How to correctly understand and handle interpersonal relationships Ideology and morality

First of all, you must learn to respect others, so that others will respect you; Secondly, before doing things, we should first consider whether the consequences will cause damage to the interests of others, or how to do such things to have the best results; Again, don't shirk responsibility, be brave to bear your own mistakes, dare to face the results and actively guide them to the good side, so as to avoid leading to the worst results; Finally, don't blame others at every turn or want to use your own will to divert the will of others, this is the most unacceptable, strong people will never be loved!

Being strict with oneself and being kind to others is the foundation of being a human being. Being strict with oneself means being strict with oneself, establishing correct beliefs, correcting one's own thinking, being good at learning the wisdom of the ancient sages, purifying one's own thoughts, and improving one's own realm. Being kind to others means being loving, and love comes from a person's good thoughts.

To deal with people, we must know how to appreciate people's strengths and tolerate people's shortcomings. When people come to the world, their relationship with the people around them is nothing more than a kind of fate. We must know how to follow fate and cherish fate in order to cherish blessings.

As long as you have a good relationship, the relationship will be natural and smooth; As long as you have good thoughts, your state of mind will also improve.

The ancients summarized two good methods for understanding people: "Five Views" and "Eight Questions".

The so-called "five views" refer to: a look at what kind of people the other party usually comes into contact with; Second, after the other party has money, they spend the money on **; When the other party has status, he generally admires what kind of person he admires; Look at what the other party did when their status was very low; Five views on whether the other party did anything bad when he had no money or not.

"Eight questions" refers to: one question: ask the other party directly to see how the other party's verbal expression ability is; Second question:

Ask him how adaptable he is; Three questions: secretly put a spy next to the other party to see how loyal the other party is; Four questions: ask knowingly to see whether the other party is honest or not; Five questions:

Look at how he usually spends his money; Six questions: to see what kind of attitude he has towards other members of the opposite sex, and whether he likes to mess with flowers and grass; Seven questions: through ordinary observation, see how his courage is; Eight questions:

See what happens to the other party when they are drunk, and whether they will do something out of shape.

The above is how the ancients searched for virtuous people, but this method is also applicable to today's daily interactions. Hope this method will help you! ~~

Interpersonal relationships are direct psychological relationships that are established between people in their interactions. Its characteristics include individuality, immediacy, and emotion.

Interpersonal relationship refers to the relationship between people, in a process of attraction, rejection, cooperation, competition, leadership, obedience and other interactions between each other through thoughts, feelings and behaviors, and in a broad sense, it also includes cultural system models and social relations.

It is mainly manifested in people's psychological distance, personal psychological tendency towards others and corresponding behaviors. The harmony or disharmony of the two parties in terms of personality, attitude, emotion, etc., mutual attraction or mutual exclusion will inevitably lead to the intimacy or alienation of the interpersonal relationship between the two parties.

The factors that affect the closeness of interpersonal relationships are:

1. The distance is far and near. The closer people are to each other geographically, the more likely it is to interact with each other and establish close ties with each other.

2. Frequency of communication. The more interactions and contacts you have, the easier it is to form close relationships.

3. Similarity of concepts. People share common ideals, beliefs, values, and outlook on life, and if they have the same or similar views or viewpoints on certain issues, it is easier to form close relationships.

4. Consistency of interests and hobbies. People with similar interests and hobbies not only have a common language, but also talk speculatively, and each other can learn and be inspired by each other, so it is easy to form close interpersonal relationships.