What should I do if my 10 year old daughter has a lot of trouble?

A 10-year-old child is in the prelude to puberty, and it is not a very strange thing for a child to be preoccupied, but for the sake of the child's physical and mental health, parents should still pay attention. In order for the child to be a sunny and cheerful person in the future, parents should let the child open his heart, and not fall into contemplation and think about some messy things. Our family Dabao is a girl, 10 years old at the age of the fifth grade, in school to learn a lot of things, know the hard work of parents, their teacher said that when you go back, you can help your mother sweep the floor, Dabao will help pick vegetables when she comes back, and watch me stir-fry on the side, and has become a good child.

I myself think that I have a good relationship with my husband, and I occasionally quarrel with a few words in private, and I don't make a lot of noise in front of my children. In terms of family, I didn't find a big treasure, and I would be worried about family disharmony. Once on the way home to pick up Dabao, I saw that she didn't talk all the way, and she was not happy, Dabao told me about the school, it turned out that she and her friends quarreled over small things, I would tell Dabao to get along with friends to know how to share, not to discuss others in private.

Before returning home, I took a visit to the supermarket to let my children relax. After the child finishes practicing, his free time is like a weekend, and during the holidays, he takes Dabao to the amusement park, shopping, or going to the countryside to participate in some parent-child interactive activities, such as handiwork.

I have seen children in their 10s who suffer from depression, and the family and social upbringing are relatively fine, and the requirements are also very high, so that the children are breathless. Therefore, parents see that their children are worried, regardless of whether they know the reason or not, they should reassure their children that their parents will love you, and it is no big deal. Accept your child's emotions before talking about anything else.

Find out the cause and solve the problem. During the period, you should take matters into account and do not blame the child.

At this time, children, regardless of whether boys and girls are in a "fuzzy" stage of development of things, do not have the ability to judge the good or bad of things very correctly. This is also the process that everyone must go through for physical and mental growth, so we as parents should not only focus on the "score and ranking" of learning. Because these things are not handled well, they also affect children's learning enthusiasm and emotional problems, and the correct thing to do is to care more about children.

Maybe there are some things in my heart that can't be solved, my friend and his family always quarrel, and his children are very worried, and they are always worried about their parents' divorce, so many problems in children can be found from their parents, and they should look in the mirror to see if what they are doing is wrong.

If it's a girl, it's really hard to ask, don't dare to ask, it's useless to ask, and if you ask in a hurry, you will stare at you, even if you want to analyze with her why you have something on your mind, why you're unhappy, even if she says, it's unlikely that she will tell you the truth, so don't ask. Then take her out to play, when she is happy, she will tell you when she wants to open herself, because as long as she wants to open it, she will feel that everything is a trivial matter, and it will be nothing after it has passed.

There are several reasons why the heart is very heavy, first of all, the daughter herself, and the heart has been heavy recently. Secondly, whether there is a lack of communication in the process of educating children, and the girl is reluctant to express what is on her mind, it means that she needs to be patient and guided, first integrate into the child from simple things and life, and don't ask questions directly. Cultivate the child's affection, and gradually she will become cheerful.

10-year-old children walk slowly as if they feel a little hazy growth, do their homework and don't like to talk to others, have a little bit of their own little secrets, little like! It's all normal. The important thing is to still play together, we feel the current state of the child's mentality, sort out their current mentality, and guide the child correctly.

Children have something on their minds, we parents should not take it lightly, we must communicate in a timely manner, find problems, and solve problems. Improve her joie de vivre, go out and walk more together, see, communicate more every day, and let each other fit into a circle. Don't let your child feel lonely and create a relaxed and pleasant family atmosphere.

Take your child out to play, and then look at the opportunity to talk to your child to see if there is something on his mind.

1. Understand the child first. Girls are generally more well-behaved and obedient, and when they find that she suddenly doesn't want to listen to nagging, maybe she has a rebellious mentality and longs for independence. Parents need to understand their child at this time, and when she does something wrong, they need to be considerate of her instead of scolding him.

Therefore, it is necessary to give children more patience and confidence, believing that they can handle various problems on their own.

2. Secondly, criticism should not be allowed to hurt children's self-esteem. Parents should talk to their children calmly, help them realize their mistakes, and let them accept the advice given by their parents. If parents choose the wrong way in the process of communicating with their children, don't worry, girls are sensitive and easily hurt, but they are also easy to feel the love of their father and mother.

3. Finally, care about your child's daily life. Parents can start from the trivial matters of life to the topic and slowly change to the people and things in the school, and finally talk to the child about learning, so that the child will feel that the parents love her as a person, not her grades and studies.

Manifestations of the rebellious period of the girl.

1. Irritability.

When these girls are upset, they will have conflicts with strangers, and even their own family members will have conflicts. When a girl becomes very irritable, she will not only have conflicts with her family, but also with her teachers and classmates.

2. Stubborn and stubborn.

Insist on a specific thing, even if it is the same in appearance; insist on wearing a certain piece of clothing and a certain pair of shoes, even if it is not in season; You must do what you want to do, otherwise you will cry and make a fuss; Sitting on the ground in public and beating people.

3. Contradict your parents.

Parents don't do what they ask for, and the more forbidden things they do, the more they have to do them; Ignore your parents and would rather play by yourself than with your parents.

4. Comparison. There are many manifestations of rebellious psychology in adolescent girls. When girls reach puberty, they buy a lot of things because they compare themselves with each other.

5. Challenge rules and authority.

deliberately breaking the rules that have been set before; New demands are constantly being made; Talk to your parents about the conditions, and you must meet the requirements before you are willing to do things.

6. Depression and inferiority tendency.

Entering adolescence, it is gradually entering the period of social growth, and the surrounding people, things, environment, and atmosphere will affect and determine the growth and maturity of a girl. At this time, the girl is no longer an innocent little girl, and the carefree natural growth period has gradually passed.