My father is 49 years old, and he always thinks about what it was like to suffer when he was a child

My dad is like this, a big man, he remembers the bittersweet every day, and the people who listen to it are very depressed. But in fact, it is also very normal, their era has suffered more or less, experienced drastic social changes, and the impact on personal thinking is particularly great, plus now that the conditions are good, the old people have nothing to do, so they will be particularly nagging. We should be considerate of our children who are painstaking, and talk about my coping methods:

1. Teach him to chat online, watch the news, play games, etc., and forget to nag when he and some other fox friends chat on the Internet (recently he has become obsessed with playing chess on the Internet); 2. Listen to him but you shouldn't get along, and you will get bored over time; 3. Use mothers or children as shields; 4. Change the topic and talk about some very serious but empty topics;

In fact, the most effective way, I personally think that it is better to help him find something to do, even if it is housework, planting flowers and raising birds, etc., he is just bored.

1. "I say every day that I live for my two children" is to make you pay attention to him, maybe he is an introvert, he feels a little lonely, and wants you to talk to him more.

2. "Keep talking about how you suffer when you are young, and how difficult it is to live this kind of life now" on the one hand, I want you to work hard, and on the other hand, I want to attract your attention.

3. "It's been almost half a month since this state was in this state", I guess something caused it, think about it carefully.

It is recommended to communicate with your father more and understand his thoughts in order to find a good solution.

Is it menopause, is he still sick, help him find a nursing home, talk to some elderly people, talk to some old people, get a sense of identity, or find a nanny to complain and complain.

Be lonely, spend more time with him, or take him out more.

Let your dad find something to do.

The Spring Festival in the 60s was unforgettable. On weekdays, coarse grains are hard to see meaty, and the rich and strong pink meat dumplings on Chinese New Year's Eve look extraordinarily fragrant; There is no pocket money on weekdays, and a paper lantern during the Spring Festival, buying a windmill, even if you visit the factory and buy nothing, can make children happy for a year; On weekdays, parents and children are isolated, and it is a blessing in life to be able to have a reunion dinner, even if it is just radish and cabbage.

Collectivity is characteristic of the Spring Festival. Unit invoices to watch movies, organize amusement parties, group worship, street uniform invoice certificates, purchase books, and organize cleaning. Pushing open different doors, the dishes on each table are similar, the furniture in each room is similar, the clothes are similar, and the desire for life is similar.

Wear homemade new clothes, greet each other, paste homemade couplets, ask others for sugar, walnuts, and dried fruits during New Year's greetings, kill chickens and sheep, eat reunion dinners, celebrate the New Year, and visit temple fairs.

Answer hello, the older generation of our side celebrates the Spring Festival Generally like this: 3-5 days before the start of dust removal (cleaning the house, changing the bedding. Then buy New Year's goods and prepare New Year's supplies such as window grilles.

Chinese New Year's Eve morning get up and go out Set off firecrackers Have breakfast After breakfast Start to welcome the God of Wealth Write couplets and paste blessing characters Prepare ingredients and start preparing tribute Around 12 o'clock at noon Arrange tribute Then prepare lunch Be sure to have fish Chicken and meat Meaning "every year there is more and more than there is more" Then start preparing dumplings Making dumplings Chinese New Year's Eve Set off firecrackers Wear new clothes Welcome the New Year Eat dumplings Finally, eat dumplings on the morning of the first day of the New Year Go to relatives to pay New Year's greetings.

。。。We're just setting it up now ...

I have a lot of happy childlike fun in my life, but my father's childhood is different from my childhood, today, I will tell you about my different childhood from my father. After Dad finished talking for a while, he saw that I was eating well, and he didn't say anything. After the meal, I suddenly became curious to hear what I ate for dinner when I was a child, so I asked:

Dad, what did I eat when I was a kid? Dad told me, "You were happier than I was." This is my childhood that is different from my father's, my childhood was happy and happy, and my father's childhood was poor and hard.

I should cherish the good time I have to study.

When I was a child, it was very festive, everyone had a reunion dinner together, it was difficult to eat good things at that time, so the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner was the most attractive, after eating, chatting and watching TV, setting off firecrackers and ceremonial flowers.

The troubles of the parents' teenage years.

When we don't have to worry about food and clothing, have a lot of pocket money, and all kinds of toys, we never think about what kind of sorrows and troubles our parents had when they were young. To do this, I interviewed my mom and dad. Here's our conversation:

Me: Mom and Dad, did you have pocket money when you were younger?

Parents: How can there be pocket money, even to buy books, pens, every time you ask your grandparents and grandpa for money, they are very worried, because the family has no money, buy rice and vegetables are very small. Do you know, when my mother was a child, she liked a good-looking hairpin, and her grandparents had no money, so her mother picked up the rags and sold them by herself, and saved enough money to buy them, and my mother was happy at that time!

Me: What were the troubles of my parents when they were young?

Parents: When we were children, the biggest worry was that one day the family would not be able to study because the family had no money and could not study, you don't know, many of my parents' peers could not go to school because the family was too poor and had no money for them.

After interviewing my parents, I was deeply moved, how happy we are now! Therefore, in the future, I must learn to be economical, not to spend money indiscriminately, and to help those children who have no money to study, so that they can study hard and contribute to the construction of the motherland like us children in the city!

I don't have money to buy toys or sell books, my family is too poor to buy anything, and my learning conditions are too poor.

This is a question that should be asked to parents.

The times are different, and the problems are different.

Not enough to eat, no money to go to school, financial difficulties. Basically, meat is only eaten once every few months or even a year.

This is domestic violence. But you're past the time limit for accountability.

Don't blame all your character flaws on adults. Because it's useless to complain. It's the solution that matters.

We can read a few more psychology books without having anything to do, especially the chapters for the unconfident, timid, and cowardly. Think with a problem, solve a problem. Slowly dissolve the confused and uninformed parts of your life.

When we understand the real psychological concepts of inferiority and weakness, we will have a way to solve our problems.

Depending on the extent to which you are knocked down, generally speaking, it does not constitute a criminal offense, because the harm is not enough, and at most it is a moral condemnation.

Well, it belongs to domestic violence, and if they are in this situation, you can go and sue them, or talk to them first.

Yes, you can look up the Children's Act.

You have to persevere, you can't back down.

The prodigal son does not change his money...

In fact, the good and the bad have long been in your heart, but you don't dare to face it yourself and dare not act.

Since you care about what others think of you, why not try to change the situation? Why don't you take a serious path in the direction your parents pointed out? Why don't you smile when you see your neighbors and do them a little favor?

You rarely have people who really praise you, you think about the first time someone praised you, what were you thinking at that time, and have you done it now?

In the final analysis, if you spend a lot of time on your studies, pursuits, and ideals, you yourself will not have the time to think about these things in the first place, and secondly, your parents will never question you again when they see you so fulfilling.

Got it? The cause of the problem lies with you, you are too fake and empty !

You should study hard, get an excellent score for your parents, get into a good university, have a good future, and you should repay your parents, good friends, and so on with your actions. After you make it up, no one will scold you, so you can't put your efforts on your lips, Yaao uses action! Come on

The rebellious period is a necessary process, you begin to have your own opinions, which is a good thing, but you also have to take your time to think about the adults, in their world, there are still a lot of things that you have not been exposed to, and you don't understand yet, talk to your parents more about your thoughts, be more patient, when you understand their world, everything will be fine.

For learning, you always don't have persistence and patience, and attitude is also one thing.

Do you feel guilty every time you quarrel with your parents? Are you one of those people who want to learn but can't learn or are not interested in learning at all?

If it's just a matter of wondering, then I can tell you that if you want to send them something at that time, forget it......They ate candy cubes ...... as childrenThat's it! Your parents should be about forty, when I was a child, there were more snacks, in addition to sugar cubes, instant noodles were also born, sorbet (that is, ice cream), and the rest are wooden.

13 years old. It depends on their family situation.

Most of them don't have much to eat.

It's already pretty good to have a full stomach. A little pasta、Rice is already very happy。

When my grandparents were young, they had a hard life and didn't have any snacks, and my parents were like candy cubes and fruit dan peels when they were young.

Tree bark (really a kind of food, I'm not funny), spicy plum, brushed sugar, turned sugar, maltose... It's different from place to place.