasty to think about the most important moment of her life.

As long as it's true love, I can accept zero bride price.

I have a good relationship with a colleague who got married without any bride price and is still in negative equity, which has become a good story in our little circle.

After graduating from university, my colleague was assigned to work in a local area, and in a business contact, I met a girl from Chengdu by chance on the Internet, and the two had similar interests and soon reached the temperature of love.

The two are separated by two places, thousands of miles away, and it is inconvenient to travel back and forth. At that time, in 2003, Beijing was suffering from the "SARS epidemic", but this could not prevent each other from loving each other. In order to relieve the pain of lovesickness, my colleague bought a train ticket to Chengdu, put on a mask, and embarked on a journey of chasing love.

It was this meeting that made the relationship between the two heat up rapidly. And living alone for a long time is not a long-term solution, and after 3 months, the two felt that they should get married.

But after all, marriage requires a bride price, it needs expenses, and the economic conditions of colleagues are very poor. So, my colleague tentatively told the other party about the situation, "My parents are not in good health, because they have borrowed some foreign debts for treatment, and they can't get the bride price money for the time being, so I'm afraid it will take a while to get married." ”

Hearing her colleague's words, the girl did not hesitate, and said at the time, "Without a bride price, we can get married, what I fancy is your person, your potential, we can work together." ”

After listening to this, my colleague was moved. The girl's parents also agreed, respecting the girl's decision.

So, in July 2003, my colleague rushed to Chengdu with his household registration booklet, and the day after arriving, the two applied for a marriage certificate at the local civil affairs bureau. Since then, this beautiful girl has become the wife of a colleague and the lover of her life.

Due to the rush to Chengdu, I had time to buy a wedding ring in the future, and after receiving the certificate, my colleague proposed to buy a ring, but my wife did not agree, saying that I would save some money and keep it to buy firewood, rice, oil and salt. Once again, the colleague was touched by his wife's true love, and at the same time felt deeply guilty.

The two did not set up a wedding banquet, but only informed relatives, friends and colleagues of the good news through SMS messages on their mobile phones, and received full blessings.

If the man does have certain financial conditions, it is understandable to properly prepare the bride price within the scope of his ability. With the bride price, it can not only play the role of "granary" at the beginning of the establishment of the small family, but also reflect the man's love and sincerity, and can also have a lot of "face", which is a great joy for all.

However, if the man's economic situation is average or poor, there is no need to force it. If the woman insists on exceeding the man's requirements, it is easy to cause the man's dissatisfaction, or conflict, or even break up. Marriage is originally the result of mutual love, and the relationship cannot be ruined because of the bride price, which is more than worth the loss.

We always believe that true love is better than everything and more than a bride price. Marriage marks the official beginning of eternal true love between the two, so in front of true love, the bride price is nothing.

From the bride price is the best way to see the other party's attitude towards you and the other party's character, because the bride price is not a small number of people, the marriage agreed by the parents is not necessarily happy, but the marriage that the parents do not agree to is difficult to be happy, they have experienced more than us, and the eyes of people will be more accurate, so you still have to listen to the opinions of the family.

If your parents' bride price is even lower than the average bride price for weddings in your area, then you need to think more carefully.

1. It is not very desirable for a woman not to want a man's bride price when she gets married, that is to say, when she gets married, she has to charge a certain amount of bride price from the man, no matter how much the bride price is given, this is a form, just like the three media and six hires said in ancient times, which can also reflect the importance that the man's family attaches to the woman, so the girl must receive the bride price when she marries herself.

2. Talking about the bride price alone, he directly accompanies the gesture to show that the man attaches importance to the woman, if the man's family is very welcome to the woman to join their family, then the bride price will definitely be given, which is also an important form of welcome.

3. And we all know that most of the woman's parents will let their daughters bring this part of the money to the man's house in the form of a dowry after receiving the bride price, so the bride price will eventually go to the newlyweds as family funds to help a new family.

4. And for the bride price, we should be more inclined to a form, he can measure whether the man really loves the woman, if the man is not even willing to give the bride price, how can the woman be happy after marriage?